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Women don't know what they want and Men refuse to change or accommodate what women want.
What do that stances have in common? They are both terminally online.
Like if Lena Dunham shacked up with Andrew Tate.
This article is reinforcing my belief that media has conditioned a large amount of women to chase ideals and they just don't know what they want in a partner with the listed conflicting prerequisites from the article. It seems these women pursue what other people tell them is appealing. I also find the comment that men don't reply to chats hilarious as the opposite is my personal experience and friend group experience and this is replicated in many online expiraments. I'd also throw out there as a apparently attractive bi man I've never received one word replies and open scorn and hostility for trying to chat and learn about each other from another man.
Having a partner requires sacrifice from both parties imho.
MAGA: “empathy is a sin”
Yeah what could be happening here? It must be the women are being misled about what they actually want
Funny you say that. Actually showing empathy and depth of emotions is what has has killed every single relationship with a woman that I've ever had. Society demands we can only be a stoic not allowed to be anything other than a rock for the emotions of others to crash on.
I'll invite you to read my post history and tell me how maga keyed it is
Been dumped, a few times, immediately after I cried in front of a woman.
This is not a serious article. This is intentional rage bait.
I'm so burned out by the hellscape of reality. Ragebait is just an unnecessary level of mental gymnastics.
I feel like anyone of any gender who lives alone for long enough will have trouble adapting to living with others. It must be so relaxing, never having to make room for anyone else's stuff or opinions or habits!
But yeah - standards that exclude real people are going to net you nobody. I am not perfect, so why would I expect my husband to be? We do have a good and functional relationship, and it's funny, when I was younger I figured I wanted kids but was much less convinced on a man, but in practice it's worked out well.
I bolded the part of this article that stuck out to me.
I've been single for a very long time now. When people ask, I tell them I'm married to my freedom, and I love that I don't feel like I'm missing something because being free and having all of my time, money, and space to myself is better than anything a relationship ever did for me.
I wonder if any of you feel similarly?
I felt that way for a long time until I actually found someone whose presence is better than solitude.
I got really lucky.
I've also been single for a long time, and I've enjoyed having my time and money to myself. But now I'm beginning to feel like I've been there and done that, and that it would be nice to have someone to give my time to and to spend some money on.
Sometimes a change is nice. It's important to do whatever makes you happy though.
same here. I've been mostly single for 8 years. I've been on a few dates but nothing worthy of a 2nd date. I really am at a point where I'd rather just do my own thing. If someone comes along that I want to spend time with, great! But if I have to be alone and spend my time on my own hobbies and interests, also great! I was married for 17 years, 2 kids, 1 grandkid. I don't feel like I've missed out on anything. I've done the domestic partner thing.
I've watched men in my life smoke that incel rock because they refuse to acknowledge that their shitty entitled attitudes, abhorrent politics, and unkempt appearance is unattractive or even threatening to women.
Likewise, I've had women in my life who bemoan their inability to find a man while shitting on men who don't perform masculinity "correctly" or possess an "ick list" of common human behaviors that are complete non-starters for them.
People who cry the loudest about loneliness or being single are usually the people who will never consider that they might be the problem.
Similarly, if you want to know what single women are looking for, don't ask the ones who have given up on dating.
I mean it does not matter what you are you should only get into a relationship if you find someone you would like to be with and if its something you want to do. The problem is people who get into a relationship to be in a realtionship. Heck I had one of those friends who would only leave a relationship if he had another in the chamber ready to go. Its not a good way to be. Everyone should be content to not be in a relationship.
I hate my wife
I hope you can love yourself.
I was going to comment on something something rage bait. But honestly? This is just how people are, most don't want to be around someone 24/7. Its about meeting someone that respects you and your boundaries, if you need time to yourself, say something.
Also being gay is a great way to cut men out of your life, women and Trans are more than capable of being reliable, caring partners to share a life with if you are a woman.