Whatever you say you fucking dumbass
this post was submitted on 21 Mar 2025
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No. Thumbs up means that I agree with you. I know that the younger generation has started interpreting a thumbs up as something negative though, which just blows my mind.
It's not the thumbs up in itself that is seen as rude, but the short dismissive affirmative.
Someone that sees it as rude would feel like they put effort into their message and expect some kind of effort back in the reply,
the single emoji response can also make it seem like you didn't even care to read it, and just say replied with something to make them shut up.
Right, but sometimes you just need to say "I've read what you said. Sounds good to me. No need to keep discussing.", especially when organising things.
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No, you need therapy
If I react to a message with a π it's innocuous, but if I reply to a message π it's actually me being passive aggressive like I can't be bothered to type a real response
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Huh? Maybe I'm strange... But sometimes I give a thumbs up emoji here on Lemmy when I agree with someones argument and have nothing more to add because I 100% agree with the content !
Never though It could be interpreted as rude :/
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It depend on the context/group.
At work, no biggie, it just tells me that you acknowledge my message and currently have nothing useful to add.
With my friends, who usually heavily rely on emojis and "oldtimey smileys" (like xD or y.y)? Ya, unless you completely eminate happiness and friendship, I'm concerned about your mood / standing with me.
I'm with you but it's a generational thing. Are you a millennial?
No big deal at all
I'm going to say it's not a "you" problem, but a "who you're surrounded by" problem. Is this something you're used to percieving accurately? Do you have friends or family who would actually mean it rudely? Because, as others have mentioned, I simply would not be able to function at work if I interpreted π as rude/sarcastic.
I have to assume you're young or your work doesn't involve communicating with coworkers or clients over text. I'd also be curious if you look back at this post 5-10 years from now and think "wtf was I on about?" (I'd also be curious if civilization still exists 5-10 years from now, but I digress...)
I donβt, and I use it all the time. That said, I try to be mindful of context. For example, if Iβm going to a party and someone texts saying to grab ice or something: π
Conversely, if someone is texting to say their dog died, or congratularions of a big achievement: !π
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Never in the history of me sending thumb responses in work chats has it ever meant βwhatever you say you fucking dumbass.β
It's primarily used to show acknowledgement. It's the office worker equivalent of "10-4."
Seems like you have some pretty serious projection issues to work out OP lol
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Whatever you say you fucking dumbass π
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Not β¦ really ? Don't think I ever seen it used in ways that could be read that way , not sure wy some one would use it like that either
It's possible you have dealt with more than your fair share of sarcastic passive aggressive people in your life so far. Most people give a ππΌ as a confirmation, like "OK". Its especially common when someone is bust, like if they're driving or in a meeting, or trying to think.
I've read that Gen z doesn't like this as a response. I think it's just ok
I can respond with π and if people don't like it then next time I probably wouldn't respond to there texts with anything at all. The thumbs up IS me putting in the extra effort to acknowledge & respond to received messages. Also, it was my avatar on my previous college online profile.
Just try to remember that there is almost always more than one way to interpret a body of text even if it's a single character.
Depends on context but mainly it just means 'Okay!' or 'Go ahead!'
You see it as dismissive. Low effort reply, like they couldn't be bothered. It's not inviting continued conversation so you see it as someone telling you to stop talking to them.
If I were to guess. In your eyes. They might as well have replied with "cool story bro".
Which is now forever a sarcastic term and no one regardless of what you say, will believe that you actually found their story cool.