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Divorcees of Lemmy, why did your marriage end? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by bleistift2@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I wonder what causes people who once thought they’d spend their life together to not want to do that anymore.

Has your partner changed? Or did they not change when you expected them to? Have you changed?

Have you not noticed each others’ flaws when love was young and the pink glasses still worked and only discovered them later?

And what can your experience teach us about our own relationships?

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[–] Jimmycrackcrack@lemmy.ml 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I felt every word of this and it's so hard and so unfair. I'm really sorry life dealt you this hand and all it's associated costs. Did you and she part on good terms at least? If you'd been the one to wrap things up a year sooner maybe she'd have taken it hard anyway for assuming she wouldn't be committed to you. It might be important that she knows you don't hold any sense of blame or resentment for how it turned out.

Hope you find that happy equilibrium accepting help from your folks eventually, they want to see you well just as much as you want to be well I imagine.

[–] christian@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 day ago

It's very hard to talk about but I had a mental breakdown worse than I had ever imagined was possible. I have almost a full week after that I have no memory of, but after being taken to the hospital I have a lot of memories that are still extremely vivid in my mind of experiences there that did not actually happen in reality. I was living in an alternate universe for about three or four weeks.

So the answer is that initially we had parted on good terms, but right now our contact is entirely formal, I assume to look out for her own mental health.