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He's trying to. Right now it's a firehose of bad policy designed to suppress, but it's important to strongly oppose on as many fronts as possible because a lot of this can and will get shut down if we try. This administration is counting on apathy to get away with this shit, and I think it's important to separate our expectations of these actions from acceptance of these actions.

Call or write your congressmembers. Find a protest going on near you. Don't talk to cops/ICE. Contact your state attorney general about what they're doing to sue for your rights. Download archives of the webpages the feds are taking down and distribute to those who need it. Talk to your neighbors, your community, and see about who needs help from mutual aid, and get resources where they can be used. Donate to someone's gofundme to get needed healthcare.

Anyone reading this, just do any action that makes the world marginally better right now. You can't solve all this by yourself, none of us can, but we can all do a little to push us in the right direction.

SCOTUS seemed to not like a lot of Biden's EOs though, I wonder why that could be...

I definitely would consider currying favor with the incoming administration a potential gain, which is why even if this is truly a technical error, so many people would believe otherwise considering the messaging from Meta these past few weeks. Regardless of intentions, Meta has failed in their user experience at a time when many people are evaluating if these platforms are worth the trouble- purely as a tech business that seems like quite the misstep. Of course, the truth is that it doesn't matter, we already know Meta is bowing to right wing pressure and actively choosing to allow harm to LGBTQ+, women, and other minorities on their platforms, and they shouldn't get plausible deniability for their mistakes.

I have heard from at least one person who deliberately unfollowed before Monday who suddenly was following again after the changeover. Maybe there's technical difficulties there, but it's a bad look for sure.

OP is literally a Trump supporter

I think more folks need to understand that "hey I didn't like that joke" or "hey I know you didn't mean it that way but that hurt me" as inherently being shamed by someone, or even shameful at all. People are messy! We're going to step on each other's toes even when we're doing our best. I think OP did an absolutely perfect job of saying, oh, you're correct, that wasn't my intention, let me make sure that's clear to everyone right away. And then no one has to make any fuss about it from there. At the end of the day, your feelings about being gently corrected are yours to deal with, not the responsibility of the person or people correcting you.

And to be clear, I know this is difficult! It's emotional labor you have to do. If you want to reframe your feeling of shame as something else (I like gratitude personally, like my friend has told me I have something in my teeth and I should fix that before I talk more), that can be useful.

Ultimately, trans people and other minorities don't owe you gentleness when they're hurt. It helps to be nice and low expectations like I have tried to be here, but that is a privileged position. It isn't easy to hear someone lash out at you in pain and say "thank you for sharing this with me, I will reflect on it" but I'm telling you, it is worth it. Listening to other people is so important to protect minorities in any majority-ruled democracy.

And like I said, no one has to do this. But this is the process by which you can take casual allies of circumstance and make them trusted friends. And I think we all need more trusted friends nowadays.

I don't put much stock in post votes, but I don't think a majority popular comment that the person I was replying to already agreed with is, uh, getting blowback. Honestly you seem to be the most hostile one here. If you'd read any of the lovely conversations I've already had with folks here, you'd understand that I haven't blamed anyone for this joke, I am simply communicating what I have heard in the community, and I don't have any expectations of changes in behavior as a result of this.

It's not bigotry to call out jokes on the internet, btw. For someone fighting a war on behalf of us all I'd figure this would be lower priority!

I'm going to stop responding to you since you don't seem to be engaging with the intention to actually listen to minorities, ciao!

Why are trans people's feelings less important than feelings of people making jokes online?

I don't want to be arguing here either, that's why I'm politely letting folks know that these sort of jokes may alienate their allies. You don't have to do anything with that information if you don't want to! Don't engage with this at all, and feel free to let me know what material good you've done to fight for trans rights in the time saved, will you?

I think you're continuing to misinterpret me here, I clarified above that I'm not speaking about you directly, but the general "you". Here it is again edited for clarity:

And, like I've been saying, I'm just here to inform. No one has to engage with this if they don't want to. If one interprets it as chilling, then I think that's a relationship with the joke and the context that one would need to work through individually. It's okay to have a joke fall flat! Or have certain groups not find it very funny. If one stops telling any jokes because one is worried about polite criticism, I don't think one really is interested in making people laugh, you know?

I'm not here to judge the response of the trans people in that post, that's their business as far as I'm concerned, just posting that it exists. (I happened to be aware of these folks talking about it so I figured it was easy to cite, I'm sure there are plenty of varied responses that are more diplomatic online)

I appreciate the tone as well, but I think it's something that's easier when you're more removed from the issue. As a cis woman, I have the luxury of not being as directly affected by this joke. You can see from my example that trans people talking to other trans people may be much more hurt and angry. If they were trying to explain this in a thread like this, would it be as easy to hold a civil tone? Would someone in your position have the same patience with someone expressing their pain more bluntly as you have with me? Just some things to think about.