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Kind of the opposite but I think monogamy is not tied to morality like our society makes it out to be and more often than not is a crutch for people with issues around extreme jealousy, interpersonal insecurities and possessiveness.
There are real consequences of sex though: pregnancy and communicable diseases. Some of these can be mitigated (e.g. modern contraceptives), but I think they are at least factors to consider in favor of monogamy.
That said, I believe that life-long monogamy (as would be prescribed by marriage) is fighting against human nature.
I think that what you're describing is not conducive to monogamy but rather secure and trusting relationships in general. I think many people tend to assume that quality exists within monogamous relationships whereas they assume non-monogamous relationships to be more frivolous.
Would you expect an unwanted pregnancy to be handled inherently better simply because the relationship of the parents is monogamous. I would think that's entirely up to the strength of the relationship and the maturity and means of the people involved, regardless of orientation.
Similarly with communicable diseases, I don't think non-monogamous people are any less capable of practicing safe sex with people that they trust. Of course, it would make intuitive sense that the more people you're exposed to the higher your chances are of contacting something but in reality there is no significant difference in the rates of contacting a disease between monogamous and non-monogamous people.
I don't think it's amoral. I personally want to share something special with someone else, and not share that with others.
I'm not saying monogamy is amoral, only that I argue with the general belief that it is the moral standard for intimate relationships.
I agree, just wondered what "more often than not" meant.
I think more often than not people default to monogamy because that is the only moral framework in which our society generally finds intimate relationships acceptable. As a result of monogamy's monopoly on intimate relationship structures, possessiveness and extreme jealousy in response to threats of non-monogamy are normalized and are almost considered a virtue depending on the context.
I get what you're saying. I don't know about the last part, ”normalized" is a spectrum unto itself. "Unsurprising", for sure. And I took your original statement to really mean there are people with unhealthy jealousy/possessive traits hiding within the framework of monogamy.
Carry on friend, just wanted to ask a few questions to make sure I understood what you were saying.