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[–] Lewistrick@feddit.nl 8 points 2 years ago

Take time to be a player of your own life, not just a spectator.

[–] janus2@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 2 years ago
  1. you're right about all the contradictions in the Bible
  2. drop everything and immediately begin learning Java and Python. if you get good enough you can skip college entirely and save years of emotional hell
  3. convince mom to let you quit the instruments you hate playing and do computer extracurriculars instead
  4. buy bitcoin sell in Nov '21 lol (or just invent it)
  5. learn Mandarin Chinese, not Japanese. also maybe chill w/ the weeb shit
  6. move to NYC as soon as you can and DO NOT LEAVE even if there's a scary pandemic because you won't be able to afford to move back and you'll miss it real bad :(
  7. BUY AN EARTHBOUND CARTRIDGE BEFORE THEY BECOME UNOBTAINABLY EXPENSIVE 😭
[–] Marcbmann@lemmy.world 8 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Get your thyroid checked out. Turns out major depressive disorder can be brought on by hypothyroidism. Who knew?

[–] blindbunny@lemmy.ml 8 points 2 years ago

Your dad is a piece of shit. Find a mentor before your too old and you have to figure it all out by yourself.

[–] LoamImprovement@beehaw.org 8 points 2 years ago (2 children)

The things she says will confuse and frustrate you. She will pretend to love and care for you. She will abuse you. She will hurt you. She will threaten you and manipulate you. She will try to make you believe it's your fault. She will make you question whether you really experienced the things that happened to you. She will lean on you. She will expect and even demand things of you that no mother should ask of their child.

Go and build a network of support. Look at how other kids behave with their families. Yours is not normal or healthy. You are not a checked box on somebody's list. You are not a trophy to be paraded around. You are not her friend or her therapist. You are not a dog to be whipped into obedience. You are your own person. She will never give you the stability you need or the love you deserve.

There will be times that you will not feel safe. You will get out. You'll find friends who will shelter you, couches to sleep on. They see your pain. They understand. It will be okay. It does get better. I love you, and you will learn to love yourself.

And hey, it's not all doom and gloom, yeah? The games are so fucking good. Like there's a lot of trash but there's story and writing in some of these that's so profound and it brings you so much joy. I know it'll be hard to believe at times, but it's worth sticking around.

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[–] Chai@lemmy.ml 7 points 2 years ago (1 children)

Dad dies when you're 23. Mom is mentally ill, don't ruin yourself trying to save her. Buy bitcoin!

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[–] cubedsteaks@lemmy.today 7 points 2 years ago

You think being a Jehovah's Witness is bad? Pro tip, move in with dad but don't be his friend. Don't fall for any kind of "modeling" scam he pulls on you.

[–] mkeee2015@lemm.ee 7 points 2 years ago

Tell her you love her. You won't be harmed, even if she doesn't feel the same.

[–] masto@lemmy.masto.community 7 points 2 years ago

Nah, you're good.

[–] VonReposti 7 points 2 years ago
[–] mustbe3to20signs@feddit.de 7 points 2 years ago

In a few years there will be something called Bitcoins, buy them, like a lot. Double what you think of and sell them 2021.

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 7 points 2 years ago

You will miss your family, lose your friends, and your home will be taken from you.

[–] Moose@moose.best 7 points 2 years ago

Stay away from weed and you'll get to live your dream.

[–] antlion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 2 years ago

Eh forget about that man. Despite sharing his name, he’s not even your real biological father. Family is about more than genetics.

[–] daddyjones@lemmy.world 7 points 2 years ago

When you finish college - keep making/playing/studying music. Play more rugby - when you're too old to play you'll wish you had. Don't sell your mandolin or your acoustic guitar. You'll regret them both in later years. Buy bitcoin.

[–] RIPandTERROR@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 years ago

God isn't real

Buy Bitcoin ASAP and have a prepping plan

Your family doesn't care for you

[–] bfg9k@lemmy.world 6 points 2 years ago

Punch that fucker Liam right in his smug face, he's a little bitch and is all talk, and you miss the chance once he goes to jail.

Keep going with your Euphonium practice, or you'll forget it all and you're really good at it.

Don't be scared to ask for stuff you need, you aren't imposing on anyone and nobody is going to hate you for it.

[–] zeusbottom@sh.itjust.works 6 points 2 years ago

Hold on for just a couple more years. I know it will seem like an eternity, and I know the damage that has been done. But you will be moving to a much better place.

[–] PelicanPersuader@beehaw.org 6 points 2 years ago

It gets better. Seriously. You will find your people and be happy. It's just gonna take about seven or eight more years. I promise, life is worth living and you're gonna do great.

[–] sag@lemm.ee 5 points 2 years ago

You are beautiful.

[–] qyron@sopuli.xyz 5 points 2 years ago

"You are not responsible; you were loved and wanted. Don't lower your head. Dare to speak your mind. Don't be afraid to tell others what you go through. You are going to be a bigger person than you expect."

[–] LongPigFlavor@lemmy.ml 5 points 2 years ago

Your parents getting divorced and you should tell your parents to get you diagnosed for autism. Especially since we used to be mute when we were younger and we were also in special ed and rode the short bus.

[–] fushuan@lemm.ee 5 points 2 years ago

carry on, life is great. Endure and you will be happy. It suck right now but you will spend way more time happy than sad.

[–] candle_lighter@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago
[–] HeneryHawk@thelemmy.club 4 points 2 years ago

Little me, you haven't got the time to hear it

[–] bluebadoo@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago (3 children)

There will be a time when manipulative charisma will feel strangely like love and home. Don’t listen, learn what real love feels like.

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[–] Firemyth@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago

Your life isn't going to be "normal" and it's not your fault. You are going to be different and it's not because you are better or worse. just different. Just do your best and that's all anyone can want from you.

[–] geco2@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

Don't stop Martial Arts training!

[–] KrimsonBun@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago
[–] Rocky60@lemm.ee 4 points 2 years ago

Say no more often.

[–] BonesOfTheMoon@lemmy.world 4 points 2 years ago

Run away from home and stay gone as soon as you can. Never talk to your parents again.

[–] lemminator@lemmy.ml 4 points 2 years ago

Please don't let your dad marry that cunt who'll become your absolute doom in the future. She may seem nice and warm but it's a fucking facade. She's a fucking cunt and they will destroy every inch of happiness you have.

[–] 1993_toyota_camry@beehaw.org 4 points 2 years ago

Don't worry about school, don't go to university. Just work any job and buy the first house you can possibly afford.

[–] cynetri@midwest.social 4 points 2 years ago

Programming is really not as hard as it looks to start, just don't start with C++ for the love of god lmao

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