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[–] hsdkfr734r@feddit.nl 9 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

Someone once said:

If one assumes that autistic people, due to their special interests, are overrepresented among scientists, then it may not be a wrong assumption that autism can be the cause of vaccines.

[–] hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 12 hours ago

I mean, you're a pretty horrible person if you'd rather have your child die of a completely preventable disease than have a kid with autism.

[–] ArsonButCute@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 12 hours ago

As an autistic person, the world would be much happier of we all were. You neurotypicals need to stop lying to eachother every chance you get for y'all have any idea how confusing your casual dishonesty is?

[–] ShinkanTrain@lemmy.ml 37 points 22 hours ago

Autism: Better than polio

[–] Blue_Morpho@lemmy.world 51 points 1 day ago (2 children)

It's not that weird of a position. Penn and Teller did a show on it based on the then believed data that vaccines cause autism. (Which has now long since been discredited.)

They showed the statistics of dying/paralysis/etc were far greater than the chance of autism. So in their opinion, even if vaccines caused autism ( the debunked paper showed a tiny percent chance) , it was still safer to take the vaccine.

Even if it wasn't autism, there is a tiny chance your child can have a dangerous reaction to a vaccine. I was nervous with my children but had it done anyway. My son had a minor reaction to the Polio shot and lost the ability to walk for a couple of days.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de -1 points 17 hours ago (3 children)

i'm not sure what you mean by this, because you seem to be implying that autism is somehow dangerous? which just obviously isn't true?

autism isn't bad, it's just different. If anything it's better considering how much we rely on science and technology and organization these days, we could use more autistic people who'll raise a stink when people skirt protocol for stupid reasons.

[–] cynar@lemmy.world 11 points 15 hours ago

It's worth remembering that autism is a spectrum. We are at the higher end, many benefits, with limited downsides. Others aren't as lucky.

The argument was also a bypass type. Even if vaccines cause autism, and even if autism is entirely bad, it's still worth getting vaccinated. It cuts a lot of the talking points off at the knee. Even if we assume our opponent's position, it's still not an argument in favour of what they are saying.

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 15 hours ago

They're not saying it's bad. They're just saying "even if you do think it's bad, the chances are very slim and it's far better than the alternatives"

[–] Couldbealeotard@lemmy.world 0 points 12 hours ago

If that's how we're doing it, we should get more Asians considering how much we rely on maths. Because Asians are good at math, right?

It's not a great idea to stereotype people, even if you think you're giving them a compliment.

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 28 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Autism isn’t an inherently bad thing. I have friends and a cousin with autism and they’re awesome and socialize and are just fine in society in every way. Stigmatizing it to make vaccinations seem horrible is just stupid in so many ways.

[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 16 points 22 hours ago (2 children)

I mean autism is an inherently bad thing in that it's basically just raising the difficulty of life across the board, and that's for high-functioning autism. Low-functioning autism is its own beast. There are aspects to autism that would make someone think "oh no this could happen to my child?!". Still better than the imagined alternative obviously.

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 9 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

There are some examples I’ve seen where, frankly, the difficulty is more that neurotypical people who’ve never had to try or learn how to actually communicate get mad when the bullshit script isn’t being followed. The only problem is that that group of autistic people have more difficulty not being honest, even if politely and constructively, when “tradition” is horseshit.

The challenges are fake in way too many cases, is what I’m saying. Same with ADHD people being forced to fit into a mold that doesn’t even really fit the neurotypical people. It could so easily not be a fucking problem.

[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 8 points 21 hours ago (2 children)

It's a little bit of columb A, a little bit of column B. Nothing about having to stim or occasionally going nonverbalhas anything to do with the bullshit script. And, while I also hate the bullshit script, it's unfortunately here to stay. Humans are social animals, so being less able to interact with society at large isn't a fake problem. If anything it's not unlike being unable to fluently speak your native language, which is quite obviously a problem. Of course society as a whole should accommodate people with autism, but that's a solution to a problem that very much exists.

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 2 points 13 hours ago (1 children)
  • Going non-verbal or finding a less disruptive stim for work environments is a challenge but being able to do things like work from home more, or even just be left alone to do your fucking job, would help. Unfortunately there are too many people who believe that if you don’t love being in the office and prefer to stick to yourself that you’re “not a good fit”. So yea it really is part of the script.

  • It does not have to be here to stay and things are getting better, just painfully slowly. Your lack of imagination or adaptability is part of the problem, though.

  • The issue is more aligned with the joke “how do you spot a monolingual person? They’re speaking English.” Neurotypical attitudes dominate management positions(even if the people in them aren’t but have forced themselves into that mold) and refuse to budge. No communication breakdown is ever their fault, ever, but any kind of neurodivergent person must learn how to interact in their way, that person’s way, that other person’s way, etc.. It really is like an anglophone making fun of another’s accent while barely hanging onto English. I’m anglophone, and I learned French so that other’s around me didn’t have to feel like they constantly need to accommodate me.

  • Extra note: a lot of the people I know who follow that script don’t even understand it that well themselves. They’re clutching at some “rules” that say what is and isn’t polite conversation, which tell you when to do what, and which say that include, for some reason, the idea that nothing can just be talked about point-blank which leads to all-to-common problem of people not knowing what the fuck is going on. These are the rules that state that if you don’t swear or yell while actively harming someone then you’re “polite” but if they resist at all then they’re being “rude and making a scene”(even if all they’re doing is respectfully trying to understand why you’re being awful). If you watch two neurodivergent people talk they get along just fine, better even because they’ve had to learn how to adjust, how to have patience, etc. and aren’t spend the conversation impose some fucked up sense of morality on the other person.

TL;DR: You’re kinda proving my point by saying that there’s really only one valid way to communicate and softly fighting the notion that things can get better. Also yes agree that there are the low functioning cases but the bar for “low functioning” is way higher than it needs to be. I’m

[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 1 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

TL;DR: You’re kinda proving my point by saying that there’s really only one valid way to communicate and softly fighting the notion that things can get better. Also yes agree that there are the low functioning cases but the bar for “low functioning” is way higher than it needs to be. I’m

I think you got me wrong there. I'm not saying there's only one valid way to communicate. However, neurotypical people will always use the bullshit script when talking to each other and will try to apply it when communicating with neurodivergent people. You can educate them to be more accommodating, but it'll always be like one person speaking English and the other Chinese; no matter how much you teach them most people will only vaguely understand what's going on, and when you add all the bullshit that comes with large organizations there's a fundamental limit on how much things can get better.

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 1 points 45 minutes ago

Except that I can understand them, better than they seem to understand themselves, honestly, and the main reason for any issues is that I refuse to play the game, not that I can’t. Neurodivergent people need to know how to handle that stuff and in order to learn to communicate with so many different people they need to actually understand how these things work. And there are neurotypical people who aren’t so full of themselves, who have had experiences where they’ve learned that other people aren’t simply “broken”, who have come to be able to communicate and respect just fine with everyone else.

But anyway, why are you so against even trying? If I and many others can learn to move through the world and communicate with others then how come neurotypical only get “actually, you guys don’t need to get better”? And holy shit, there are plenty of people who become fluent in other languages including people who speak English and then learn Mandarin or Japanese or Korean to a fluent level. And we just need enough of an effort to make sure that NT folks understand that their way isn’t the only way! I’m not asking for mastery, I’m asking for an anglophone living in France to be able to order their dinner without an English menu.

Why do you keep repeating that we cannot do this? Why do you keep saying that it’s a lost cause and we shouldn’t try? It’s such a lame stance to take that we should just throw our hope in the trash because it might be difficult to bring positive change. You don’t need to be on the frontlines but holy hell please at least stop actively demoralizing everyone to justify your absence.

[–] Cruxifux@feddit.nl 1 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Man I was so on board with what you were saying until you referred to autism as a “problem” that needs a “solution”. Autism isn’t bad. Autism isn’t a problem. Autism doesnt need a solution.

[–] NoneOfUrBusiness@fedia.io 1 points 11 hours ago

I think you misunderstood me there. Autism isn't a problem*; people with autism not being able to effectively communicate with neurotypical people (and vice versa of course) is.

*some exceptions apply.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

this isn't true, lots of aspects of autism make life way way way way easier especially in the age of technology. There are so many things that are utterly obvious and trivially easy for me that allistic people around me can barely wrap their heads around.

autism in a society that doesn't hate nonstandard people is just a sidegrade, there isn't really anything about autism that is inherently difficult, it's just different.

[–] Portosian@sh.itjust.works 0 points 12 hours ago

I have an autistic parent. Family that I had to rely on as a child. Autism is not a positive thing. It doesn't make you a bad person or somehow morally less, but it does make you an emotional drain on everone you interact with.

[–] DaGeek247@fedia.io 9 points 1 day ago

Yeah vaccines being good/bad is one set of politics. It's a whole other thing to add autism in just to use it as a reason to hate something else.

[–] sumguyonline@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago

Autism or death? And she chose autism apparently.

[–] ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling@lemmy.dbzer0.com 11 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Thankfully my mom was one of these. She became anti-vax after I got my first shots; I think she was a bit traumatized by seeing her little baby be so scared and then so sick, but thats just how vaccines work. She believes all the nonsense about heavy metals in the vaccines and 5g radio waves in the needle giving us autism, but she also believes that they do work and that an autistic child is better than a dead child. Therefore, I was a fully vaccinated child and all my shots were on time.

[–] IndiBrony@lemmy.world 9 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (1 children)

5g radio waves in the needle

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How does that work then? 😂

[–] ThisIsAManWhoKnowsHowToGling@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Idk. I was exaggerating, but if memory serves during COVID there was a conspiracy theory that the new 5G towers could interact with heavy metals in the COVID vaccine and do...something? Dad and I still got our boosters.

[–] metallic_z3r0@infosec.pub 3 points 15 hours ago

Yeah I remember that, my guest network's SSID is still '[HIDDEN]5G_COVID19_#7738', because I found it funny at the time and never bothered to change it.

[–] shoulderoforion@fedia.io 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Robert DeNiro has a child with Autism he is absolutely positively convinced was caused by vaccines, he's shushed a lot in public, but it's a rock solid belief of his. I have no idea what to say except, the science says it's not true, so I either believe one man's (more than that but still) personal experience and unimaginable pain at the unfairness of life, or I believe demonstrable scientifically tested fact. I go with the later, but still with Bobby well.

[–] Pandemanium@lemm.ee 1 points 12 hours ago

What gets me is the people so concerned about vaccines seem to completely ignore PFAS, pesticides, and the spoonfuls of microplastic we're finding in people's brains, cells, everywhere. Like, sure, something could be causing more autism, but why single out vaccines when there are so many other things it could be?