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Wait, so people IRL find out you're American and start making school shooting jokes at you? I thought I was supposed to have bad social skills.
Yeah. To be totally fair, it’s not a lot of people percentage wise, but it’s a lot of jokes for me to experience because I work at a busy bakery, and chat with easily a hundred people in a shift. I probably get ~10 casual jokes about mass shootings in a week, most of which are about schools, but not all.
It happens more in social gatherings like larger parties or when playing with strangers at a game store, but I can push back more there, so it’s not as bothersome.
I really struggle to imagine how that comes up at a bakery of all places. Like how does the conversation even goes there? And what are the "jokes"? I can maybe picture making a remark like "oh you're American? Moved here to escape mass shootings?" or something but even that is so out of place at the bakery, I'm just there to pick up bread, the most I'd chat about even in France where we love to chat is like the weather or whatever, no way I'm gonna start talking about deeper topics or the baker's life story and stuff.
Various ways, really. People ask me to please not shoot up the university here; they say that I’m probably used to [the sound of a car backfiring] because I went to school in the US; they remark that kids these days are impolite, but at least they don’t shoot up schools like where I’m from; they ask if my backpack is bulletproof.
Wow thats so triggering. I'm sorry. I was going to a school nearby Sandy Hook and my school went into lockdown for a few hours and all the parents had to pick up their kids early. My mom told me not to turn the radio on when she went into the store.. What else was I suppose to do, as I was listening to the horror that occurred. We went to a Christmas party after that and basically everyone there was shocked. My school made a prayer chain and we walked in the memorial. Sandy Hook was bad and 13 years later people still are shooting up schools at a exponential level. I remember specifically last year that not a day went by without a school shooting after returning from Covid. From a guy from Waterbury, I'm glad you got out!