jlyndby

Recently had to move back to my apartment cause I broke up with my bf. To start MOVING IS IMPOSSIBLE for many reasons, please don't even ask.

Was hoping for a fresh start with the psychopaths who live below me. I did everything possible to gaslight myself into thinking it was all just a big misunderstanding and that there was hope to repair our relations.

Basically the first day, I had ptsd from before. I tried my hardest to tip toe the entire day, and to never walk quickly so that I don't bother them (dress despite hearing them stomping and walking aggressively).

The entire time I am on edge because every time I make the smallest noise they counterattack it, doesn't matter if it's an accident or once per day. So basically my body and mind is always in a state of fight or flight, bracing itself constantly for a reaction.

Even then, I had to listen to them being noisy af. At one point I tried to turn on my tv on THE LOWEST VOLUME and it wasn't in response to anything they did. They immediately but some vibrating device on and it kept buzzing it sounded like a drill but it was just a ceiling vibrator and I recorded it. They stopped since then I think they realized it's too obvious or they could only use the plausible deniability to confuse it with some dude that was renovating for 5 minutes.

After 3 days have passed of living here, I'm realizing there seems to be no winning.

Basically their rules are, that they can make as much noise as they want, but if I make the tiniest noise I will be punished.

Not only that, but they also attack unprovoked. I feel like they are genuinely trying their absolute hardest to get a reaction out of me, it's like their hobby or something. The third day I put my earplugs in, and even when I was COMPLETELY SILENT LYING ON THE COUCH FOR HOURS, they started escalating and they dropped a really heavy object to the point where the whole apartment building vibrated. They also hammer all day at random times including quiet hours but they do it really quietly, to the point where it's legal. Like its enough to drive you literally insane.

They also randomly aggressively stomp and they also do stuff to imitate me. Like if I read something funny and laugh (im not obnoxious) right after they will slam stuff or stomp aggressively. Keep in mind I literally laughed once not like I've been annoying them 24/7.

Now everyone will try to gaslight me but there's a lot more that proves they are doing it on purpose, and I'm NOT delusional or imagining things.

Is there actually nothing I can do? Like I don't even think sueing them would help cause they're not gonna move out.

I just don't get why they're doing it. I'm also worried about them framing me. I feel like most people in the apartment have already turned against me cause I'm the only foreigner who speaks with an accent here.

For example, once I tried going to different floors to see where the sound was coming from, and 2 different people complained immediately and reported me saying I'm "creepy" and "invading their space" and need to stop immediately or they'll call the cops (I was a 26 year old girl at the time)...

They immediately threatened they would have a meeting with me and the property manager and the other 2 people to have a "talk" with me

I just don't know wtf to do anymore and I don't understand why I'm the target of everything

It was worth a pretty penny. Ended stuff by cussing each other out and blocking. Have a spare key to his place he doesn't know about. He isn't currently there. What do

I genuinely feel like no matter what I do, psychopaths can always pretty much immediately defect me as the perfect victim.

I think it's partly because I'm ugly, partly because I'm sensitive, and they can just tell I'm a weak person.

It's making my life a living hell, no matter how hard I try I just can't blend it, I can't force myself to act a certain way, it's exhausting to me

Help..

Landlord is renting out his apartment beside mine.

His tenants are knocking shit against my wall and banging on it.

They can make all the noise they want all day but the moment I turn my tv on minimum volume or clear my throat they start imitating me or knocking on my wall.

Now I don't want to claim all this because they'll just deny it and twist it into me being insane or some bs.

So what should I tell the landlord to get the point across?

This guy basically lead me on, was very flirty and then said we should grab a bite to eat sometime and ghosted me.

We didn't have sex or anything. But I still feel like such a moron.

Like I was looking forward to it.... idk why does everyone hate me

Also when he asked me what I do for a living I told him I haven't been working and just focusing on taking a driving exam and he seemed extremely like.. disappointed by that

And I told him I worked accounting before and he also seemed super unimpressed by it

Idk wtf he expects from me like do I need to be an entrepreneur or rocket scientist to be interesting?

And also like in general I felt like he kept firing off conversation topics really fast as though he got bored quickly or something

I guess he's the type that needs to have very engaging and witty conversation the whole time and can't just enjoy the moment for two seconds

Either way I just feel super pissed off and embarrassed. Also, I feel insecure. I don't have many friends here but honestly after the experiences I've had I'm scared to go out and meet people again.

Not to mention my ex was abusive af and made sure to end things on a super bad note and tell me what a joke I am and how no one will ever put up with me for as long as he did and be as generous as he was (monetarily) and like I don't even know why he said that cause he's the one that broke up with me, it's like he just wanted to stomp me when I'm down

If an apartment has high ceilings and big rooms it gives me anxiety. I'm not sure if it's because I tie it to traumatic experiences of what.

In my big apartment that I rented I felt awful and had anxiety. It also has light colours everywhere.

The little one felt cozier and had darker colours.

Has anyone had a similar experience? I don't know what to do cause I'm stuck in the bigger one until the lease is up

Honestly it's a long story but I got a bunch of red flags. It's not that I don't like him but I am just very suspicious.

For me the worst part is that he seems emotionally unavailable. Like he takes so long to respond all the time I honestly think he is seeing other people (if he doesn't have a wife and kids already, lol).

Last time we saw each other he said we should grab a bite to eat sometime but he hasn't messaged me at all since then, and I'm realizing this is kind of a pattern with him.

I feel like either he isn't that interested in me, or .. I mean that's pretty much the only option tbh

So I should just cut him off, right? I mean if he ever does message me I bet it'll be days from now..

Maybe I'm just too clingy but either way, I don't think we're compatible in that case. I'm not used to men being this distant tbh. Usually when I go on a date the guy wants to lock things in really fast and like.. cares about maintaining my interest

Edit: in case he does eventually reach out, how can I decline while letting him know why (not cause I didn't like him but because he doesn't seem present enough)? Or is it better to just not respond or block him?

I'm mostly worried he will catch me when I'm lonely and then I will make the horrible decision of seeing him again

So basically out of the blue decided I need to move out of his apartment and he threatened me with some stuff like that he will get my neighbours to harass me or something.

Police is useless and I'm jobless with minimal savings. I have a place to move back to but nobody to help me move.

I've been trying all day to post in local Facebook groups for help, a few people offered to help me move then ghosted me.

I literally don't have the mental capacity of physical strength to do it alone. He is coming tomorrow to move me out but I know he will abuse me and try to accuse me of something and threaten me.

I don't know what to do. Even this guy I met once before was going to help me move and ghosted me.

I've been in a few situations where I need substantial help from strangers, and some have offered to help (most haven't followed through) but I just can't do it.

For example someone offered to help me move and I just feel super uncomfortable about it to the point where I'd rather risk something bad happening to me. Like I feel super awkward and uncomfortable accepting huge favours from strangers

Someone even offered a place to stay for me with my pets but I can't accept it cause I feel way too awkward and like I owe them or something, like I have a huge fear and anxiety about it

Like I just feel like a disgusting parasite wasting their time and energy and it's also humiliating

Is that normal?

Hello, I got a comment on my previous post recommending I post it here as well.

I had the Philips one but after about a year it's suction changed to the point where it's hard for it to pick up cat litter now..

It must be able to deal with a lot of cat hair and litter.. and preferably be under 500 euros.

Of course I think a corded one is better for my purposes, and I have mostly hard floors with a few small rugs.

The problem is that every year the quality decreases, so it becomes difficult to know which vacuums will still be good. For example, someone may have purchased the same vacuum 5 years ago and think it's great but the one sold today might not compare

I had the Philips one but after about a year it's suction changed to the point where it's hard for it to pick up cat litter now..

It must be able to deal with a lot of cat hair and litter.. and preferably be under 500 euros.

Of course I think a corded one is better for my purposes, and I have mostly hard floors with a few small rugs.

The problem is that every year the quality decreases, so it becomes difficult to know which vacuums will still be good. For example, someone may have purchased the same vacuum 5 years ago and think it's great but the one sold today might not compare

Not a troll post. Why is everything shit?