Zaleramancer

joined 5 months ago
[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

So, I have given it some thought. I talked to my partner about it and, honestly, I don't see the point in trying to build or be a part of online communities anymore. I don't like or trust people now. I don't have the patience or goodwill I used to. I'm tired of the same conversations playing out over and over again. Nothing changes. No one values the things I value as much as I do, so everyone always disappoints me in the end.

It just results in me bringing negativity back into my personal life, and seldom brings me any joy now. I can't expect other people to change things to accommodate my needs, so the only answer I can find is to remove myself from situations that harm me.

So I'm going to try to stop being active online. Bye, best of luck and well wishes. I think this may be one of the best platforms I've been on in terms of quality of conversation and moderation- great job, but I'm obviously too damaged to function in situations like this.

Peace ✌️

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 3 points 1 day ago

I appreciate the thought, but I didn't find that useful for my situation. I already think about this all the time, and I am not in a position to responsibly channel any energy away from keeping my loved ones alive and healthy.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 2 points 1 day ago

I am trying to focus on it, it's just I can lose an hour+ whenever I come across a headline that's purpose built to piss people off- because I have to fight myself not to make an entire small essay about why it's irresponsibility presented and generally ineffective.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah, I kind of expected as much. I will just continue to block things until I can look at local communities without being triggered by the doom.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 4 points 1 day ago

Maybe I'll try to get that to work later. Thanks.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 5 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Article about how school lunches require system change in Humanity and Culture

Five out the the eight last AskBeahaw posts. Six if you include the one that got deleted between me making this post and replying here.

Your Favorite Celebrity Would Have Supported Hitler in Chat.

The Psychological Toll of the US Election in Science.

I'm not sure about LGBTQ+ anymore, since I blocked it a while ago because of the drip of news about how it's getting incrementally closer to being legal for me to be hunted for sport.

 

Hello fellow bees.

I'm exhausted of seeing US politics and world news creep into all the communities in trying to use. I have the vast majority of communities and instances about this blocked for a reason, but no matter how many communities I block it still happens.

I'm not trying to ignore what's going on. I am not feeling the wrath of the privileged at the acknowledge of the suffering of the weak. I devote a specific amount of time each week where I brace myself and gaze upon the horrors so that I can stay informed.

The problems I have with a lot of this is that it seems predominately to be regurgitating the news cycle uncritically. Many posts don't even rephrase the headlines that are purposefully designed to be upsetting.

What I would like is if before someone resposted this kind of thing that they would consider if it's:

Actionable, which is to say it has a clear call to action about the problems it presents.

Significant, which is to say it bears relevance on people's immediate well-being in a way that is not simply a restatement of extant problems.

Useful, which is to say it both represents a useful resource and is presented in a way that makes that easy.

I don't need to see news articles about how 7 out of 10 Republician senators would rather eat a baby than put out a trans person on fire. I know and I don't need to be reminded while trying to find something interesting to read at the bus stop.

If it doesn't do one of the above, I think posting it is contributing to information overload exhaustion that makes people feel so helpless.

At the very least, could we try to keep the stuff restrained to the relevant communities? I already have 10 of the current Beehaw communities blocked because they're either about political news, are dominated by it or represent an undue risk to being suddenly jumpscared by it.

What do you think? Please advise, because I enjoy Beehaw but this is so exhausting.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 4 points 2 days ago

Yeah, the constant news coverage is why I have blocked every news community on here, and still the villain pursues me.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Philosophically, I think the pursuit of truth and the exercise of compassion are worthwhile endeavors.

But when that's too abstract, I remind myself that I have people who rely on me and benefit from my presence in their life. I work to make the world around me better than it was before, so that others can immediately, and in the future, have better lives.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 8 points 2 days ago

You seem to be handling this in a really caustic way. Maybe take some time to self-reflect and come back in two weeks? You may be able to get unbanned if you chill a bit.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 1 points 2 days ago

I'm using Obsidian. The minimal size makes syncing faster, and I enjoy the mobile interface.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I am sufficiently weird that delve isn't an especially obscure word for me to drop in a random conversation. My partner and I are likely to just use stuff like "Pontificate" at random, so, I feel weird about this.

[–] Zaleramancer@beehaw.org 1 points 5 days ago

???? being anti-ai is liberal now?

 

Hello all!

I've been trying to ween myself off of the news cycle lately, so I've been looking into apps that I can use instead. Right now, I'm trying out WikWok, which is a free app that presents you with random wikipedia articles in a feed you can swipe through. It's been nice because theres fewer jumpscare news articles and it's kind of soothing.

I learned about a kind of pottery called Fretwork because of this. It's a type of historical pottery where they put ground glass into the clay to create something visually quite similar to porcelain.

What are apps (Android, IOS, w/e) that you are using to manage stuff or entertain yourself in a healthy way?

 

Hey all, I have ADHD and insomnia! I've tried some things, but, I'm really hoping someone has advice on how to keep a schedule. I always end up slipping around until I have to do some kind of grueling "all-dayer" or something to put myself back on track.

Thoughts? Tricks? Wisdom? I'm all ears.

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