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Men seem to make life for women worse’: single US women share the woes of dating in 2025 (www.theguardian.com)

submitted 1 week ago by FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world to c/goodoffmychest@lemmy.world

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By 2030, 45% of prime working age women in the US, defined as women aged between 25 and 44, will be single according to Census Bureau historical data and Morgan Stanley forecasts – the largest share in history.

Hundreds of those women, from across the US, shared with the Guardian why they were single, how they felt about it and what they would be looking for in a future partner if they were still in the market for one.

“I hated being single after my last relationship broke down,” said Sarah, 43, a sales representative from California. “I miss having someone to cook for, to share things with. But now, my motto is: ‘My alone feels so good, I’ll only have you if your presence is sweeter than my solitude.’”

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[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 17 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I bolded the part of this article that stuck out to me.

I've been single for a very long time now. When people ask, I tell them I'm married to my freedom, and I love that I don't feel like I'm missing something because being free and having all of my time, money, and space to myself is better than anything a relationship ever did for me.

I wonder if any of you feel similarly?

[–] Semi_Hemi_Demigod@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago

I felt that way for a long time until I actually found someone whose presence is better than solitude.

I got really lucky.

[–] ordnance_qf_17_pounder@reddthat.com 17 points 1 week ago

I've also been single for a long time, and I've enjoyed having my time and money to myself. But now I'm beginning to feel like I've been there and done that, and that it would be nice to have someone to give my time to and to spend some money on.

Sometimes a change is nice. It's important to do whatever makes you happy though.

[–] letsgo2themall@lemmy.world 5 points 1 week ago (1 children)

same here. I've been mostly single for 8 years. I've been on a few dates but nothing worthy of a 2nd date. I really am at a point where I'd rather just do my own thing. If someone comes along that I want to spend time with, great! But if I have to be alone and spend my time on my own hobbies and interests, also great! I was married for 17 years, 2 kids, 1 grandkid. I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I've done the domestic partner thing.

[–] FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.world 3 points 1 week ago

I don’t feel like I’ve missed out on anything.

Exactly.

I've had several relationships in my adult life, had plenty of sex, and a wealth of life experience. I know what works for me, and I just love being free more.