ScoffingLizard

Let's not make society healthier to prevent drug use. Just arrest everyone.

You're going to do great! Good luck with escaping the father! Yikes!

You're not the only user who has mentioned bullying. Were you bullied in relation to ADHD or was it a separate issue?

I rebelled by succeeding, too. It worked out for me.

You're going to do great! Hang in there!

Do you feel that your early diagnosis and subsequent treatment adjusted your behaviors at a young enough age such that you escaped the rejection sensitivity dysphoria effect?

Edit: Congrats, btw!

I think I have terrible depression and that it is genetic. It could be based on that. This is a good exercise to do because all this feedback is telling me that my lack of desire to have kids could be related to the ADHD, but that ADHD usually does not dissuade folks from parenting much of the time, so therefore something else is likely a larger factor in my attitude about motherhood.

You sound like me. My teacher put me in special education for Math. I now have a Math degree and two engineering degrees. I was just bored because I already knew Math and Reading when I went to school because my parents and sister taught me all that beforehand. They put me in a special reading group and were shocked when figuring out how well I could read before moving me to a group of kids with regular abilities.

I was ADHD and extremely unchallenged, and it was torture to sit in a chair bored all day until all the squirming got me beaten. Since I never listened to teachers because they had nothing new for me to hear, I also did not acquire listening skills that people get at that age. This has been a problem my whole life. I go in and out of conversations.

By the time I was in high school, I was doing Math homework in Geometry class while it was still being taught by the teacher and never had homework at night. There was no use in listening to him. It would never work, and so I read books to teach myself. When I got to engineering school, people were amazed that I never came to class and still made the grades I did. I never could figure out why they couldn't just read the book like me. Learning everything on my own was my only option, so I just did it that way.

Also, my friend is a genius, and he remembers people thinking he was low iq and putting him in special education too. Maybe they just think we're low iq because we can't communicate with lower iq adults when we're kids with those issues. Dang, it makes you wonder how often that happens to gifted or very capable kids who are misunderstood.

I, too, have been rejected by teachers, parents, family, etc. It's so hurtful. It's easier to work in a tech field sometimes because I think many of us have these same issues.

Good on you for not wanting to screw up a kid. For what it's worth, you sound self-aware enough to be a good parent. You're responsible for refraining from being a parent without the needed stability required. You sound thoughtful and nice. There is nothing wrong with being part of the village it takes to raise a kid rather than a parent. Good luck! Thanks for the reply!

I believe this is physically achievable, but not possible in a world ruled by psychopaths. We have the resources, but there are assholes hoarding them all.

I've thought about that, but the definitions online seem to only include serious traumas that I have not been through.

I'm in the US so I can't. Unless I get a Pixel, made by stupid google.

Wait what? Really?