orbular

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[–] orbular@lemmy.today 1 points 1 day ago

Definitely go see a doctor anyway. Whatever the issue is, it is affecting important aspects of your life (completing your degree to securing a career in an area that might interest you long enough to find meaningful work that may or may not be related to your degree). I've found work is usually not as constantly intense as university was for me. If you can find some methods that get you through the rest of university, life will get much easier after.

Joining a club related to my degree helped me meet people in my classes which had so many flow on effects. It helped me stay interested in the degree, helped me notice when other people start their assignments, gave me a heads up how difficult and how long it would take, helped me be social which helped me relax and recharge, helped me ask questions I might have spent sleepless hours on trying to figure out by myself, and the club deadlines made artificial deadlines for assignments.

It might be a big ask, but if you don't know of any clubs reach out to your professors and ask if they know of any projects that help contextualize the material you're learning into the real world. That way it won't just be about abstract concepts. Real applications might make it more relatable, and if you're interested it miiiight help you start and finish those assignments.

Uni is an overwhelming time for many people so don't feel like you're the only one falling behind. See if your uni has a student wellness center. They'll have some resources for you to draw help from.

Another aspect you've brought up that might be affecting how you relate to the world is your upbringing. I wonder if it might be worthwhile ruling out cPTSD (complex PTSD) which can present similarly to ADHD. Some of my problems are due to ADHD but are exacerbated by my cPTSD due to growing up with emotionally neglectful parents. The terminology makes it sound like a big deal but it's just words for concepts that have established methods to help with your specific struggles. There are billions of people on this planet raised in all sorts of environments. Hopefully you can take comfort in the fact that your situation is not that unique and there's likely to be a well trodden path out of this hole. The fundamentals are to be kind to yourself and look after your basic physical and emotional needs. However saying so isn't as easy as recognizing and doing. Building small habits for taking care of your basic human needs like EXERCISE, NUTRITION, SLEEP, and things that RELAX you, will help balance your schedule and feel ready to tackle uni assignments. I truly believe everyone could benefit from some type of therapy. Remember, just because there's a name for things you're experiencing doesn't mean you're fucked up. It just gives you a better roadmap for how to navigate out of it.

[–] orbular@lemmy.today 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

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[–] orbular@lemmy.today 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Neat, same thing happens to me but didn't know there was a treatment available! What medication is it?

[–] orbular@lemmy.today 1 points 2 months ago

Thank you for educating a non-American

[–] orbular@lemmy.today -1 points 2 months ago (3 children)

I can't help but wonder if this is an assignment to "clear the wait list" for if/when Mangione gets convicted? I don't quite understand the system but it seems many people on death row spend so many years waiting for the bureaucratic processes to complete before their lives are taken.

[–] orbular@lemmy.today 1 points 2 months ago

I don't think I have borderline personality disorder but this relationship spiraling is definitely a similar pattern. Might be a similar belief of feeling defective in some way and self sabotaging relationships to maintain that believe.

[–] orbular@lemmy.today 1 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Oh damn, same. What should I search to read more about this? Mentioned to my therapist that this is a pattern of mine but it was tangential to some other stuff so we didn't end up processing it specifically. Is BPD referring to bipolar or borderline personality disorder?

[–] orbular@lemmy.today 1 points 4 months ago

And "I Want to Break Free", my all time favorite. Close second, "Don't Stop Me Now". Oh and "Another One Bites the Dust" for the vibes.

[–] orbular@lemmy.today 1 points 6 months ago (2 children)

What specs should I be looking for to vet the quality?

[–] orbular@lemmy.today 5 points 6 months ago

Because women entered the workforce and can be both providers and caregivers, but in general men don't want to embrace an identity as caregiver so point the blame at women and/or the world.

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