Drivebyhaiku

Oookay, you're trying to pick a fight but not exactly landing an interesting hook. This entire sentiment is pretty empty if the best you have is to heckle my spelling. Are you new to trolling? I feel like maybe you should read a tutorial or something.

Come on mate, gimme substance! Refute the argument with something other than just "nu uh!"

I understand it being a sticky issue for people because there's so much of society and choice we put into the realm of adults. But here's the thing. Psychology has been obsessed with trans people since the origin of the field. We have a ton of data on what happens when trans people recognized at an early age grow up and what that looks like when there's no intervention whatsoever. The reality of it is that there's certain things that there is no medical fix or take backs for once you experience your first puberty.

We know very well that gender identity observed in trans kids is stable. We have a rubric of diagnosis stable enough to have gone up against several National medical ethics boards and survived the scrutiny nessisary to opt for attempting risks.

The first generation of kids to grow up utilizing this process are now adults (the oldest cohort are now in their 30's) and the results have been promising with an almost absurdly low rate of regret reported across the population...

But now you have to recognize why that rate of regret is so low. You need the signoff of a team of professionals who put the bar very high to allow candidates to attempt these risks and any of them can pull support if something doesn't go to plan. Furthermore a child alone does not make these decisions the informed consent has to be demonstrated by the child and their parents. So when people say "kids shouldn't make these decisions" you're missing that they aren't making these decisions. A kid and a panel of adults who are experts in their field, social workers and dedicated parents who have watched the difference in their child's behaviour go from very obviously not thriving in a multitude of ways to massive improvements through social transition make these decisions.

People act like it's as simple as a kid showing up and asking for a lollipop. It isn't. We have literal generations of data about what happens if we do nothing. The outcomes are miserable. We can afford to try something different than known miserable outcomes.

One could say the same thing about Christianity. Jesus basically ripped his notes from the Stoics.

But the answer is that in both cases there's a lot of supernatural stuff in the texts. When you look at the totality of the scriptures and appended lore Buddha isn't just some wise man who had and epiphany, while early scriptures were closer to that interpretation a lot of the later scriptures that describe enlightenment and elaborate on it... it's basically more describing that people who reach enlightenment get superpowers, mostly omniscience but also like a bunch of other stuff. There's also a lot of writings and different sects that elaborate on the afterlife and how one earns their place there. Like there is legitimately a Buddhist version of hell and it looks fairly familiar to the Christian one because both got cross contaminated with Hinduism's Naraka and depictions of the Greek afterlife just like Christianity did.

A philosophy I think is a discussion about observations of life and how it is lived and particularly opinions on how it is lived well. When you start appending supernatural rewards and punishments to that discussion you get a religion or a cult.

It is probably the case that if your friends do veiw you as a friend and aren't made aware that this isn't because of something they did but a way you are then this behaviour is likely hurting them to some degree or another. Your discription of how you interfsce with friends is fairly consistent with cluster B personality disorders but that doesn't mean it's automatically bad. It does mean that if you want to become a safe person to associate socially with you are going to need to put in more work than average to learn what other people generally need out of relationships and to recognize pain that is going to be difficult to empathize with... And if you decide to become a safe person it will mean being more open with your friends about parts of the human experience that are assumed but in your case not shared.

Most people have needs out of friendships that if they are not met and they cannot identify why they are not met they can sort of look inwards and self emotionally mutilate, picking themselves apart to find what it wrong with themselves to warrant cold behaviour. People's first instinct is to ask "what about me makes me undeserving." and are very good at populating a list.

Guilt and shame for most of us is the fastest emotional response. It is way faster than reason. People who think they may have wronged you or are being rejected by you will feel guilty first and then have to pick the emotion apart to figure out if they should actually feel guilt or shame... and then even if they realize they did nothing wrong might still feel guilt or rejection. A lot of being a safe person regardless of whether one has disordered emotional issues or not involves making sure they have the tools to not feel guilt, shame or rejection for very long. The faster they can rationalize and compartmentalize what is happening isn't about them it is about you the more likely it is to not stick and develop into a longer term emotional injury or weakness. Once someone has been put in a position to effectively bully themselves that creates possible long term damage. A lot of the time, particularly for young people first experiencing this who have not learned how to be safe around people with cluster B disorders the outcome resolves as long term anger towards the person who made them question themselves.

If your friends are growing apart it may be because they already think you do not care about them and have already gone through this self bullying process but have now started to trade notes to see if they are the problem or not. If they reach a mutual concensus about you being emotionally unrecipricative then they might withdraw to avoid being hurt further. A sense of being valued in some form is a nessisary portion of friendship for most people. They will project that assumption of being valued and emotionally cared for onto you by default if you act like a friend because that is something they do when they act that way and even if they logically know it isn't reciprocated they might not give up on you if you show effort to keep them in your life. Someone who acts like a friend but never did show signs of caring is more often than not going to be falsely attributed as once caring but withdrawing that care for a reason, which is in some relationship circumstances is inflicted as a punishment. So even if it's not your intention people might interpret your behaviour not as rude but as a deliberate act of cruelty.

If you want them to stick around then letting them know that you like the experience of them as people in some way is key. Like if you find them more entertaining than most or recognize their good qualities then letting them know is what is going to keep them around.

What nobody tells you is that people before the age of 25 tend to make closer relationships where they emotionally risk more and become closer faster. Generally speaking it is more difficult to make as dedicated friends as an older adult as people are less likely to latch and a lot of people when they fail to make these types of high risk close friendships later in life interpret themselves as deficient as a person. You are in the prime age of emotionally high risk but high reward friendships. That does mean that the way these friendships resolve might become formative to the people around you as you might be one of the first non-safe relationships they have as they have not built adequate defenses. Wounds suffered in youth have an outsized effect and if things go particularly south without adequate explanation they may particularly remember you long term as a source of personal anguish.

Remember this, vulnerability is a bonding behaviour, your vulnerability just works a lot different than other people's. People might reject you if they can't figure out how to interface with your type of vulnerability but some will genuinely recognize it as you risking something because you ultimately value them not being hurt over their usefulness and function in your life. There are a lot of people out there with empathy above and beyond the median... But I would recommend therapy for lessons on how to navigate relationships in a non-standard way.

Violence tends to be a double edged sword. Whether or not things get better as the result of an outbreak of violence is hit and miss. A lot of authoritarian regimes in history just get replaced with new authoritarian regimes that have a better PR team and create a leniency period before cranking back the progress once people figure everything has been fixed. Long term it's not great prospects. Anarchist activities tends to create this sort of thing. It creates a power vacuum to which the first one to break the faith and assemble a new loyal hierarchy while murmuring a smokescreen of empty hymns of the old cause is rewarded by becoming the new tyrant. Oftentimes there is a promise of whatever state of oppression being a transitory period. You aren't supposed to notice that the transitory period after which they say that they will surrender their stranglehold to the rightful inheritance of the people never comes to fruition and instead just becomes a new dynasty of effective monarchs living it up.

But other times it's just another tool in the box of movements that are fighting against occupation. It usually helps if there's a peaceful arm of the movement who will get most or all of the credit after the fact whom can hold the dialogue space. Every Civil rights fight that had a non-violent movement leader also had "unrelated" people in the field under a different banner solving some problems with violence. Black Panthers, Butterfly Brigade, bomb weilding suicide suffragettes, indigenous anti colonial movements... These are part of the landscape and the actions they took were given space to be picked over by contemporaries because provocative acts lend punch to rhetoric. If you have no legitimate means to solve the violence done to you other than violence then the problem still needs solving so violence it is. What is effective in this model is collective directed action with planned objectives to fit into existing systems or that come with fully drawn up replacements for old systems. Not as sexy as anarchy but the wins are on the whole more stable and enduring. If you want a democracy then your problem solve should at least should have a true core of people whose ultimate intention is to operate democratically. Violence has a seat at that table too but weilding it justly is a commitment.

Women actually did participate in maths quite a bit throughout history. While it's generally true that formal schooling was more limited and opportunities were rarer than for men in the same fields a keen mind was often seen as a thing best not wasted. The work generally disappears in footnotes of businesses and whatnot where wives were sort of unpaid appendages of their husbands endeavours where they participated wholly in many aspects of the work and were often in a bookkeeping role. Maths was not limited to the nobility and gentry though the mathematical rockstars all came out of the class. Elena Lucrezia Cornaro Piscopia was born in the 1640's and became a lecturer of Mathematics in Padua and was the first woman to be awarded a doctorate degree from a University.

The rates of literacy and numeracy are always more than you would think in these periods. The common folk needed those skills but for different stuff so they taught them in informal ways to each other and didn't tend to use them for flashy things like writing stories or coming up with new stuff because paper was an expense saved for important stuff you needed to record. Most of it was for legal and organizational purposes. A lot of samples don't tend to survive unless they were either for posterity or kept for sentimental reasons but we know that slates saw a lot of use day to day for regular business. Women were a resource of skilled labour that households could not afford to leave unoccupied and the idea of them in aggregate as limited to being brainless drudges isn't accurate.

I mean they are allowed to whine. As an Enby it's quite useful to know where the people whom you needn't bother getting to know particularly well are. That high pitched sound their brains make as they grind out another low effort opinion is annoying, granted.

Considering the US has the more millitary bases on foreign soil than the rest of the world combined...

Actually let me recontextualize this so you realize how much America has a gun to the rest of the world's collective heads. The number of foreign bases, exempting potential secret off the record ones, held by the totality of nations Other than the US is less than 100. The US has over 750 bases on foreign soil in over 80 countries.

How did you think America had gotten away with it's warcrimes scott free until now? Until America itself calls the shot the rest of us are basically on tiptoe.

Considering the US has the more millitary bases on foreign soil than the rest of the world combined...

Actually let me recontextualize this so you realize how much America has a gun to the rest of the world's collective heads. The number of foreign bases, exempting potential secret off the record ones, held by the totality of nations Other than the US is less than 100. The US has over 750 bases on foreign soil in over 80 countries.

How did you think America had gotten away with it's warcrimes scott free until now? Until America itself calls the shot the rest of us are basically on tiptoe.

Considering the US has the more millitary bases on foreign soil than the rest of the world combined...

Actually let me recontextualize this so you realize how much America has a gun to the rest of the world's collective heads. The number of foreign bases, exempting potential secret off the record ones, held by the totality of nations Other than the US is less than 100. The US has over 750 bases on foreign soil in over 80 countries.

How did you think America had gotten away with it's warcrimes scott free until now? Until America itself calls the shot the rest of us are basically on tiptoe.

Your "this is all just business as usual" tone really isn't serving. Your President is trying to economically soften my country for later seizure and has openly made commentary about taking other countries in acts of international war. He has pardoned armed Insurrectionists who in the past tried to disrupt through violence the democratic transfer of power in his favour. He has invited to his cabinet heads whose entire manifesto they signed was gutting the past 100 years of regulatory law and administrative arms of government that was created by democratic processes and invited one of the most powerful people in the world to head the project who threw two Nazi salutes at an Inauguration whose decorating recalled the Confederate flag moreso than the stars and stripes. He's refurbished Gitmo and has been utilizing ICE agents to speed the forced deportation of people, some of them on military planes in purposefully inhumane conditions. Every Executive order creates a new flood on the courts which will take years to fully sort out and in it's wake databases are being seized or deleted, food deigned for relief efforts are rotting on shelves, proposals are in progress to strip voting rights for anyone who has ever changed their name which will hit women particularly hard. Trans people have already been denied travel, and denied new travel documents, any documents regardless of gender marker and had their existing documents seized at passport offices. He's signed into order an order that was intended to force judges to apply the death penalty to any crimes where it could be an outcome. (https://www.whitehouse.gov/presidential-actions/2025/01/restoring-the-death-penalty-and-protecting-public-safety/) What future purpose can you imagine this holding?

Congress, The Senate, the judiciary... Those bodies require process and deliberatiom, in other words time, and the President and his cronies have decided to just speed break things and push failure states and force compliance knowing that picking up the peices will be an infinitely slower process.

And blaming the voters? During the election Republican grassroot efforts disenfranchised a ridiculous number of voters because people sought out visible minorities or people who showed obvious Democratic party leanings and reported them to elections Office en mass which automatically struck them off the rolls until they could be investigated but since there was limited manpower to investigate so a lot of them were frozen without challenge. Those that did vote for Trump did so on promises that any idiot should have known was not in his legal power to fix and ignored his blatant desire to strip reproductive rights, remove trans people's healthcare and banish them from public life, ignored a manifesto outlining the plans of his sponsors and a lot of racist, homophobic, sexist and authoritarian commentary on the campaign trail. If you have someone who decided enough was enough and left your life because of your vote for "better grocery prices" then yes, it's deserved.

At what point have you crossed the Rubicon? When are you going to draw the line between "not a coup" and "this is a coup"? Will it be after this bunch of appointed ministers to the king commits an act of outright international war? Tell me, where is the line because I am pretty sure you should already be in the street protesting. Outside of the US the rest of the world is already discussing the US in terms of a failed Democracy. People who have experience in the feild of International Law are ringing the alarm. Why aren't you?

Gods, this old chestnut... Hey, on behalf of the Trans-Non-binary community can we retire this please? Not because it's offensive, it isn't, we just heard it more on average and it was always just bland weak sause shit. Reseting the clock on this boring ass joke from reddit five years ago is cringe. You wanna troll somebody at least make an effort greater than "I know you are but what am I?!"