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Discord was already succumbing to enshitification. Now with their intention to be owned by Wall Street, that trajectory will certainly accelerate at warp speed once the change of hands happens.

Anyone already get ahead of this and find a solid alternative?

Right now I'm on the fence between Element for Matrix, and Revolt. Both seem to have their pros and cons and I can't find a clear "winner".

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[–] OccultIconoclast@reddthat.com 3 points 10 hours ago
[–] pory@lemmy.world 107 points 21 hours ago (3 children)

it's Element/Matrix if we're lucky. Revolt is just another Discord - surely this single company will last! With Element/Matrix being an open protocol, it won't be a "platform" you have to leave when it goes corporate.

[–] kitnaht@lemmy.world 62 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (9 children)

Revolt is F/OSS

https://github.com/revoltchat/

It's not just a company with a clone of Discord, all the server back end, etc is open.

[–] renegadespork@lemmy.jelliefrontier.net 74 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Yes, which is good, but the lack of federation is a deal-breaker. It means that you either:

  1. Use their servers - This requires entrusting them with your communities, just like Discord.
  2. Host your own private instance - You can control it, but the lack of federation means it'll be isolated from communicating with other communities. This makes it really difficult to convince people to use your self-hosted servers.

Until Revolt adds a way for different instances to federate, Matrix is really the only other option.

[–] aleq@lemmy.world 25 points 19 hours ago (6 children)

My experience with Matrix is that the federation itself is a deal breaker. I have a pretty beefy server and good connection which was getting ddosed by running Matrix and timing out on so many requests for avatars/profiles etc. Maybe I did something wrong, but the whole experience rendered me quite skeptical to the viability of it as a federated chat.

That said I've had nothing but good experiences using it with big servers set up by pros.

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[–] acockworkorange@mander.xyz 8 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

Nheko provides an interface that is reminiscent of Discord. Fully featured and fast Matrix client.

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[–] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 11 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Avoid Revolt as there moderation is questionable

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 4 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Wym moderation? Aren't you moderating your own server?

[–] possiblylinux127@lemmy.zip 3 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

There is a single instance everyone is on

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 2 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

Ah ok, yeah in that case yes. Only solution to this would be federation. But matrix is nowhere there yet in terms of normie usability.

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[–] Forester@pawb.social 88 points 21 hours ago* (last edited 21 hours ago) (6 children)

Honestly, I am ready to go straight back to TeamSpeak.

I miss hosting my own server and having full access and control over it

I used to just host it on a piece of shit. 2003 Dell XP machine I put Ubuntu on

[–] MentalEdge@sopuli.xyz 16 points 16 hours ago (4 children)

There is also Mumble. TS3 era voip and text chat features, but it's FOSS.

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[–] Bahnd@lemmy.world 29 points 21 hours ago (6 children)

Hell yah, TS3 crew all the way. (Or TS5 for the zoomers...)

My nerds herd recently also set up a cluster of Matrix Synapse servers so we got our little "We have Telegram at home" set up. Getting non-tech people to accept that this is how to find me has been tricky without sounding like a digital prepper.

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[–] MilitantAtheist@lemmy.world 43 points 21 hours ago (5 children)

An alternative would need screen share, just voip is not enough any more.

[–] MrSpArkle@lemmy.ca 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

Most of the discords I’m on never use screen share for anything.

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[–] Enkers@sh.itjust.works 26 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (1 children)

The problem is that performant screenshare (to multiple users) more or less requires infrastructure. That requires money, and it's impossible to compete on price with services that have the VC-enshitification model.

You can get around this in a few ways, but they're all tradeoffs that are in some way or other worse than discord.

  • P2P - sacrifice latency, reliability
  • direct multi-stream - sacrifice PC performance and/or bitrate
  • paid infrastructure - sacrifice money
[–] foggenbooty@lemmy.world 24 points 17 hours ago

I think P2P is still the way to go. Sure it's not perfect, but it's simpler and by it's very nature doesn't require the infrastructure we know will be a problem.

Plus, don't forget screen sharing in discord isn't very good as is (720p30) if you're not a paid user.

[–] riquisimo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

What if you had OBS create a "camera" of your screen, and then use that through video chat?

[–] Raptorox@sh.itjust.works 15 points 15 hours ago

Ah, the good old "screenshare not working on wayland" workaround!

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[–] assaultpotato@sh.itjust.works 38 points 21 hours ago (4 children)

I'm running a Matrix server with a FB Messenger bridge via mautrix-meta and that makes it a clear winner. Half my group chats have migrated entirely since I've set my close friends up with accounts in my server and they also use the bridge. The fact that people can slowly migrate chats without losing messages or groups is killer for adoption imo.

[–] johntash@eviltoast.org 2 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

Are you saying you can import chat history with a bridge some how? I don't remember that being an issue, but would be very handy

[–] assaultpotato@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 hours ago

I'm messaging Facebook users over Matrix via the bridge.

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[–] communist@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 4 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Element/matrix all the way

if you want something that looks like discord there are themes for the clients, there's even commet.chat for a discord like experience (but they haven't added calls yet)

[–] TheSambassador@lemmy.world 11 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

Calls and easily sharing my screen are 90% of my use cases for Discord. The entire appeal of it initially was that it was a more functional Ventrilo with both text and voice channels. Hopefully something FOSS gets further developed by the time Discord completely shits the bed.

[–] communist@lemmy.frozeninferno.xyz 2 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

Then i'd recommend the element client in particular.

https://github.com/aaronraimist/element-themes/tree/master/Discord

^^ there's also this!

[–] candyman337@sh.itjust.works 21 points 19 hours ago

https://spacebar.chat/ looks like it will eventually be good, it looks like it's in its infancy right now though

[–] stopforgettingit@lemmy.dbzer0.com 26 points 20 hours ago (9 children)

man I wish mumble had a better interface and a chat function, it could real FOSS competition with Discord, but the lack of a chat feature is holding it back

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[–] Xanza@lemm.ee 24 points 20 hours ago (4 children)

It never made sense to me how popular discord was to begin with.

[–] acockworkorange@mander.xyz 25 points 16 hours ago (3 children)
  • persistent IRC style chat rooms
  • virtual “servers” to organize said chat rooms, manage privileges, control visibility
  • integration with bots for all sorts of things (moderation, user welcome, dice rollers, etc.)
  • integration with games/music players/etc (I don’t use it but it’s very popular)
  • privacy and moderation controls
  • client allows fine grained notification controls
  • voice, video, and screen casting simultaneously
  • “server” templates: use an existing server config (roles, permissions, rooms, etc.) when creating a new server.

That’s just off the top of my head.

It’s enshittifying, but the value proposition is still hard to beat. I’m really hoping Matrix catches up with the feature set soon.

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[–] pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 13 hours ago

Other voice chat programs were crap, discord was significantly better and more consistent. Simple as. It still has features way ahead of other services. The business side is shitty but it works without anyone needing to know anything with no troubleshooting.

[–] HarkMahlberg@kbin.earth 31 points 20 hours ago (3 children)

@Xanza@lemm.ee Among my friends, it replaced Facebook Messenger, Teamspeak, and Mumble instantly. It was fast and the voice quality was excellent. The appeal in 2017 was obvious. The bloat that it had tacked onto it since then is egregious.

Don't get me started on the "rewards"...

[–] Appoxo@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 17 hours ago

Don't forget free servers.
On TS3 it was to either know a friend that rented/hosted it, rent/host it yourself or use a public server.

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[–] u_u@lemmy.dbzer0.com 14 points 19 hours ago

It used to be fast and not full of useless bloat like what you see right now. The usual enshittification.

[–] Ulrich@feddit.org 8 points 17 hours ago (10 children)

If you're self hosting, it's Revolt. But the default instance limits you to 20mb or something for files, which is a problem for me, personally.

[–] EncryptKeeper@lemmy.world 9 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Revolt is also an annoyance to self host and the apps don’t support self hosted instances without you rebuilding them because the server is hardcoded.

[–] rickyrigatoni@lemm.ee 8 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Why even give the option then lmao

[–] EncryptKeeper@lemmy.world 6 points 15 hours ago

That’s just it, it isn’t an option

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