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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by bleistift2@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner changed? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] DearMoogle@lemmy.today 17 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (1 children)

Dated for a few years, thought well we might as well get married for the perks, then afterwards realized we were just roommates and actually not all that compatible. We were both bored and letting life pass us by. It became my ex would stay out late “due to work” while I truthfully didn’t care. Found myself envying others’ lives, also imagining how life could be with a different partner. So I initiated the divorce, which timed with the apartment lease ending. The divorce process was easy and both sides moved on fairly quickly, so I suspect deep down my ex knew it was right to break up as well.

As for the fuck up on my part, I didn’t tell him but the realest truth is I stayed in a rebound relationship that should’ve never happened. And I felt comfortable. So I would advise not doing.. That. Lol.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

"Might as well get married"... How old were you when this happened, out of curiosity?

[–] DearMoogle@lemmy.today 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I was 26! Also for context, that was only my 2nd longterm relationship. So I was lacking in individual growth and relationship experience, looking back.