I know someone who killed themself, his mum logged into his account to tell me as she remembered him saying my name quite a bit. That was not a conversation I was prepared for.
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You make me cry an I'm at work right now...
God that hit like a truck
It doesn't get better the older you get...
Damn, yeah. My oldest is 17 and 18. There's some on there who I never thought would give up steam gaming.
I remember reading about something along those lines a few years ago.
When we were kids running around with our childhood friends every summer, we thought it would never end, that we would be and stay friends forever.
Then one day, we run home, wave goodbye and say 'see you later!' ..... and without us knowing, or being aware of it, that was the last time we saw our childhood friend.
We might have lived next to one another, or went to the same high school later on or even went to the same college ... we never saw our friend again.
We never knew and we were never aware of when we said goodbye or saw our friend for the last time.
I think about my old childhood friends ... I'm middle aged now ... some of those friends died young, some got married and had a bunch of kids ... a few had hard lives and became addicts ... one of them is a vegetable after having suffered an overdose ... and many of them just went on and had small families and did OK.
For most of human history children would be right to think this. Most people never left the town they grew up in. I think there is a bit of sad beauty to kids assuming they'll always be friends.
Yeah, it's interesting having lived in the time when friendships actually just poofed.
a close friend of mine from highschool died of cancer.
last online 9 years ago, i miss those dota matches with him.
I'm sorry for your loss. Can't imagine your pain, and how hard that must have been.
I befriended someone online through a video game and we became steam friends. We talked a lot about the game, but also non game topics. When one of us went AFK for awhile the other would check in and ask what was new in life. We wished each other happy birthday and holidays. One time I mentioned to him that my spouse would inform him if something unexpected happened to me, like I got hit by a bus or something. And I asked him to do the same because I would wonder forever. He wasn't comfortable with it. But that guy is still my buddy IMO even though I don't know his real name.
You’ll probably never know when they die :(
I run an online D&D game with people I don't know IRL, and I just kinda accept that one day I'm probably going to have a heart attack and disappear, and that's okay.
I used to have a small crew that I would play Left For Dead 1 and 2 on Xbox with. We would all get on mics and get drunk and/or high the whole time. When random people hopped in to play humans vs zombies matches, we would hype them and welcome them. Always tried to be the group that didn’t deter players or talk shit. Had a lot of fun sessions that would go to 3 or 4 AM. I haven’t seen them online in ages.
Showing my age here, but my similar story was in #warezart on ethernet (IRC). We had a pretty tight group of regulars. I spent nearly every day there for over 5 years starting in 1995.
It was unusual then that we were from all over. We had a mod in New Zealand, some euros, a bunch of americans from all over and a handful of canadians. But hanging out like we were in each other's living rooms.
A bunch of us actually met up in person at the Siggraph trade show once and even made matching tshirts. lol.
Ahh this is awesome. Funny enough, before I was a web dev, I was a graphic artist. Showing my age as well, my first version of Photoshop was 5 and I learned how to edit on old PowerMacs in high school. In the early 2000s I was on a forum with a similar group of folks. I think I was the only one with formal training, so I’d design forum signatures for everyone, as well as show people how to do their own graphics (as well as where to ahem acquire the software to do so).
I got into IRC and all of those tools late in life, but forums were fun back in the day.
I always wanted to checkout Siggraph but never got the chance.
The world finds new ways to teach every generation the lesson of impermanence.
Impermanence is the very essence of joy-the drop of bitterness that enables one to perceive the sweet.
No man ever steps in the same river twice, for it's not the same river and he's not the same man.
Heraclitus (ca. 500 BC)
I'm missing global chat in coc
Man that stings more than stepping on a thumbtack