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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by bleistift2@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner changed? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] Shimitar@downonthestreet.eu 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I wasn't technically married, but after 10 years it was like it.

Anyway, technically i ended it by cheating on her, but in retrospective she had't been fulfulling her part of the relationship on oh so many levels, and i was looking (cowardly) for a way out. So the cheat become my actual wife and we have been happy ever after.

It's been the best change in my life ever. but my knees don't always agree.

As a life lesson, you need to make experience. You need to know what you want from life, and you need to learn how to care for somebody. Before these three checks are green, your relaitonships will not be lifelong or positive. Break from bad relaitonships and learn from them, but most of all, learn from yourself. Find out who you are, then start grow a couple. Find a better person than you are as your SO, learn together and grow together.

and, most of all, do not follow advice from strangers on the net.