...that I am a major fuck-up!
Seriously, had I had even an iota of inclination, I would not have done things that have landed me where I am today.
I could've moved to a small town, sold ice-cream from a dinky little shop and lived a peaceful life. But my totally not supportive brain kept talking to me to pursue the ultra-pro-max-difficult things like science and research! I cry everyday.
Fuck you brain! I wish you the worst.
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This is gonna sound fucked up bc it absolutely was but I only learned that women are people when I was like 15 maybe 16. By that I mean complex and interesting in a way deserving of respect and patience. I was a shitty kid who grew up around a lot of misogyny. Learning this earlier would have saved women in my life a lot of trouble and grief they didn't deserve. There are a lot of people I'll never be able to make it up to and I think about them a lot tbh. I wish I could find 2 of them to atleast say sorry.
On a less consequential note though, I wish I had learned how interesting history can be far earlier. I spend the majority of my undergrad on physics which I liked to think about but didn't actually enjoy doing very often. I struggled heavily compared to my peers especially as I came to realize most of the uses for my degree would betray the morals I was developing at the time. My interest in the subject remained but my motivation to be good at it plummeted. I took an art history course as an elective in my 3rd year and fell in love. Not only was it beautiful and interesting in the mechanical sense but the evolution and variety of human expression was endlessly fascinating. I am a history major now and while some of the romance has faded at the hands of 200 pages of grain and transport statistics I am much happier. It's a wonder I did not realize this sooner to be entirely honest. I am autistic and have always loved obsessing over fictional worlds, knowing everything about them until I ran out of things to know, digesting and regurgitating their lore to anyone who will listen. How I did not see the greatest story right in front of me I will never know. It also ended up being far more alligned with my morals which is a plus.
No worries mate there are still many guys who are far older across generations who never learned to see women as people
So you have them beat by miles
Fully agree with history. Also you should definitely dip into humanities, social studies, and science today. Any subject can be awesome when you really go into it wanting to have fun learning it
I actually pivture fictional worlds the same way you do. I want to make as much of it as I can real too IRL and create my own fictional worlds as well
Way ahead of you, taking an anthropology course rn lol
If you are going to use a modal editor like vim you should probably learn touch typing with the US layout.
It's been a minute but IIRC either vim or one of her close daughters allows us of the vi keys even when typing in Dvorak - if the trigger is bound to the keypress and not the character it's trivial.
I wish I began studying Marxism-Leninism earlier. Would've been pretty helpful.
Didnt need to, got the marks of capital all ober my body...
I am honestly glad I discovered it when I did. Any earlier and I would have been (more) insufferable and my somewhat reactionary family would be aware.
Fair!
set wrap!