Sorry, ‘flue’ is just my incompetence at using the English language
No, don't apologize; your command of English is far superior to my grasp of German!
(about all I can say is: "Ich spreche nicht Deutsch" and "Sprechen sie Englisch?" -- and when I put those phrases into Google Translate to check myself, I found that I had the wrong word for 'Englisch' -- I thought it was something like Anglit!)
Oh, I think that advice comes from a good place, it's just misguided. People look at it and say "your partner shouldn't be your cash cow".
OTOH, I think it's important for both people to be contributing to the household financially. That helps keep a certain balance in the relationship even if it's just a token amount.
I think it's more important that they come up with a system that they both think is fair. If moving in together leaves one person feeling like they're being taken for a ride, it'll wreck the relationship.
My wife and I lived together for a bit back when we were dating. We did some math:
Combined rent + $savings = my old rent + her old rent
Then we split the combined rent roughly 1/3 - 2/3 (my salary was higher than hers at the time) so that we were both paying less than we had been before.
We split utilities 50/50 which was kind of a mistake IMO -- I regret the accounting chore that it created. One of us would pay the rent by hand (USA, so paper check to the landlord), but utilities were on auto-pay from my account. We'd have to tally up utilities and add it or subtract it to the rent in order to reimburse the other person when they paid the rent.
Instead of that nonsense, I'd suggest estimating your utilities and split that figure 50/50 - then maybe look at it again once a year in case costs change.
What does Puerto Rico have to do with this?
the wrong choice
Some subtleties there...what is the "wrong" choice?
If it's "the verdict doesn't match what the defendant did" - well, we don't always know for sure. If it's "the verdict isn't what I would have said" - hey, everybody likes to armchair quarterback. It's still up to the jury, though.
really fucking pedantic
I guess I am. Reading is reading. Listening is listening. I'm not a fan of "reading means reading or listening, depending on whether the thing you're listening to is labeled 'audiobook'".
Communication is easier when we agree on what the words actually mean.
People who listen to audiobooks usually call it reading, IME.
Look up "loss webcomic"
I’ll take some cleaning house vs 0 cleaning house.
This is like dusting the china cabinet while ignoring a giant hole in the wall from someone crashing their car through it.
Oh, I see. Carry on!
You deleted this before I read it, btw.
I had leftovers for dinner tonight. My wife and I had planned on having salmon and oven-roasted potatoes and peppers, but we still had a lot of leftovers from cooking during the week.