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You may just have preconceived notions. I’m in a similar position and am trying not to expect this sort of behavior. However my plan is to maintain open and honest communication. If you feel resentment or animosity arising from someone, have a private meeting with them to discuss it. It’s a simple “hey I feel some resentment from you towards myself and/or other teams members and I wanted to clear the air and see if I did something to upset you?”. Usually simple, clear, concise beginnings are best. Get an understanding of why someone is acting a certain way then try to find a way to relate to their emotions. Then you can both try to come up with a way to relieve their resentment and tension between the crew members.

Another comment said “we’re all adults” but society breeds immaturity and people rarely know how to discuss their emotions so they bottle them and that can manifest as anger or passive aggression. Both of which prolong uneasy feelings for NO reason when a small discussion can usually make things better. Confrontation can be hard at first, but ultimately helps to release pressure from building up inside.

That is absolutely what follows. I am doing MUCH better, I’ve had 2.5 years sober in the last 3 years because I thought I was “cured” and started “moderating” last summer. The stop drinking subreddit was amazing insight and help. It’s on lemmy but the only posts are the daily checkin. I should start being more active on it to boost it.

You are correct. Thank you for holding me accountable. Sometimes I can be shortsighted, as it is human nature, and not consider the whole story. Sorry OP for coming off as a dick. I am empathetic to your situation and I hope you find some justice and your friend and her child can find a way to leave safely.

“Just have one or two and then stop” when telling a friend I’m an alcoholic. Well shit, thanks! That never even crossed my mind!

But they read the article about the one thing doctors don’t want you to know and now they need to tell you.

Well to hell with Reddit anyways. We’re all here because we all were on thin ice that broke, so welcome :) hope you find the community and discussion you’re looking for here. In my mind, Reddit seems to have enacted their version of martial law with the admins forcing mod teams’ hands. The company has lost site of the true spirit of the site. They are planting in mods that will bow down and do as they’re told.

Our brains are interesting things. Thanks for sharing :)

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Do you mean you made posts about switching to lemmy on those subreddits and the mods permabanned you?

Haha that’s okay! Thanks for the suggestion. I know my instance is not defederated. It could also just be user error, I’ll mess around in browser a bit more and see what I can find out

When I search in Memmy and in browser, only lemmy communities show up, I went through all the app setting but I don’t see anything that could change this. Any ideas?