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Who here cries at TV shows or movies? (discuss.tchncs.de)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by dependencyinjection@discuss.tchncs.de to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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I’m asking as I’m trying to understand empathy and whether it’s normal to get so invested in fake characters, I mean it’s probably a testament to the writers but I overthink… a lot.

This question was bright on as I’ve been catching up on The Blacklist and at lunch today watching Season 8 Episode name “Anne “ and it wrecked me.

Tap for spoiler

Basically the main character Red has to live a guarded life and for once he let it form and got close to Anne and you could tell shit was going to go downhill and it destroyed me when you think about it from his or her perspective.

For reference I’m 41 year old dude, not that it matters.

Edit: Bedtime for me but back tomorrow to reply to all.

Edit 2: I’ve got 41 comments to respond to. Currently working but I’ll be back y’all.

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[–] gamer@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

The only movie that legit made me cry was Seven Pounds with Will Smith. I only saw it once, and I tried real goddamn hard to suppress the tears, but a few leaked out. Luckily, none of the people I watched it with noticed, so my masculinity remained in-tact.

I’m asking as I’m trying to understand empathy and whether it’s normal to get so invested in fake characters,

Fuck yeah it is. It's a beautiful thing to be so moved by something that it brings you to tears (especially art). It's what makes us human: we're not just mindless beasts trying to eat and fuck, we're experiencing life to its fullest.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 1 points 1 week ago

Yeah, I do. It just depends on what it is and what headspace I'm in. The worst one was I Saw the TV Glow. It was right around the time Trump got elected.

Major spoilers.

There have been times in the past where I feel like I'm getting close to being suicidal (idk how to phrase it, sort of like a yellow flag thing) and I always just felt like "the writing was bad." Like surely there is something controlling my life and not just that, it's bad writing.

The story of the movie is very meta. The main character is told that they are not in fact a normal person living a normal life, but they are actually a character from their favorite childhood show. The series ended on a cliff hanger. The main villain of the series locked the main characters into a nightmare. The other character reveals this to the main character.

The movie is just already really good and hits a lot of gender things for me and was sort of sad because of that... But the tantalizingly feeling of being able to just escape to a better reality by something so simple as offing yourself is terrifying. It hit startlingly close to a bunch of themes I already experienced for whatever reason. Like feeling like my life is fake and part of a show or movie. And seeing it just gave me this dread. Like those stories where people hear someone trying to talk to them from outside of a coma. And it happened in a period when I was, idk, I guess just extremely pessimistic about the state of the world. It was awful. (Not in a bad way, just the feeling.)

I'm just glad I watched it with a bunch of friends who were also queer and many gender queer. I hadn't even come out to my friends yet about that topic, and I don't think I have either, but I'd seen a lot of people say the movie was really devastating because of that stuff, so I knew going in to be ready. But... Wow. The reality escaping stuff just came totally out of left field and it's not even something I knew to be wary of in content or anything.

I'll close with this. The movie is good, I enjoyed it over all, but that hit like a sledgehammer. Also, I am safe. None of these things are anywhere close to attempts or ideations or anything of the matter.

[–] OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml 1 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Anyone here watch K Dramas? Crash Landing on You emotionally broke me. I knew they couldn't keep portraying North Korea as good, but they didn't have to do all that....

[–] JeremyHuntQW12@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

I saw on video but I would have cried if I had seen Speed 2 at the cinema.

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 1 points 1 week ago

I cry depending on how engaging the story and characters are. Also, depends on what’s going on in my life. After the end of a relationship or loss of a loved one, I might be more sensitive and raw. Similar demographic to you.

[–] selkiesidhe@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

All the time. I mean, I got misty over Smoke's death scene in Sinners lol

Wanna have sad happy tears? Videos of nervy squervy cats. Poor sweet things trying to live their best lives but have trouble moving! Omg 😭❤️😭

[–] embed_me@programming.dev 1 points 1 week ago

I don't usually cry during movies. But sometimes later when I'm thinking about it I let out a tear or two. Also I cried during a voyager documentary

[–] whotookkarl@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Less often with movies/TV/books than music for me, but I'll still tear up to a movie or show sometimes if I don't feel like I'm being beat over the head by the music pushing a feeling than engaged with the story and characters.

[–] Karl@programming.dev 0 points 1 week ago

Cried? Never. But I've sometimes felt bad for them.

I can only cry for myself.

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