ChamelAjvalel

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submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world to c/mentalhealth@lemmy.world
 

As in another post a few days ago, I had mentioned that my wife was kicking me out, now it's wanting me gone, but I can stay a while longer. Anyway, my health is on its way down again, as it does. A couple pains really sore, a few more highly exhausting, and the NSAID GERD is making me terribly dizzy. Oof!

anyhoo, starting to forget things which means she's getting a little more harsh. So far it's a joking kind of anger, so not too bad, but I'm afraid it's coming, O_o.

Yesterday I left a wrapper on her computer, and had set out a couple old computers for a nephew to pick up. Today it was leaving a curtain open and I don't remember moving the couch out a few inches either, o_O. Oof!

Ringing in my ear is pretty loud, too. Oh, so dizzy.

I did see the doctor a few days ago, but I don't have a good feeling about this one. At least she'll get a ct of my stomach area, so fingers crossed I can get something done with the dizziness, as that's worse than most of my pains at the moment.


Yeah, this dizziness is getting worse rather than better. Words starting to slur, and eyesight has a slight haze to it.


Ate the wrong thing. Breathing fairly difficult. Bringing up a lot of phlegm. Dizziness really really bad...so tired, too. Falling asleep while sitting at my desk. This dizzy spell sucks, also means I won't be able to go to the sanctuary to visit my kitties. ☹


Early the next morning. Dizziness still bad, pains still bad, and she already threw a piece of trash at me that I have no idea where it came from. Hell, I'm so sore.

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Somewhere in the OP you mentioned NSAID’s which are what I get prescribed - the one I have is called diclofenac and it’s stronger than ibuprofen but there are even stronger ones too.

Oh, no no no no! I was prescribed two NSAIDs back in Oct of 21, and only took them for two weeks. The issues I got from them haven't stopped since. High blood pressure, difficulty breathing (They've at least added almost the same amount if not more issues as my smoking had up to that time. Constantly coughing up sugary, salty phlegm), and about a year ago an off-and-on pain just below my front ribs (All across), oh, and dizziness...really really really bad dizziness...Used to be worse than my pains, but I think that's changing.

Oh, and a doctor prescribed omeprozole to help with the stomach and lungs in February of 22, and I gained almost 20 pounds in one month...I have only gained that much weight that fast once in my lifetime, and that's when I attempted to quit smoking in 99 or 98. Only recently have I finally gone under 200 lbs, but I'm still 5 away from my heaviest, and 10 from my weight before I took the omeprozole.

Which is one thing I'm seriously worried about, the first two years my lungs would clear up once in a while, and I could breathe normally, but about mid to late 2023 they have not gone back to being that good at all. No matter how I feel. I really need to get screened, but of course, I finally get the nerve to stand up for myself and setup a doctors appointment, now I have to find a whole new way to live, yeesh!

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Don't know. Every time I tried saving money for the mri, I'd get snapped at about not helping out, to which I'd cave and blow what I'd save. But I know what caused most of them, Furniture Delivery. Tore a muscle or tendon in my left arm, meniscus tear in my left knee. At least two or three parts of my back are from that, too. The worst spot in my upper spine is the only odd one out. Probably caused from carrying backpacks of books from my youth.

This morning almost my whole back feels like it's on fire, and my upper spine hurts like hell. Oof, and I think my knee and arm hurt a bit, but are drowned out by my back.

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago

Alrighty, I finally told her I know. So now maybe she'll stop getting so angry, and I can keep focusing on trying to find a job, and making my resume better. I really screwed up giving up so often trying to please her, as I've got diddly squat for skills (for non-physical labor), so this is going to be hell. O_o.

Unless I can find a botanical garden that needs someone without skills that knows a lot about ferns, 🤣 .

Man, I have a lot of knowledge in my head, assembly & c programming, wiring up houses, woodworking (carpentry, design, etc), hell I bet I could have learned cad in just a few months, but alas, NOOOOOOO! I'm 50 now, me brain no learn well any more, and I'm in too much pain to be able to do much for the 8 hours needed. FFS! 😠

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Nope. I realized back in 2018 that she really doesn't know me. She's never seen that I like to clean, and that throughout my life with these pains I've tried so hard to find ways to keep the house clean, and she'd always get mad at me for it (Justifiably and not at the same time).

Which, unfortunately, giving up so often has really caused a huge problem, learned behavior is going to be troubling to deal with. Meh, if I don't get something done with my pains (Or a safer job found) and the issues solved from the NSAIDs, the "bad learned behavior" is going to be the least of my problems.

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Eh, because I didn't throw a piece of trash away. Or I don't have a job. Or I don't do anything around the house (Yeah, the house is a blasted mess, but every time I feel good I clean, and rare times my body let's me clean thoroughly), I don't fix things in a timely manner. Or because I'm lying about my pains. Or because her dad told her to. Lots of reasons actually. A few deserved, most not, though. This has actually been ongoing since we got together. "Like father, like son", or "Cats in the cradle", or "sins of the father", you might say.

 

My wife is definitely trying to drum up the courage to kick me out. There's no other reason for that kind of anger. Yeah, it's the same things she's always gotten mad at me for, but not like this. It's forced, not her normal anger. I may have a job to escape to, but holy hell, I am in so...much...pain, and I only sat here off and on trying to find other jobs. Oof! I am so worried these pains will make it impossible to juggle a job and survive. Contrary to what my family believes, these pains are not fake. I am not lying about them. They are horrible. OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuch!

Erf! Sorry, this is just a rant. My mind is shot when these pains shoot up this high.

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Ooh! Hmm! I'll have to look into them.

And wouldn't you know it, indeed now makes you enter in a phone number. I may not have this phone for long as it's not under my name, 😶

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago

I don't know anyone, and all my family that I could live with would be about as bad as my wife has been to me. I do have that job lined up and a possible place to stay, which it turns out I may be able to do part time and afford the place, so I can attempt to get a remote job during it (as long as my pains don't get too uncontrollable. Else, I'll become a mindless zombie, 😶 and blow all my money on expensive food as I won't be able to control my finances. The pains are really that extreme).

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 16 points 1 month ago

I'd like to, but I need a home first, and if I stayed here, I wouldn't have the mental capacity to be able to perform a remote job, 😬 . So first things first, need money to pay for a place to stay. Then I can attempt that.

 

Even if I'm not getting kicked out (though, I don't know what else it could be considering her conversation with her father), I still need out. She's been extremely angry towards me, more so than usual, so I better get gone.

Since I'm right smack dab in the center I can go anywhere. I may have an opportunity for an apartment maintenance job, but I'm very worried about my pains not allowing me to do it. I can become seriously uncontrollable when they get bad, which I can be dangerous to be around. So I really need something that's very nonphysical. (Standing, sitting, walking, doesn't matter. They all can hurt excessively after 5 minutes or several hours, very erratic).

Also, I'll need to find real non-kill shelters or homes for my cats. I have four indoor (one of which will need to be put down), and one outdoor cat. They've been all fixed. So that would need to be en route to wherever I go, too.

These are the things I have that I can sell en route that should be able to make the transition easier (as I really can't just eat anything after some NSAID side effects).

  1. Math books: https://imgur.com/a/math-books-U3N1Xus
  2. Native Flutes and tools: https://imgur.com/a/tools-flutes-DDnbvHv
  3. Computers: https://imgur.com/a/fqA0NVp

Ok, with all that said, anyone know of any jobs that might not be so physically demanding in your neck of the woods? Or deserts?

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Oh, there are definitely things, but unfortunately they are dwarfed by that I got my multiple chronic pains early on in our relationship, and her culture views people who don't work full time as being lazy. So, she pretty much has spent no time with me in these 25 years, and doesn't really know much about me. Then all the other things that go along with that, cemented her opinions.

Eh, to give an example (Not one of the really severe ones. Oh there are some bad ones), when the pains started up I attempted to make chores lists for me, her, and the kids. Nothing difficult, pick up 5 things once a day. Wash two/three/four dishes. Pull up a chair and sit with me to keep my mind off of my pains. Her reasoning was since I didn't work (both full time and not at all), and they worked or went to school, they didn't have to help. Plus, for the kitchen, since she never asked for me to make home cooked meals, they didn't have to help me clean up the kitchen.

Have you considered maybe leaving this situation?

Oh yeah. That's why I'm here now, unfortunately. I attempted to leave in 2017, but I forced myself to work full time as an electrician. Now, granted, electrical work is easy. Really really really easy work, but the three years doing furniture delivery between 2000-2002 made everything hard. Doesn't matter what it is, sitting, standing, walking, or laying down. Everything is hard. Well, when I pushed myself for full time it broke my body to the point where I have not been able to be comfortable since. Then in 21, out of desperation I took the NSAIDs a doctor prescribed me, which made things so much worse.

And with that, I have to be extremely cautious about what I do, if I can even find a job. Someone here has made an offer, and for a healthy individual, it'd be nothing. Probably the easiest job they'd ever have, but for me, it's going to be really really hard. It's going to be like the most stressful and painful day most people have had at least once a year, every...single...day...hour...minute...

There's no escape.

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago

Ok, I could part with the HP pavillion and my toshiba laptop, as long as I had a place to put a desktop, but those two can't be worth more than $150, $200 maximum.

These are things I was (sort of) allowed to collect over my working years. I was berated every time I saved money, so I had used these things as ways of attempting to make money. I just didn't count on the home environment making that almost impossible.

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

OOOOH! I had completely forgotten about the things I've collected over the years (in preparation for the pains being too great to work)...I could always sell them on route somewhere.

I've got at least about $600 worth of Native American style flutes (total spent is much higher, though, and was planning on leaving them for my nieces and nephews).

Also, I've got a lot of tools, Makita cordless (eh, probably about $200, $450 at maximum. They are old), Sroll saw, belt sander, stationary belt sander, cheap drill press (Probably not worth more than $250 to $400...They are definitely not the best machines...Well, except for the two belt sanders, however, there both worth no more than about $80, O_o).

Math books, though, they'd only bring about $100 to $175 (Number theory, combinatorics, abstract, linear mostly).

What else do I have? Not my computers...Those are about the only things that my body allows me to enjoy regularly, 🙁 . I do have some miniature cat trees for dollhouses I used to make. If I can sell those at full price, en route, that could bring about $175.

So there's a chance I could make it a month or two, 🤔 .

 

Hoo boy! She's been extra hateful and mean to me for the past few days, and the latest ammunition I've given her is not fixing the screen door (and/or screwing it up) to her liking. My chronic pains and the medicinally induced GERD (dizziness, extra pains, ringing in my ear) have not been helping, so what happens? She snaps at me about fixing the door, and so I do (which, yielding to her abuse doesn't exactly make anything better, 🙄 ), and I just found out a moment ago I screwed it up again. The damn main door handle will latch onto the screen door handle. I really really did not feel like working on it today, and I shouldn't have, pppp! Welp, I can expect to hear her scream in the morning when she leaves.

Again, if anyone has a business somewhere one or two states away from Kansas and is looking for a broken man (physically and mentally), I'm your guy, 🤣 🤣 🤣 Oh hell! Am glad that I fixed a lot of my stress a few years ago, else I'd be a complete wreck right now, yeesh!

 

Welp, this group just popped up in my feed not long after finishing this for my granddaughter. It must be a sign, heh.

Godzilla aproves.

Unfortunately, there was quite a bit of puckering when I affixed the bias tape in the sleeve holes, meh, just have to wait and see how it looks when I can give it to her.

Also, found these buttons in a stash we had, and only one of them is upright correctly, heh. Meh, it'll be hidden by her hair, so not a big problem.

[–] ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world 3 points 7 months ago

I have started getting pissed at people who snap at someone "Don't necro this post" (Or any of the numerous other things they say), on information that is well outdated that could fucking seriously use an updated answer.

End rant...I'd prefer not, though...I want to keep this rant going.

 

I keep forgetting about the Lemmy groups, and my health sucks, so this post is just trying to make my addled brain remember these groups, heh.

Anyhoo, this project is for my elder son (if anyone remembers the Vault Boy one I made for my younger son a few months back), and I'm attempting a few new tricks.

  1. I stapled this monks cloth to a painting frame. It does look like I'll need to do some tightening once I'm done, though. So I hope I can figure that out.
  2. I painted the outside, eyes, and mouth, and I do like how the mouth and eyes make the fabric pop.
  3. I found a larger needle that came with a kit on one heck of a sale at Hobby Lobby, and that is what I'm using. However, it is a tad too large for the yarn I got. So quite a bit of it looks rather frazzled, :thinking:.
  4. And I'm attempting (all-be-it a poor one) flow. (I have no idea what the proper term would be, heh, but it's where the thread leans in one direction, or flows along a line so each row...erm...flows with every other row. (Oof! Well hopefully you can understand that gibberish, HAH).

Meh, regardless of the issues (and boy can I not draw worth snot) it still looks pretty darn good. Now for the body...:grimacing:...The proportions are just a tad off, but it'll have to do.


woops! Guess I didn't post about the Vault Sweet Vault here...Well, here's that one.

 

I've been using one of the Pandora services, but I've been getting a little annoyed with the stations (which I presume I would get the same annoyance from other services, too). So I'd like to be able to create a station and add songs that I own and that wouldn't normally be in that station. (And I know you can add artists to the stations, but some artists only have a few songs I like, and I surely don't want the station inundated with similar artists of the music I don't like. Shudder the thought, 😬 ).

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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world to c/lemmy_stitch@sh.itjust.works
 

First time doing an odd shaped fabric thingy, so the edges aren't too great. Plus, didn't figure out a better method of punching around the outlines til close to the end...Meh, still makes us all giggle like school children, heh.

Oh, if anyone knows of a video tutorial on folding over, shaping, and gluing monks cloth with odd shapes (i don't have this issue with softer fabrics)...I'd be so thankful, heh. I just could not get it to work, so I just gave up and rubbed marker over the edges.


Forgot to mention what I used.

Lavor needle with the largest needle in the package.
The black yarn is sport weight "I Love This Yarn" (the maximum this needle could handle).
The white is an unknown we had in our stash, and a faint thinner than the black.
Artiste Monks cloth, 1yd x 62in. (unknown thread count, purchased from Hobby Lobby).


And here is the frame I made.

This is the second frame I made, and since I used my table saw to cut the dowel, it left a large gap, to which I used the jute as a means to grasp onto the cloth. However, it was partially intentional as I wanted to put more into the dowels holding onto the sides of the fabric over the center parts.

The only real problem I had with it was the dowels. It's not easty gripping and twisting to tighten the fabric down. I much prefer the square ones I made on my first model. They offered a much better grip for tightening. Once I feel up to it, I'll make a couple for this one, but they'll have to be thinner than the first model. Which might not be possible. Hmm! Still haven't decided on what I'll do yet.

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Tiny Knitted Rays (m.youtube.com)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by ChamelAjvalel@lemmy.world to c/knitting@lemmy.world
 

Just finished the video, which is crap, buuuut is good enough, heh.

(my wife made this on her phone, and I just love it, heh).

Cast on 4 stitches.

  1. kfb S2 wyif move yarn to back, slip last slipped stitch to left needle. Knit in the front of the last stitch on the left needle, slip stich, knit in the back.
  2. kfb ( K1 S1 wyif )2 kfb
  3. kfb K1 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K1 kfb
  4. kfb K2 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K2 kfb
  5. kfb K3 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K3 kfb
  6. kfb K4 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K4 kfb
  7. kfb K5 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K5 kfb
  8. K7 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K7
  9. K3tog K4 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K4 K3tog
  10. K2tog K3 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K3 K2tog
  11. K2tog K2 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K2 K2tog
  12. K2tog K1 ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K1 K2tog
  13. K2tog ( K1 S1 wyif )2 K2tog
  14. Reorder stitches (From left to right) as follows, 5,3,6,4,2,1

(Realized a little late that 5 & 3 could be knitted together before moving the stitches to the right needle, and would move the yarn to the left side for starting the I-cord knitting, but yeah, you can do that. If you don't do that, then just change the K1 in row 15 to K2tog).

  1. K2tog K2tog K1
  2. K3
  3. K2tog K1
  4. K2 Repeat 18 to the length of tail you want.

Pull tail through remaining two stitches. Sew in ends.

Notes:

Reorder stitches (From left to right) as follows, 5,3,6,4,2,1

WIthout using the tail, slip the first two stitches, slip the next stitch onto the front of the right needle, slip stitch, slip the last stitch from the left needle. Slip the first stitch from the right needle onto the left needle. Turn the left needle and knit those two stitches together through the back. (The video will help with this).

Added times to jump to different parts in the video description.

Ok! Hopefully that's all good...enough...

(and to make sure Lemmy or Connect doesn't remove my link, here it is in text form https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zzwqjmdkNd4...And Lemmy/Connect kept this link after posting...So I guess I don't need this...But I'll leave it down at the bottom anyway).

 

I made a syrup from ground black walnut and sunflower seeds, but boy is it overly sweet. I do know I could use some form of flour (qinoa, amaranth, millet, all purpose, corn meal, corn starch, etc), but I'm curious if anyone might know of something I haven't thought of yet.

 

Ok! I give up trying to find this stuff on my own, heh.

Anyway, I built my wife a large outdoor miniature diarama for Christmas and I'm wanting to do a winter theme for her opening (the door), and I'm rather stumped on these.

So far, the best solution I found was snow powder/flakes and spray on adhesive, but I'm definitely open to something else (that's not overly costly, 🤷‍♂️. I spent a looooot on this so far).

It will have a dirt base, so the snow needs to adhere to that as best as possible.

 

Update: 7-30-23

Added images to an album at imgur with proof showing the bill has the correct website written three times on the bill. Also, showing the address to both locations (As each other claim the other does not exist), and google maps showing Centura locations.

Update: 7-31-23

Like the energizer bunny, the stupid at this company keeps going and going and going and going.

Difficult getting a real human, so try to setup an automated payment via the automated system. Well, not my first time with this company, so don't trust them at all. Call back to verify, go through hoops and hurdles to get a real person. Nope, I only made a payment, ok, let me setup a payment plan. Ok, do you want to remove the payment you setup as that will not be added to your payment plan? What? Instead of paying x, you'll be paying x+y...Yeah, let's cancel that. Ok, set up the payment plan. Can I make the payment still? That wouldn't work because of how the payment plan is set up.

Seriously? Is that really that difficult for the programmers to write for your systems?

I tell you, dealing with this company does make me feel a little better. For, even how addled I have gotten, I feel like if they can run a major business, so can I, 🤣

End Update

I don't know a good spot to put this, but maybe this would be a good spot to just vent...It adds to the mental strain that's just absolutely bonkers...Plus, might be something for people to think about if they happen to go to the same hospital business a city over. Just 45 minutes away. Shown as an affiliate of the same business on their own website. 😶

Anyway, I saw a doctor a year ago, got x-rays and had an EKG. Fine. Will get a bill...Fine.

Got a bill in January, 6 months after from Centura...In Ohio...Not Colorado...What?

The statement says to send a payment or log in to their website. I log into their website, enter the account number...Nada...I do it again...Nada...Again, and again, and again...Nothing. So I call the number on the website (as I trust that over some odd bill from an address that I've never seen from this company before). The representative had no knowledge of it. The account didn't exist.

I even checked mycentura account, and I owe nothing...What? What? What?

Well, just yesterday I got a call from this questionable Centura company...finally...And guess what? They don't understand what I'm talking about...It's never been that way...I would never pay to Centura in Denver. Their billing offices are in Cincinnati. How the heck can there be two completely separate entities of the same bloody business?

Holy fuck!

Sorry for the cursing, but unfortunately, this warrants it. It's just so idiotic.

End rant.

[2nd attempt to post this. Removed some curse words and the h word as maybe the filters are a bit wonky or purposefully overly sensitive].

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