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[–] TerranFenrir@lemmy.ca 5 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

That definitely is the case with me (say in around 70% of cases?).

I think in my mind, people that are my type = attractive. I want to be attractive. Therefore, my ideal look = the body type I am attracted to. Thankfully, I have almost achieved my ideal "look" or whatever.

So yeah, I do look like people I have sex with usually.

[–] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 1 points 1 hour ago

That is exactly my line of thinking.

[–] randomname@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 hour ago

yeah I would find someone like me decently attractive. but I still find myself repulsive when I look in the mirror lmao.

[–] Semjaza@lemmynsfw.com 4 points 4 hours ago

Nope, with same gender folk I find they usually have something striking or unusual in their appearance and I'm far too normal middle of the road looking to fit that.

[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 0 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

politics, values, and kinks are way more important than appearance

[–] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 5 points 3 hours ago

Yeah, but i asked especially if you or anyone looked like someone they would like to have sex with.

So, do yo?

(This is just a chill and funny question, pal. Just play along if you will)
[–] CelloMike@lemmy.world 10 points 10 hours ago

My husband and I have been mistaken for brothers before so... Yeah

[–] USSMojave@startrek.website 18 points 16 hours ago (1 children)

I'm an androgynous twink who is into bears. There is no overlap

[–] weeeeum@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago

I'm a bear into androgynous twinks. There is also no overlap

[–] Witchfire@lemmy.world 14 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

No

I have a type. I'm not that type.

[–] DoubleDongle@lemmy.world 24 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

I think I kinda did ten or fifteen years ago, but I'm a bear/dad now and I'm much more into rugged women than rugged men. My taste in men runs twink-ish, usually.

My wife has aged similarly though, which very much works for me.

[–] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 9 points 18 hours ago

That's fair, My taste in men also leans more towards twinks, and currently I look kind of twink-y. But maybe if I keep gaining weight and muscle, while I don't think I'll end up looking "bad", maybe I'll stop being my type.

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 11 points 18 hours ago

I would totally fuck me.

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 8 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 17 hours ago)
[–] grasshopper_mouse@lemmy.world 9 points 17 hours ago

No, I like both men and women with dark hair/eyes/complexion and I look the complete opposite. I definitely have a type. Oddly, my brother, though straight, has the same preferences in women and he and I look alike.

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 60 points 1 day ago (1 children)

not anymore, my wife made me get a haircut

on the plus side, I now look more like someone she would have sex with

[–] Una@europe.pub 28 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Something tells me she knew what she was doing with making you get a haircut

[–] Nemo@slrpnk.net 26 points 1 day ago

she did, which is why I listened when she told me it was time

[–] Walk_blesseD@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 17 hours ago
[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 7 points 18 hours ago

Yeah. I'm definitely my type

[–] PrivateNoob@sopuli.xyz 12 points 21 hours ago (2 children)
[–] illi@lemm.ee 15 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

In that case... go fuck yourself!

[–] slaneesh_is_right@lemmy.org 11 points 19 hours ago

Respectfully

[–] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 5 points 21 hours ago

HELL YEAH!!

[–] SharkAttak@kbin.melroy.org 32 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'm glad that as a straight, this doesn't apply to me, cause I have a twin brother and would've made for an awkward question.

[–] slaneesh_is_right@lemmy.org 6 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

Somehow i wonder what the odds are of a twin being straight while the other is gay. Or if the odds are higher for both twins to be gay?

[–] BigBrainBrett2517@lemmy.world 3 points 18 hours ago

I have a client who's SO's twin brother is not gay. I don't know what the odds are, of course, but this is proof that it can occur! I suppose it goes without saying they cannot be identical.

[–] Evkob@lemmy.ca 23 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I'm super cute, generally a mess, and emotionally unavailable.

I'm definitely my type.

[–] CarbonatedPastaSauce@lemmy.world 5 points 17 hours ago

Pretty sure I dated you for a couple weeks last month.

[–] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago

That's the attitude!

[–] tomsh@lemmy.ml 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Not gay but I have sex with my arm regularly

[–] dumblederp@aussie.zone 9 points 21 hours ago

Yeah but I'm thinking about someone else's arm.

No. I have a type and I'm not it.

Absolutely. I don't have a type, but definitely find myself attractive.

[–] tissek@sopuli.xyz 4 points 21 hours ago

I'd do me any day of the week.

[–] jessicablaze@lemmynsfw.com 10 points 1 day ago

No. Perhaps similar features but I'd want someone a bit different.

[–] 30p87@feddit.org 9 points 1 day ago
[–] RedditIsDeddit@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] turtlesareneat@discuss.online 13 points 19 hours ago (1 children)

For many gay men, the “Do I want to date him or be him?” Issue can cut hard, so I’m not sure it’s that weird.

[–] RedditIsDeddit@lemmy.world 1 points 18 hours ago

I mean, that sounds like a different problem to me.

[–] NONE_dc@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago

Yeah, right?