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[–] lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 56 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Actually it was the doctor who first assigned me a gender and honesty, it suits me good enough to keep it

[–] TwoBeeSan@lemmy.world 11 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

This fucker came from a womb. GET EM

[–] lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 22 hours ago

No, I'm a fellow bot doing normal bot stuff like beeping and stuff *inhale* *exhale* I mean beep boop

[–] dubyakay@lemmy.ca 7 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Look at this fella, born in a hospital and all.

[–] lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 23 hours ago (1 children)

Born in a civilized country with free healthcare and shit

[–] morphballganon@mtgzone.com 2 points 21 hours ago (1 children)

Or just old enough to have been born when medical procedures weren't exorbitantly priced

[–] lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

But seriously: is birth in hospital expensive in the US? I heard horror stories but never thought about birth

[–] megopie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 10 hours ago (1 children)

It can be. Healthcare in the US is a mixed bag depending on the person, the area, and the situation.

Getting care is enormously expensive if you’re not insured, not because it’s actually that expensive to provide the care, but because health insurance providers like to negotiate discounts with healthcare providers (hospitals), so healthcare providers set artificially high prices so they can give insurers huge discounts while still making a significant profit.

There are a lot of ways to get health insurance, but it’s a messy, bureaucratic, and regionally dependent system. So a lot of people slip through the cracks, and even people who are insured can end up in a situation where their insurance won’t pay for something and have to pay the full, artificially inflated, price.

Birth in a hospital very much falls in to this mess, and someone who is uninsured might very well avoid going to a hospital because of this, or someone with insurance might find out that their insurance doesn’t have a deal with the specific hospital they went to, so they’re stuck with the bill.

[–] lugal@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 17 minutes ago

This sucks. My brother is expecting a baby and they think about which hospital to go to. Stuff like proximity, do they have a baby station in case something happens, ... but being denial a hospital and finding out only later... we even have a two class system with private and "by law" with private getting earlier and sometimes better treatment and it sucks sometimes but to hear how much worse it's on the other side of the Atlantic...

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 38 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (2 children)

Or does dad pick it for you since his sperm is the one carrying the X or Y chromosome to determine biological sex?

[–] Rhaedas@fedia.io 28 points 1 day ago

Dad just rolls the dice, Mom picks how they land.

[–] Ashiggan@eviltoast.org 12 points 23 hours ago

No our dad's do

[–] RandomVideos@programming.dev 4 points 23 hours ago

No, a fortune cookie did

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Well of course she did. Didn't yours?

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Posted by a blahaj account so... probably not?

[–] tetris11@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 day ago

All right, you win this round Simpson

[–] arudesalad@sh.itjust.works 2 points 23 hours ago