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"hey guys how can I help my depressed friend" "just ghost them bro"
Welcome to Reddit.
Yeah there's a lot of upset people here that i imagine came over from reddit recently. Got hostile quick.
I came over from Reddit 2 years ago. It was inevitable that the same kind of groupthink would eventually take over here.
Yeah I mean I don't disagree that maybe theyre a lost cause but im not going to randomly stop being their friend. I may be enabling it, but its better than ghosting.
You are a good person for caring, and as long as you take care about your own wellbeing, there is nothing wrong with trying to get someone to be a better person. Imagine it like this: If you were helping a human who fell into drug addiction and homelessness recover, would you be a good or a bad person? The only difference here is the circumstances of your friends being more comfortable.
I didn’t see where the OP pointed out that diagnosis. I saw where he worried that they would be depressed in their 30s.
Also the OP doesn’t live in the same town with them. So what is he going to do Tex them regularly.
Does somebody need a diagnosis for you to give them empathy?
Yes.
Now a days everyone has a some syndrome or another. It is amazing how many people confuse their incompetence with imposter syndrome.
Regardless if somebody has a mental disorder, a developmental disorder, a physical disability, a mental disability, etc. they deserve respect and understanding.
Empathy is not to be confused with sympathy. Empathy is putting yourself in another person's shoes and trying to understand their situation and feelings to the best of your ability.
Sometimes what people need is patient instruction, not judgement. If you are as competent as you seem to be at whatever you do, it should be extremely easy.
Venting to an online stranger unsolicited shows that this is bothering you a lot, so hopefully you consider heeding my advice and take it out for a spin.
Truly great people don't look down on other people or see themselves as superior. They're busy, y'know, being great.