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[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 8 points 9 hours ago

Reaching radicalization levels I never thought possible

[–] SparrowHawk@feddit.it 3 points 8 hours ago

feeling like my soul is mad at me for not picking up molotovs

[–] LemmyThinkAboutIt@lemmy.zip 9 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

I'm not okay. My 14 year old doggy just died in my arms on Friday. She was my little best friend, had her since she was 3 months old when we adopted her from a shelter. My old girl was tough as nails, got diabetes the beginning of 2021, gradually went blind. I took care of her and now I don't know what to do with myself. I'm a little darker than usual on the inside now. I miss her.

[–] Passerby6497@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago)

Hey friend, I know this doesn't exactly help, but it will get better eventually. I lost my void of 19 years a few of years ago, and that was harder than losing blood family.

If you can stomach it, (and if not, wait for the initial hurt to pass then) try to have pictures of your girl or stuff you associate with her around you. It took me close to two years to come to terms with losing my old girl, but I can finally do this without immediately bursting into tears, and I'm so much happier now that I can. It's only the paw imprint, but it means a lot more to me.

Take care, and I hope you're doing well

[–] Sixtyforce@sh.itjust.works 2 points 8 hours ago

Stagnation on my personal goals is a blight on my mood, but I'm otherwise okay. 75% okay is pretty good for me.

[–] SkaraBrae@lemmy.world 11 points 13 hours ago (1 children)

I'm really angry. My oldest son's school sent me an email this afternoon lecturing me on his attendance and how it affects his grades and how it makes the school look bad, etc...

We had a few weeks off earlier this year when my grandfather and my mother-in-law died (both suddenly and unexpectedly) within two weeks of each other.

My younger son's school offered assistance, counselling and anything else that they could think of to offer. They were very supportive. My older son's school has just berated us for grieving and supporting each other, our friends and our family. I'm so fucking angry. They know that bereavement was the reason for his absence. Cunts.

[–] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 hours ago

Agreed, the cunts

[–] pleasestopasking@reddthat.com 27 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

Physically? Not great.

Mentally? Bad.

But existentially? Also quite unwell.

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[–] Crankenstein@lemmy.world 7 points 14 hours ago (1 children)
[–] Sorrow3527@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

Very accurate. Just that I dont drink and instead have a pile of work for 10ppl I do by myself

[–] Chozo@fedia.io 27 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Pretty bad. I found out recently that my roommate has been lying to me and spent the rent money I gave him on something else. He hid it from me long enough for it to be irreparable. I can't get my roommate to be honest with me, and the apartment management are refusing to share any information with me (despite me still being on the lease) and won't even accept a payment from me or even tell me what our debt is, so now I'm almost certainly going have to go to court soon to be evicted.

I'm bipolar, so usually a major event like like this would send me either into a manic or a depressive episode. But for the first time that I can recall, I've been finding myself going rapidly between the two states throughout the day.

I know I will be fine. But right now, I'm not fine.

[–] meekah@lemmy.world 1 points 7 hours ago

What the hell? This is so unfair, especially since you are on the lease. Shouldn't they be happy someone is trying to pay the debt? To me it almost sounds a bit like your landlord and roommate may be scheming something... No idea what or why though.

[–] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 7 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

That's unfair to you, and does sound a little bit illegal on their side NGL, good luck to you

[–] Chozo@fedia.io 7 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Thanks, and I agree. I'm not sure what grounds they have to withhold that sort of information from a lessee on. The lack of information from all angles makes it really difficult to prepare, because I have no idea what I need to be preparing for. It's been a very difficult week. :(

[–] ramenshaman@lemmy.world 6 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Check and see if there's an organization in your area called Legal Aid. They're in the SF bay area (and other places) and they do a lot of landlord/tenant stuff pro-bono.

[–] MisterNeon@lemmy.world 29 points 20 hours ago* (last edited 20 hours ago) (2 children)

Trump took my job. It's been months and I can't get a human to look at my resume. My former colleagues are having the same experience.

I'm doing really bad.

[–] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 13 points 20 hours ago

I'm sorry that's happening my man, I wish you better luck in the future

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[–] stinerman@midwest.social 8 points 16 hours ago

Not great, Bob!

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 19 points 20 hours ago
[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 13 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

Been better... Started a liquid diet today as I'm having surgery on Wednesday. :(

[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 7 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

That sounds unpleasant. Courage.

[–] jordanlund@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago

Keeping it together so far, distracting myself with projects I've been putting off. Keeping my mind and hands occupied.

Bonus: Getting shit done!

[–] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 3 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Oof, here's wishing you a big feast when you're able

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[–] frenchfryenjoyer@lemmings.world 17 points 21 hours ago (5 children)

Awesome, going to a gig tomorrow 🤘

[–] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 4 points 20 hours ago

Ayye that's awesome!

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[–] pastermil@sh.itjust.works 2 points 14 hours ago

I have never felt so conflicted in my life ever before.

[–] Squirrelsdrivemenuts@lemmy.world 7 points 18 hours ago (2 children)

I'm dealing with the worst stomach flu of my life and I have a 10 hour train ride in a few hours. Wish me luck!

[–] Sorrow3527@lemmy.world 1 points 14 hours ago

I would never 🫥

[–] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 2 points 17 hours ago

Ope, bring some bags!

[–] Almacca@aussie.zone 1 points 12 hours ago

Same as it ever was; shithouse.

[–] PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S@lemmy.sdf.org 10 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Not good. Worried, tired, bored, angry, hot.

[–] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 4 points 20 hours ago

That's unfortunate, you should treat yourself to something nice

[–] Justdaveisfine@midwest.social 9 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

I made some homemade blackberry lemonade and it came out pretty good.

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[–] some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org 8 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Better than I deserve to be. Not because I'm a bad person. Just because I feel like everyone else has things pretty bad right now and I feel a little bad that I've got things pretty easy at the moment. But who knows, the universe could give me cancer tomorrow, so I'm grateful for the good in my life.

[–] baggachipz@sh.itjust.works 2 points 10 hours ago

I’m like you, life has been going well for me. And I did get cancer! So remember, if you drink your milk and get good grades, you too may get cancer.

[–] SayJess@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 13 hours ago

Not good. Pretty sure I’ve lost my social circle. It’s my fault, for the most part. I think I’m better off alone, as far as having friends goes. I still have my son, who lives with me, so I’m not totally alone. As long as I have him, that’s all I need.

I asked for the dose of one of my meds to be increased. We’ll see if that will help things at all. Probably not. It would be nice to not really feel things, or at least feel them less. Like tranquilized in a way.

[–] Philote@lemmy.ml 7 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Pretty great at the moment. Thanks for asking. How are you?

[–] StarvingMartist@sh.itjust.works 7 points 20 hours ago

Meh, kind of feel like I wasted my Sunday, may try to sneak in a good cleaning

[–] ramenshaman@lemmy.world 2 points 16 hours ago

Personally I'm alright. Trying to not get too affected by the world falling apart. I have mixed feelings about my relationship with my gf. Work is going pretty well but I kinda feel like my career is stagnating. Could be better, could be a lot worse.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

I think I'm supposed to be dead, but mere alive because of Quantum Immortality.

Thete are 99% of timelines where I'm dead already, this is the only one left. My existence is an anamoly.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quantum_suicide_and_immortality

[–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 3 points 12 hours ago

That's darkly solipsistic. Risky sort of thought to entertain. Life is chaos and it's all real. Just do your best and be kind to yourself, and others.

[–] empireOfLove2@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 21 hours ago

living in a bruh moment

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