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spoilerI have no one to tell IRL without getting shame so yeah.

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[–] Derpenheim@lemmy.zip 77 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Congrats, enjoy getting rejected by both genders.

[–] sag@ani.social 53 points 1 month ago (1 children)

rejected by both genders.

You didn't need to tell the truth on the Internet xD.

[–] eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 34 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Don't worry, there are way more than two genders to strike out with! Think big!

[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 month ago

I'm NB and can confirm that I am uninterested in engaging romantically with OP

[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 75 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

Now you can enjoy explaining to people how you have double the dating pool but are somehow still single. Unless you arent i guess...

[–] flandish@lemmy.world 44 points 1 month ago (1 children)

let’s be honest, we’re on lemmy. double zero is still zero.

[–] replicator@sh.itjust.works 22 points 1 month ago

the famous "attracted to everyone, but no one attracted to you" 😔

[–] antonim@lemmy.dbzer0.com 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

double the dating pool

More like, 5% bigger dating pool if you went hetero→bi.

But also 20x the dating pool if gay→bi.

[–] unexposedhazard@discuss.tchncs.de 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I just assumed that OP is so attractive that any man or woman would instantly fall for them.

[–] sag@ani.social 4 points 1 month ago

Bad Luck, I am the most ugliest fucker born in my entire bloodline 😭. Even my Grand Grand Pa was mogging when he was young.

[–] LuckingFurker@lemmy.blahaj.zone 55 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Is that every other sexual or twice every sexual?

[–] eRac@lemmings.world 32 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It means they only finish every other sex. Semisexuals are twice per sex.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 11 points 1 month ago

I thought those were hemisexuals this is so confusing

[–] naught@sh.itjust.works 30 points 1 month ago

gaaaaaaaaay

❤️

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 24 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Good for you and all my love to you.

Just a reminder, nothing about human sexuality is set in stone .... we are very complicated beings.

What your preference today is not the same as it was a year or two ago and it may not be the same years from now. We grow, we evolve, we change with time, environment, genetics, mentality and circumstances.

Some people maintain their sexual preferences the same all their lives .... some people change over time ... some people are just all over the place.

What I do know is that none of it matters. The common denominator is that you feel love, want love, want love shared with you and you want to share love with others.

So no matter what you think or feel, as long as you are safe and the person you are with loves you and you love them and both of you consent to whatever it is you both want to do .... none of it matters to the rest of us or the world ... who you are at this moment is perfect.

[–] Rozauhtuno@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 month ago

Nice. Now go do crimes.

[–] compostgoblin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 1 month ago

Congrats on the self-acceptance, and welcome to the club! 😊

[–] nimble@lemmy.blahaj.zone 13 points 1 month ago
[–] callyral@pawb.social 12 points 1 month ago

congrats! hope you find someone to tell that to irl

[–] Una@europe.pub 11 points 1 month ago

Yay!!!!!!! <3

[–] polle@feddit.org 11 points 1 month ago

Double the dating pool, nice!

[–] sad_detective_man@leminal.space 11 points 1 month ago

congratulations on your public enemy arc. enjoy being hotter than everyone else 💪

[–] simsalabim@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago

Congratulation on accepting the person that you are. I hope that you get to live your best life soon. 🏳️‍🌈❤️

[–] JadenSmith@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago

Congratulations on finding personal acceptance of an important part of one's identity.

Not everyone will be welcoming, though you will one day be able to use this as foresight to guiding yourself towards good people - people who would accept you irl as well as online.

Stay good to yourself.

[–] drspawndisaster@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 month ago

Fuck yeah ✨️

[–] rumschlumpel@feddit.org 9 points 1 month ago
[–] Cevilia@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 month ago

Congratulations :)

[–] chocrates@piefed.world 9 points 1 month ago

Awesome! No shame, be the best person you can be!

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 8 points 1 month ago (4 children)

Neat! I'm in a similar situation. I have no need to come out to anyone but my wife, and she's cool, so she's the only person who knows me who knows.

[–] abcde_fz@lemmy.world 4 points 1 month ago

Same. Lol I am looking for some thing profound but that's kind of it. Neat, and same 😊.

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[–] recursive_recursion@piefed.ca 8 points 1 month ago

Congrats!🥳🙌

[–] hperrin@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 month ago

Congrats. You get the best of both worlds.

[–] FearMeAndDecay@literature.cafe 7 points 1 month ago

Congrats on accepting yourself! It’s a tough road, but believe me it’s worth it <3 <3

[–] sexy_peach@feddit.org 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

let's be honest bisexual is best

[–] DmMacniel@feddit.org 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Mhm, but what about Pansexual or Asexual?

[–] OrteilGenou@lemmy.world 11 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Asexual? What's the matter, didn't study hard enough to be A+sexual?

[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago (5 children)

We even paid for that tutor and this is how you pay us back??

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[–] TheAlbatross@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 1 month ago

Mazel tov! It's pretty great, not gonna lie

[–] mosthated@feddit.nl 6 points 1 month ago
[–] chosensilence@pawb.social 4 points 1 month ago

ayy congrats! :D

[–] fantacyde@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 month ago

Awesome! I had an awakening moment a while back and I actually feel better about myself because looking back a lot of things make sense now in my personal life.

In the same boat. Comfortable with who and what I am, not comfortable with the world knowing.

[–] HakunaHafada@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 month ago

Congrats! 💪

[–] SCmSTR@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Congrats on being greedy and indecisive - it's the best!

[–] davidagain@lemmy.world 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Congrats on misinterpreting other sexualities as character flaws.

If you had to decide not to find people of the same gender sexually attractive, you're not as straight as you like to think.

[–] SuperNovaStar@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I could have sworn that the comment you were replying to was satire. I suppose that due to Poe's Law I can't be sure of that though...

[–] davidagain@lemmy.world 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Maybe, but like you say, is this an absurd parody of an insane rightwing nutjob, or just an insane rightwing nutjob? So hard to tell, and these days I find Onion headlines about what the GOP says completely plausible, no longer reacting "surely not?!" but instead "of course they do."

In any case this is an attitude from yesteryear that should have stayed there and needs calling out.

If it was sarcasm, I'm agreeing with the intent of its author and if it wasn't, I'm gleefully disagreeing.

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