Alice

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[–] Alice@beehaw.org 4 points 9 hours ago (2 children)

I guess it's more of a Tumblr term. It refers to when someone starts typing really sloppily to signify they're having a breakdown.

I guess it's kind of a mean term but I really think people should walk away from the keyboard if they get to that point.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 4 points 10 hours ago (4 children)

That's so mean! I wish people were nicer about stammers, and speech impediments in general. When I got my first service job, I had a handful of customers like that, and I got a glimpse of how much it affects their daily lives. People got impatient and walked away from customers and hung the phone up on them all the time, they were excluded from everything just because they didn't speak as clearly.

And that's just what I noticed from waiting on customers. If they're friends, why isn't OP empathetic?

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 10 hours ago

Oh that sounds like a nightmare! I'm not even attractive for a heterosexual woman (I'm a short, chubby, muscle-dyke-in-training with a missing front tooth) and I still have random straight guys try to get in my pants. If I end up "dating" one, we're both gonna be disappointed.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 13 hours ago

Back when I wore it long, the problem was getting it in my pants?? How did I have that problem but not getting it in my mouth

 

Title. I signed up for a queer speed dating event recently and I have no idea what to expect. Not really looking for a how-to guide, just curious about others' experiences. Was it fun, would you do it again, did you meet anyone cool... That sort of thing!

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 5 points 17 hours ago

Narcissism, like all personality disorders, is a trauma response and also not indicative of someone's moral character as you can get help and learn not to act on your worst inclinations.

Asshole is a behavior.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 16 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Women being murdered over their sexual unavailability rarely happens, so it's perfect for a community about "odd and quirky" news stories.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 4 points 1 day ago

Oh yeah, gastropods are lousy with parasites. All that slime keeps them outside the body, which is good for the gastropod, but means if I find a snail on my produce I'm nuking the whole thing from orbit.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 15 points 1 day ago (5 children)

Everyone's saying bots but I think some of it is human-generated ragebait. Like that person who posted twice like "why did my friend block me" with screenshots of them devolving into crytyping as they tell said friend how stupid they are for being autistic.

(I took that bait, don't judge, it was cathartic 😔)

As for why, I couldn't tell you. Maybe they're not getting enough engagement on Reddit anymore or maybe it's not fun because Reddit already hates autistic people and will side with them. Who knows.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 1 day ago

I've never seen anyone win an argument. What would that even look like? What's the goal?

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 1 points 1 day ago

She's not your friend if you hate her, think she's stupid, insult her disability, and compare her to a dog and a robot.

Ironic you think autistic people are stupid but you have to ask why someone would block you over this shit.

FYI, you're not special enough for the whole wide world to be out to get you. Friends checking in on each other is normal.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 1 day ago

Not great. I'm really lethargic lately. I don't think I've done one thing for leisure, it's all just cook/gym/work/sleep. Any second I'm not doing what's necessary to maintain my body or my paycheck, I'm out cold.

My therapist had an emergency so we've had to delay the session by quite a bit. I have some social engagements coming up and I wanted to talk with her before canceling them. I think I'll just do it, I don't think I feel like meeting people.

[–] Alice@beehaw.org 2 points 6 days ago

Rainy week. Shirley's upset because I won't make it stop raining for her walks.

Basically she meows at the door, I leash her up and take her out, she's appalled by the rain and drags me back inside, resumes meowing at the door.

I have stepped on and a few of her toys lately, so I bought her some new ones. Hopefully she's able to entertain herself indoors for a little while now, because most days I come home from work and she's hyper and stressed.

 

A paper published Monday in Nature Medicine found that the tiny fragments of plastic are passing the blood-brain barrier and into human brains, and the amount of microplastics in the brain appears to be increasing over time. The concentration of microplastics in analyzed brains rose by about 50 percent from 2016 to 2024.

 

Genuinely can't figure out how other people develop active social lives. The most common advice I get is to look on Meetup, but I found pretty much one group and while I had fun, halfway through the event they started making fun of liberals for not having friends. I'm genderqueer so that ain't gonna work out. Everything else on Meetup is scientology garbage.

I go out and do things on my own and try to be open to people who approach me, but on the rare occasion someone wants to talk to me it's because they're horny and they've mistaken me for a straight woman. I can be out in the mud picking up litter and someone will strike up a conversation about the environment, something I'm interested in, and it turns out it's because they think I'm doing this to get the D.

I'm getting crazy bored. Does everyone just work a 9-5 and then go home alone? Except for when they have sex with the occasional random straight man??

 
 
 

I tried /r/suicidewatch on that other site, but even though I made it clear that I was looking for advice and encouragement, the only two replies I got were in agreement that it doesn't get better. 😐 /r/depression is even worse by the look of it.

Does anyone know of any good websites, or is it the nature of all of them that they just turn into a crabs-in-the-bucket nightmare? I'm trying to get better but it also gets isolating pretending I'm not depressed all the time.

 
 

Never done this before, turned out to be a lot of fun :)

 

I'm 30 and horrible at keeping friends. I don't know if it's the unschooling or the autism, but I'm told I come across as hostile when I think I'm being nice.

I know the basics. I make eye contact but not too much, I ask people about themselves and their interests to show I'm interested, I don't dominate conversations with myself and my own interests. I try to be a nice person people might want to keep around, too— I give money when someone's in a pinch, I remember birthdays, I help move, et cetera.

Eventually people either people tell me I'm being a dick in ways I never realized, or more likely, they just eventually stop messaging me back.

The one thing I'm sure I struggle with is body language. I've read a lot that you need to mirror the other person's body language, but I don't know how to do that. Especially since I normally meet people at work and we're usually pushing big carts around and moving products and I'm just not thinking about my body as something expressive, just practical.

I'm sure I have many more blind spots that I'm not even aware of.

So like... are there classes for this? Some kind of specialized therapy? I don't really want to try anymore unless I can stop being a dick

 
 
 

‘Family values’ bill is adopted despite being denounced by the president, rights groups and the European Union.

Kesaria Abramidze, a trans model, was murdered the day after the bill passed. Even if the president vetos it, this law already has a body count.

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