Are you looking for scene support (double, triple, etc click events) or just being able to remotely control the light?
Worth noting several brands have cheaper "add-on" switches to use in 3-way scenarios. You would only need one smart switch and add-ons for the remaining switches.
I personally have a bunch of Enbrighten dimmers/switches and add-ons that work like dumb switches when disconnected from the hub. I too was concerned with the WAF (wife approval factor).
Have you looked at the Starlite? It's more expensive than an android tablet but might do what you're looking for.
You can use two separate VPNs if you use a work profile to run the second one. I'm not sure if this would work for your use case though. Check out Shelter if you want to give it a try.
To be fair, arch could look like that after a few days.
If you like the idea of asdf, I would recommend looking at mise. It does all the same things (and more) and is much more performant in my experience.
I set up a notify group for each of us. I use notify.me and add/remove the devices as needed.
notify:
- name: me
platform: group
services:
# - service: mobile_app_pixel_2_xl
- service: mobile_app_pixel_6
- name: her
platform: group
services:
- service: mobile_app_iphone
Then you can use it like any other service:
service: notify.me
data:
message: Test
title: Alert!
It's probably a bit late for a new ESP32, but if not I'm a fan of the M5Stack Atom Lite. It's a solid little device and comes in its own case.
ChatGPT responses: (probably stolen from some other presentation):
"Connecting Diverse Minds, One Federation at a Time: The Fediverse – Where Decentralization Sparks Unity."
"Decentralize, Unify: Fediverse – Where Connections Flourish Beyond Boundaries."
The switches reset into a neutral position, so you can't tell if they're on or off except for the LED.
The dimmers don't make a noticeable sound but the switches make an slight audible click when turning on or off.
Worth noting mine are a few years old and they may have changed some things.