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Edit Skip all of this and just think about the fact that plenty of normal women love the Twilight series.. and yet the way women are treated in the book is... om... well I mean the point is it is a FANTASY and to judge it as something else is to fundamentally, seriously misunderstand it. Don't hurt yourself by refusing to see the nuance to the way you feel you are driven to irrational desires, see the subversion, agency and love that comes from engaging with the parts of yourself that never want to exist as a reality.
Look, the reason you call it is a "kink" is because it is something you find oddly attractive and yet also don't actually literally want (as in the person actually really meant it to hurt you and didn't say it as part of an intense roleplay).
We normally call these things "fantasies" in the rest of life when we strip the idea of sexuality and the thing about a fantasy is that it is contained within a bubble of your imagination and consent.
If don't want your future wife or girlfriend to humilate you, yeah of course.. but if she is doing it in a way that she knows turns you on and it is under an umbrella of consent.. that is none of the business of the judgemental sides to ourselves no matter how easy it is to make a deragotory joke about it being disgusting or depraved, because it is just sex that isn't our business at that point.
Remember, the number 1. rule about consentual sex between adults is.