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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by bleistift2@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner changed? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] Coding4Fun@lemmy.ml 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Completely incompatibility between views of the world. It can sound a civilised realisation, but the process to discover that was very messy with lots of frustration that started to compromise the mutual admiration and respect along few years.

Today I only wish good things to my ex-wife and I truly don't hold any bad feeling, but equally I don't want to see her ever again in my life.

[–] bleistift2@sopuli.xyz 3 points 1 day ago (3 children)

That sounds like something that would be apparent from the get-go, no?

[–] HuskerNation@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Sounds like the maga movement got her, like it has already destroyed so many friendships and torn families apart.

I lost a few friends over politics but the one that surprised me the most was my best friend of over 35 years. 2 years ago it started, then he didn't speak to me for a whole year then the night Trump won, I just messaged him our friendship is done.

I considered him my brother, we talked at least twice a week, and honestly he was more liberal than even I was, but sometime during COVID the manosphere got him. And the friend I knew was no more.

Now I really don't have a social circle of male friends , just spend my time with my wife and daughter

[–] Asetru@feddit.org 3 points 1 day ago

Hindsight is always 20/20

[–] warbond@lemmy.world 0 points 1 day ago

Clearly not, right?