volunteer in your local community and meet cool people
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Find a hobby, learn a new skill, keep occupied. That's it, there's not much to it, you're not going to magically feel unbored without keeping active.
are there any hobbys worth getting into? becasue i feel kinda lost.
That's a very personal decision, not one can tell you what makes you tick... Do you like food? Start baking... Do you like anime? Start drawing... Do you like nature? Start hiking... Plants? Start gardening...
Learn a language and go to a language meetup. Yoga or other exercise, martial arts . Cooking and nutrition. Meditation.
I think joining a local league or group with something that interests you. I found curling. The first year you get to know people and even if you end up grouped with people who you donβt 100% click with you will be able to find other people who share an interest and would probably group with you the next year.
Start trying hobbies until you find something you enjoy.
Meditation is probably what you're looking for. It basically teaches you to accept that bored feeling and just feel it. You're probably just seeking out the dopamine hits too much so you need a good reset. I struggle with the same problem sometimes and I definitely need to meditate more.
Go for a walk. It doesnβt matter how long or how far you go but simply getting up and moving resets your mind. Walk in a different direction, listen to some music, podcast or audio book to change things up.
Get in touch with your instincts. If your mind and genome don't agree with what should be done either you get mania (genome gets tricked to funnel libido into strange places), or depression (genome takes away libido to starve away things in the mind it doesn't like).
For starters, sit down and ask "ok, back of my mind, tell me about that boredom and us in general, I'm listening. What's up with that shit". Be wary of wishful thinking. Also, make some sandwiches, some tea, put everything in a backpack and take a walk.
Self-host Lemmy (and a bunch of other stuff).
Read a book. Read another.
Learn an instrument. Youtube is helpful for this.
Start going to the gym, every day.
Have kids. Only partially joking, because I wish I had time to be bored.
Not sure what medications you're taking obviously, but it may be worth researching ADHD. If you often feel bored, struggle greatly with keeping up routines as hard as you try, start new hobbies and quickly lose interest, starting things is very difficult.. those are all symptoms of ADHD.
Another thing, I think, if you maybe stay bored because it feels overwhelming to like, go ride your bike or start something involved, lower your expectations of the activity. Instead of a long bike ride. Take a walk around the block. And any time you might have a small spark of motivation to get moving, take it! Don't wait because that wave may subside and it'll be hard to get started when it's too late.
Now, if you do participate in things, and try new stuff, but you even feel bored then. It may be anhedonia if you feel like you can't access enjoyment. So might be worth looking at different depression or anxiety meds. Anhedonia is a tough one to try and overcome alone