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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by bleistift2@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner changed? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] HuskerNation@lemmy.zip 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Sorry for you. What you described, is my worst fear as a father for my daughter. She's a only child and my biggest fear is her ending up alone if something happens to my wife and I.

[–] memfree@lemmy.ml 2 points 12 hours ago

I'm doing better without him, so don't worry too much about it. Old women tend to live alone simply because men die younger, so it's no biggie if some of us start that trend a bit early.

I remember an old guy who really wanted to remarry when his wife died, courted and married someone new, and then expected her to do all the household chores because that's what women do. She was aghast. He hadn't given any indication that what he wanted was a free maid while wooing her, and she backed out of the whole thing immediately -- much happier to be on her own than take on his expectations.