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[–] Scott_of_the_Arctic@lemmy.world 23 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I'm straight, I'd still plough a femboy into next week.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 11 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)
[–] prowe45@lemm.ee 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (3 children)

But see, that's one of the things the Kinsey scale doesn't really address. Is it really all that gay to be attracted to (as a man) someone that is presenting in a feminine way regardless of genitalia? I wouldn't say it is. I know femboys and trans women are obviously different, but with regards to this question, you pretty quickly get into transphobic territory if you go around implying that it's gay to like trans women or anyone else presenting feminine just because of genitalia. Or is the argument that since femboys identify as boys, that it's automatically gay to have sex with them by definition?

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 9 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

my answer to this is that it's all complete fucking nonsense and we should just focus on kissing the hot people

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world -3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Is it straight to be attracted to people who aren't cisgender? No.

Is it qualitively a bad thing to be attracted to people who aren't cisgender? No.

My POV is simple, straight is a very specific thing, because the things outside of it fit into LGBT+ things.

Despite centuries of propaganda, it's not "Oh no, a terrible thing", it's "the box you fit in isn't the box you think it is."

Is it really all that gay to be attracted to (as a man) someone that is presenting in a feminine way regardless of genitalia?

Come on now buddy. "I'm straight, he looked like a bitch" and other prison cope logic doesn't add up.

They had to come up with a "gay lite" term to get proper results from people during the AIDs outbreaks because people would claim to be straight while having sex with other men.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Men_who_have_sex_with_men

[–] Scott_of_the_Arctic@lemmy.world 4 points 2 weeks ago

|the box you fit in isn’t the box you think it is

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If the box is hot I'll make myself fit in it 😬🍆💦🍑😺

[–] Scott_of_the_Arctic@lemmy.world 6 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago) (1 children)

Meh 🤷🏻, gay, straight, queer, trans, cis, bi. Does anyone really care? Labels are so limiting. I just know that I've never really been into it when I've fucked dudes but, I've always been into it when I fucked women. So i call myself straight for the sake of convenience.

Edit: also the Kinsey scale doesn't account for things like just being extremely horny to the point of insanity, or chasing a couple of swedgers with a bottle of buckfast and loosing the ability to think rationally.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 1 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Labels are so limiting.

right. so you would fit into a group that's less chokehold strict than straight.

[–] Scott_of_the_Arctic@lemmy.world 3 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

So I considered the idea that I might be bi, but I'm only attracted to men who are very effeminate and present as women and even then only sometimes, so that doesn't really fit.

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

sure. I'm in a similar but not identical type of sexuality, I prefer the idea "non zero" and call it a day. IDK, like "pansexual-lite" or something.

I'm not bi, but I'm not completely straight and that's ok.

[–] Scott_of_the_Arctic@lemmy.world 2 points 2 weeks ago

Exactly! Now put on that dress.

[–] psud@aussie.zone 1 points 2 weeks ago

That implies that gay is like bi but more so, where I think gay is so much more like hetero than either are like bi.