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Your false equivalence as an argument? You only got away with that because I was banned from replying. High thanks for bringing it up tho because I am pretty sure it stems from your own homophobia and I suspect we can get to the bottom of it.
I can accept the misogynist aspect of such a statement but i refuse the homophobic aspect of sucking dick, I recognize your experience with SA and BJ's. Are you giving me permission to proceed because I don't want to be a cunt uninvited.
I don't have personal experience with SA, nor am I homophobic. I'm pansexual myself. It isn't at all a false equivalence to say that there's a real difference in insult between telling someone to give you a haircut and telling someone to suck your dick. They are both services, but the latter draws stigma from historical sexism and homophobia. Using dicksucking as an insult affirms that history of bigotry, when in reality we should be fighting the negative stigma surrounding sexuality from women and gay men.
Bud I am not going to read further then you denying SA. I am truly sorry that happened to you but I will not partake in your internet ego, not like this.
I don't think it's a good idea to mock SA. There's no ego involved, I haven't been a victim of SA, and it's incredibly rude to those who have been victims to treat it like an insult to be flung at people you don't like.
I think your attempt to use SA against me backfired and you revealed yourself to be a projector. Please seek help. If you feel this is diminishing I cannot help you I can only help you realize you are wrong.
I have never once tried to use SA against anyone.
Please seek help friend.
No need.
wait wait wait wait wait you fucking mean you were the one to commit SA? Your peers will que me to kill you.
No? Never said that.
Well evidently you did try to use SA against me it really is not up for discussion we can all see it... Entirely unfounded mind you hence the suspicion of you projecting. Please brus get some help I mean I literally don't care no but I appreciate the concept of someone thinking I cared?
I have never used SA against you. I've said that telling users to suck your dick draws on the history of SA going back thousands of years in order to be hurtful as an insult (alongside misogny and homophobia), not that either of us has committed SA.
Amazing.