Me and husband each have our own blankets and sheets and such on the one king bed. Cause he's a furnace and I'd explode if I got that hot. It's much nicer.
Showerthoughts
A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. The most popular seem to be lighthearted clever little truths, hidden in daily life.
Here are some examples to inspire your own showerthoughts:
- Both “200” and “160” are 2 minutes in microwave math
- When you’re a kid, you don’t realize you’re also watching your mom and dad grow up.
- More dreams have been destroyed by alarm clocks than anything else
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- The entire showerthought must be in the title
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- If your topic is in a grey area, please phrase it to emphasize the fascinating aspects, not the dramatic aspects. You can do this by avoiding overly politicized terms such as "capitalism" and "communism". If you must make comparisons, you can say something is different without saying something is better/worse.
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If you made it this far, showerthoughts is accepting new mods. This community is generally tame so its not a lot of work, but having a few more mods would help reports get addressed a little sooner.
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I sleep better when I’m next to my wife.
I also sleep better when I'm next to your wife
... Sorry, my pre-Lemmy internet use has corrupted me.
Married and swear by seperate beds. It's amazing if you've got the space. But it is good to make sure you get plenty of "lying about in bed together" time. But it's great to be able to go off to your own bed after for a peaceful, undisturbed sleep. And being able to read a night or get dressed in the morning without worrying about disturbing your partner.
I've dated one person who could not bear to be touched at all in her sleep (but she insisted on sharing the same bed, which made things awkward for me) and another person who snored, but I think that humans probably generally sleep better together. It isn't a sexual thing - look at non-human animals and how they often sleep cuddled up together. As a kid, I shared a bed with my grandfather (we lived in a small apartment) and I would fall asleep hugging him, and as an adult I slept better when I could cuddle up with my dog.
And how is the chocolate factory business?
Come with me
And you will see
A world of OSHA violations
I guess I’m in the minority that I have a harder time sleeping without my spouse than with. I realized about six months in that I’d rapidly developed some sort of dependence where I would fall asleep quickly if I spooned her. She had surgery in January and spent several weeks in the guest room so she could avoid the stairs, so we’ve tried being apart. It is nice if you have the space/budget for a king bed, though, to spread out from each other some.
The idea about separate beds is that that needn't be separated, sometimes they could be pushed together.
But then someone gets stuck in the crack in the middle, which will lead to arguments and divorce.
The Thin man did have the perfect marriage...
We all sleep alone soundly
XD XD XD
Oh my sweet summer child...
Wah? You wanna cuddle?
Ass to ass.
Best sleep (on side):
- Medium-thick, soft, flexible, cotten, blanket
- Head pillow compressed to single shoulder height
- Cuddle pillow to support top shoulder
- Sleep mask to prevent light disruption
- Partner ass to ass
- Cat on top to hold everything down
My wife and I have separate sheets and blankets, it's almost like our own beds. It's some good sleep.
Unless you have sleep apnea, the key then is to get a sleep study, and get a cpap. It changed so much for my wife
I too will testify to the power of the CPAP!
I was diagnosed with Sleep Apena and refused to use it.
I am not putting that stupid thing on my face at night.
Well when the MVA told me that if I didn’t show logs of usage I would loose my divers license i started.
It took one night to convince me it was the greatest thing ever, and I felt so stupid for not using it sooner.
My wife actually thought something was wrong because I was so “quiet” when I slept.
Sleep Apena is no bullshit and it is amazing how much it was dragging me down.
Nah. My wife snores like hell, but I can't fall asleep when she isn't there.
It took me a few years to convince my partner that sleeping separately would be a good idea. He snores and I am a very light sleeper. It has improved our relationship to sleep apart. Since I talk to my friends about it, I know that many of them also sleep apart and credit it for being able to stay happily married instead of being sleep deprived and always mad at their partner. On vacation, we often go back to sharing a bed.
I agree. My wife and I fought against separate beds for a long time, but some things went down that required us to have alternate sleep schedules so that forced us to do it.
That was 12 years ago and we have had separate bedrooms ever since.
We have since learned that pretty much all of our friends who have been married for significant number of years sleep in separate beds. Sleeping is such an important part of living and a huge impact on QoL. So once you accept that quality sleep is a basic need and not a referendum on the state of the marriage it just solves a set of problems.
I struggle to sleep without my husband. I need my feet to touch his, at least. We share a queen bed, even use the same blanket (it is a King blanket though). Im really surprised so many folks don't sleep in the same bed at their partner here. Nothing wrong with it, I'm just surprised.
Maybe things will change when we are older, but I couldn't imagine.
I am kind of incredulous that anyone actually sleeps better with a whole separate person in the bed. It gets too hot and you both wake up whenever the other one uses the bathroom, or if you don't go to bed at the same time, or if you don't get up at the same time. Just from those basic mechanics it seems to defy logic that actual sleep quality, beyond some intangible aesthetic, wouldn't be negatively impacted.
My ideal living situation with a partner would be:
Two entirely separate living areas with individual bedrooms, plus a third area for both of us that also has a bed.
So in other words, I'll probably be single forever.
I mean, that's how it's like with my third partner, so I think you'll be okay.
(Note: we are poly, not cheating with HR)
I sleep much better when my wife is nearby. We have a super king though so she isn't exactly smushed against me, she's just nearby.
Works great if you have extra rooms around your house for each person. Must be freaking nice.
I sleep much better accompanied. I'm single at the moment and it's been dreary.
I also need to sleep alone. Everyone is different. My wife stirs so much that it's better to sleep in separate beds and have ehmmm surprise night visits.
I'm a fan of the big bed and separate blankets strategy. It's similar, but you don't have to get up to cuddle, you just scootch closer.
I sleep so much better with my wife. Unless I snore, then I get kicked awake all night
I like John Hodgman's suggestion: Couples should sleep in two beds, in two villas, separated by a reflecting pool.
I mean, I would like it if I could afford it.
Me and my husband HAVE to have separate beds. He moves around a lot and it's like being in an earthquake.
Everyone's gonna have different needs, but I've benefited a lot from having the option to sleep separately. Having a second bed set up means it can happen whenever we need, or accommodate if more people need to stay over.
Sometimes I'll need to stretch out in a weird way or I'll get muscle spasms that would keep us both up, so it's a no brainer to sleep separately. Sometimes mentally I need the space too, but otherwise I really do like falling asleep with someone. So it's like a 50/50 if it will work for me on any given night. My nesting partner tends to fall asleep a lot faster so usually I'll cuddle her to sleep and then get back up, bumble around a little bit then go sleep in my bed. It works out great for the both of us!
I uses to suffer from night terrors regularly that mostly went away when I started sleeping with SO. Thay being said we do sleep better in a long size bed then in the standard twin we have at home. So maybe the issue is space.
I sleep better snuggled up against someone.