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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by bleistift2@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner changed? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] noughtnaut@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

She poly bombed me, came out as narcissist, and made derogatory remarks about me making a solid effort to understand poly and maintain our marriage.

Now, she's still extremely mad at me, still very much aching like a narcissist would, and I'm the one in a harmonious poly relationship.

It's hella tough, making a split family work when she absolutely refuses to communicate directly with me. My poor kids are sick in the middle of this mess which will likely never mend.

But apparently that's better than giving me just a couple of weeks to get to grips with her desires. It's hard to forgive.