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For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

Edit: I really appreciate everyone’s responses I never expected to hear from so many people. With the decision hinging on social and cultural norms it’s been really helpful to be able to take the temperature like this. I obviously need to talk to my wife, but given the overwhelming support of dick hats I don’t thing we’re going to do it. Thanks, lemmings!

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[–] acchariya@lemmy.world 26 points 1 week ago (1 children)

You could also consider chin implants to give your son a strong chin. A strong chin is definitely going to have a positive impact in his life later on, and recovery will be faster and less painful as a child. Another thing to consider would be earlobe separation if his earlobes are joined. This will make sure he looks more normal and won't be made fun of in school. If you are asian you should definitely also consider eyelid surgery since it can reduce problems with vision and lead to healthier eyes

Or you could avoid cosmetic procedures on non-consenting children entirely.

[–] kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Particularly one that is not solely cosmetic and will have a substantial impact on his sexual experience as an adult. That skin is meant to be there, it protects the sensitive parts of the penis from over stimulation when not erect. This constant stimulation on the head of the penis from clothing makes it less sensitive over time. And the skin being removed, itself, has sensitive nerve endings. Removing this skin means that circumcised men simply do not experience that same level of sensation from sex as they would have otherwise.

Beyond that. There are risks as well such as too much skin being removed causing the skin to become stretched with an erection, which can be painful and a possible source of sores and infection.

There is no good reason for it except. In the US, at least, it stems from weird prudish attempts stop boys from masturbating and has since then just become a norm that isn't questioned. Well question it. Forget it is the "normal" thing for a second. Would you cut off your daughter's labia to make it easier to keep clean or not breed bacteria or pass on STD's or whatever other justification they have for circumcision? Are there any other parts of your newborn you want to permanently remove? To flay off? No? Then dont do it to your son's penis.

[–] alternategait@lemmy.world 2 points 6 days ago (1 children)

I have also wanted to chime in as a woman who has had sex with men both circumcised and not, I have personally found it to feel better with uncircumcised men.

Thank you for your perspective and experience. This is conjecture on my part, but this is likely due to the fact that the foreskin keeps a small amount of moisture around the head of the penis making insertion easier and more comfortable for both of you. And because there is more skin on the shaft that can slide up and down with the repeated in and out motion, it causes less friction that can get uncomfortable over time.