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[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 151 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (2 children)

A love for women is the biggest risk factor for violent crime.

[–] neukenindekeuken@sh.itjust.works 52 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Alternatively, the qualities that make you lust after women tend to lead to more violent crimes.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 52 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

Alternatively; crime is hot AF and the only way I've ever gotten laid.

Edit: doing sexy crimes that got people to momemtarily ignore the red flags. Not sex crimes. Not sex crimes at the time; we'll see what counts by winter.

[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 21 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

This comment is fucking hilarious. Just imagining you writing this and then realising the implications is peak hahahaha

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[–] yeahiknow3@lemmings.world 11 points 4 weeks ago

There it is.

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[–] frustrated_phagocytosis@fedia.io 119 points 4 weeks ago (5 children)

Straight women probably commit way more crime but get away with it more frequently. I know I do. Also where are the bi criminals? Are there none? Did we just solve crime?

[–] TheRealKuni@lemmy.world 47 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

That’s silly, imagining that people exist on a spectrum. Don’t you know everything in life is black and white, either or, binary?

The Kinsey scale only contains 0 and 6 for a reason. If there were any numbers between 0 and 6, people might think the world was complex and nuanced or something.

[–] explodicle@sh.itjust.works 8 points 4 weeks ago

I always forget which one is 6 and then guess wrong.

[–] germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 42 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Psst, we’re using our invisibility to leave no trace while committing crime

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[–] silasmariner@programming.dev 32 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Bi people are too emotionally fulfilled to want to crime

[–] _AutumnMoon_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

I'm supposed to be emotionally fulfilled?

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[–] joyjoy@lemmy.zip 89 points 4 weeks ago (8 children)

"Be gay, do crime" is only relevant to women.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 51 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

No we're just better at it.

[–] IAmNorRealTakeYourMeds@lemmy.world 32 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Better at talking about it without implicating ones self?

[–] Wirlocke@lemmy.blahaj.zone 24 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Who's to say gay men don't do more white collar crime?

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 8 points 4 weeks ago

I jaywalk a lot, but they decriminalized it lately

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[–] sorrybookbroke@sh.itjust.works 64 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (2 children)

I wonder if this is a case of men not reporting sexual violence as commonly often due to societal expectations. At least to a point that is.

Edit: Also, many police won't follow through with male reports of violence particularly sexual violence.

[–] silasmariner@programming.dev 29 points 4 weeks ago

In some contexts there's no doubt you have a point, but liberal western cities I suspect that has no more impact than, say, the tendency of women to underreport domestic and sexual violence. Anyway I would imagine that a bigger factor is criminal perpetrators underreporting their own gayness

[–] TheFinn@discuss.tchncs.de 16 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I was about to say the same thing. Women will report violence from women, men are going to be less inclined to.

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 15 points 4 weeks ago

And i imagine a lot of gay men have the attitude that if they report intimate partner violence it will come back to hurt them in one way or another.

I know as a trans woman if I were to report violence from a cis woman I'd likely be reframed as the perpetrator and if I were to report violence from a trans woman it would be framed as "trans woman commits violent crime" and used to hurt me.

[–] frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone 59 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

Interesting because there's a very old gay stereotype that they're extremely violent. These days, it's usually that gay men are effeminate and passive, and I think a lot of people don't even realize this stereotype existed.

Baron Harkonnen and Scar (The Lion King) are examples.

[–] peregrin5@piefed.social 29 points 4 weeks ago

Jafar. i don't think these characters often represent violent crime though. more often just deviousness

[–] infinitesunrise@slrpnk.net 22 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Captain Hook, evil dandy trope.

The Baron Harkonnen example is interesting because the author was admittedly homophobic when he wrote the character, but later regretted the choice after making amends with his gay son.

[–] Taalnazi@lemmy.world 20 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (2 children)

Examples of that older stereotype, you mean?

I'd never have guessed Scar were gay.

[–] frezik@lemmy.blahaj.zone 48 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Disney never comes right out and says these things about their cartoons. Ursula is based directly on the drag artist Divine, but you won't catch a Disney executive admitting that.

But yes, Scar is basically the gay uncle.

[–] UnrefinedChihuahua@lemmy.dbzer0.com 9 points 4 weeks ago (10 children)

Not doubting, but can I read someone's commentary that explains this more?

[–] Catoblepas@piefed.blahaj.zone 19 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

https://time.com/6282514/little-mermaid-ursula-drag-queen-divine/

Ursula is pretty easy to understand, because that’s so 1:1 with Divine and there are direct confirmations.

With Scar one of the supervising animators, Andreas Deja, is openly gay (now, not at the time because it was the 90s) and has spoken about adding campiness and other gay influence to his work.

With other examples it’s a bit more difficult, because to understand it you need to understand how the Hays Code affected the portrayal of queer people on screen. The short version is that queer people weren’t allowed to be overtly portrayed at all, so any characters with queer coded behavior (by 30s to 60s standards) wound up as villains. As this becomes more entrenched in media, these mannerisms became shorthand for villain, so by the time the 90s rolls around the people referencing these tropes might not be familiar with their origin.

For the long version, see the documentary The Celluloid Closet.

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[–] VinesNFluff@pawb.social 7 points 4 weeks ago

The stage musical version tried to no-homo him

.... By turning him into an attempted rapist instead.

[–] adhocfungus@midwest.social 46 points 4 weeks ago (13 children)

I'd definitely believe the top two. My oldest sister seems to only date dudes that end up beating her, but my other sister has been put in the hospital by every woman she's dated. I know it's slim pickings, and rural Midwest lesbians have a lot to be mad about, but stop taking it out on each other! There are more deserving targets.

[–] Ilovethebomb@sh.itjust.works 9 points 4 weeks ago

Jesus, I'd take a vow of celibacy at that point.

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[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 45 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)
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[–] PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 4 weeks ago

I hate the datamancer of this chart- if you have 'heterosexual men/women' the other bars should be labelled 'homosexual men/women'

And listing them alphabetically instead of by grouping or delinquency is also mildly irksome.

[–] LodeMike@lemmy.today 32 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Commit or get convicted of (hint: its impossible to measure crimes commited)

[–] ChonkyOwlbear@lemmy.world 14 points 4 weeks ago (3 children)

Assuming this is from the NISVS, it is a self-reported victim survey.

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[–] Olgratin_Magmatoe@slrpnk.net 25 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I guess bisexuals do literally 0 crime.

[–] Im_old@lemmy.world 14 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

No they do the sum of all crimes! Dark lords! 😂

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[–] PalmTreeIsBestTree@lemmy.world 22 points 4 weeks ago (6 children)

A school friend of mine was shot in the back of the head by her lesbian lover a year after we graduated high school.

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[–] Phen@lemmy.eco.br 18 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

Is there any average differences in hormones between gay and straight people of the same gender?

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[–] peregrin5@piefed.social 18 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

come on brothers. be gay do crime!

[–] InvalidName2@lemmy.zip 19 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

This morning I drove to the post office going 38 mph when the speed limit is 35. Last week I checked my phone at the social security office when the guard was distracted. Next week, who knows what depravity I may commit.

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[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 18 points 4 weeks ago

Them: "Are you just just going to bend over and take that?!?"

Me:

[–] irelephant@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 4 weeks ago

We can pump these numbers up

[–] Electric_Druid@lemmy.world 11 points 4 weeks ago

I support the message, but sure would like more info on the y axis: what exactly are 4 points of violent delinquency? How does that compare to 6, or 1?

[–] muusemuuse@sh.itjust.works 9 points 4 weeks ago

These are rookie numbers. Come on gays, we can do better.

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