thepreciousboar

Maybe the annals were just short of one year and 2025 is the time

I understand how you feel. The first step to reduce the frustration is to try and give it less importance: as you said yourself, it's not falling in love, it's just infatuation. Your brain is confusing attractiveness to another person (physical or romantic) for a deep connection that doesn't come at first sight (despite what movies and tv would make you believe) but develops in time.

You will be attracted to a lot of people in your life (assuming you're not aromantic or asexual) and, with time, you'll realize if you went deeper in many of these situation, the attraction would disappear, because the shallow opinion you have of a person you are not dating is very difficult to get right, and usually filtered positively by your monkey brain that just wants to formicate.

Of course trying and deepening these attractions would help you realizing this, which might not be easy if you have difficult approaching other people, but try and reflect on similar situations in the past and think about them cold-hearted: to how many people are you still infatuated? Don't you see now the "bad things" that you brain was hiding and that don't make you two really compatible?

Eventually it just becomes a nuisance. I don't know if you can change it, but you can accept it and it will bother you less if you understand the mechanism behind it.

Maybe you just feel affection-starved and in these situations it's easy to attach to ideas of relationships rather than real ones. Nothing weird of course, everybody do it is some way or another. It's a combination of social brain and (according to your comnents) low self-esteem.

Of course these are my 2 cents according to personal experience, a therapist would you help you more with that.

I apologize, I must have confused it for one of the many invidious instances

https://lemmy.eus/post/2849 PSA: Please don't post YouTube links as invidious frontends

As for the video, I wonder if we can trust the 5 milion $ number. Maybe DeepSeek still costed billions but knew what effect would have saying it?

I mean, I am glad you and other people are able to enjoy the show also given the inconsistencies, but the question I tried to answer was why people cared about canon and coherence. It might not be important for you, but from what I can see, it looks like it matters for a lot of people, especially in a show that except for TOS and maybe a little of the first season of TNG, tried really hard to stay coherent with itself, in the bad and the good.

You can't really blame a show for not being coherent in their early days, but once stuff is established, you can expect faithful fans to be mad about disrupting an expansive narrative.

Willy Wonka ... Plus the latest theories that try to connect it to Snowpiercer

Wat?

Not saying any of these would cause WW3, but remeber that, depending on who you ask, WW2 started:

• when Germany and Russia invaded Poland in 1939
• when Germany invaded Checkoslovakia in 1938
• when Japan invaded China in 1937

there is no single point of start for a war, just many actions of variable intensity that escalate

Hdd can live a long and happy life, but absolutely don't trust a single drive ever, independently of how rugged, old or expensive it is.

My main hard drive lasted 5 years with 1 year of power on hours, working fine and suddenly failed. It was a good fail because I was able to get all the data from it, but it took almost one month for how slow it was.

Always assume your data storage is going to die tomorrow and be ready to replace it.

Because an expansive universe lore is enjoyable if it's coherent and there are stakes at play. If you consider the official canon, voyager as a series is pretty much to throw away, because the Federation would already have the technology to bring them home centuries ago. And yes, many times the writers played around the concept in good ways to not make Discovery a ridicolously overpowered ship, but it still suffers from big "Superman is so strong he can destroy a plenet with his mind" energy.

Can you make the whole series good with deus ex machina superpowers? I guess. Was the writing good enough for it? Absolutely not.

Yes, I am aware of the baby lizards warp 10 episode of Voyager, that should also be thrown away from canon as it makes no sense, but at least it was a whacky episode among many (and the showrunners ackowledged it) not the premise of an entire seriea.

That is true, for an adult issue, a serious and adult conversation must happen with this girl, even if it could be okay, the situation itself should be evaluated because it can get very gnarly. We don't know much about OPs way to handle it, but it's also possible this specific situation is fine.

Either way, I agree that just telling your daughter to stop doing something she clearly feels like doing, even if she has a distorted view of that something, is not going to help anyone.

You are not wrong, but age gap should be considered relative to the people age. 20 years difference between 20 and 40? I guess, still not the best thing ever... Between 17 and 38? It's very very different, people mature A LOT between 17 and 20. Then of course it depends on the person, maybe this 17 years old is mature for her age, but maybe she is just being taken advantage of.

Also, the wording of the mother really implies it's an assimetric relationship, not really one between consenting adults, of course we don't know, but still...

"Fact checkers are politically sided"