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What would you do to help a terminally online person? (sh.itjust.works)
submitted 6 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) by bridgeenjoyer@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world
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I have a couple friends like this. Live with their moms, over 25, never had a job or anything. Only plays games. I feel so bad for them because they don't think they are smart but they definitely are, they just dont spend their time wisely.

Im not judging. That life sounds great when youre young. But I dont want them to wake up at 35 and be even more depressed because they've never done anything in life.

It would be well and good if they were happy like this but they definitely aren't. Im just not sure how someone like that could even integrate into society. I give them advice here and there and sometimes talk about jobs with them, but they are also self proclaimed "lazy" and never really branch out to try new things. I try to send them links to code camps and stuff like that i think they'll enjoy, but they dont do it. I've offered to hang out with them when im their town (we've been friends for years and know each other very well so this isnt weird) but they cant drive either which makes ir hard.

I already know most replies wil be "ITS FINE TO HAVE A BORING LIFE LEAVE THEM ALONE AND STOP TRYING TO "SAVE" THEM" but a boring life is different than a healthy life, imo.

Edit: i knew there'd be a lot of misinterpretation and people self reflecting on their own lives as a result of this post. Regardless, I am glad for the discussion. Thank you to those of you who had constructive comments instead of outright attacks.

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[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

I have little sympathy for people who are obsessed with making others work for the sake of it.

We should have had a 4 day work week, 4hr work day, in the 50s and 60s if labor union's weren't attacked by our government.

If the system wants workers, then that requires real incentives to make people want to do that

And I'm happy for the people who would otherwise be forced into slavery to stave off starvation and homelessness, who found a different way to survive.

[–] IWW4@lemmy.zip 1 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago) (1 children)

BWAHAHAHa

Give me a break. These guys aren’’t living an alternate lifestyle.

They are fuck ups. They are mooches who are in desperate need of a kick in the ass, and ever day that kick in the ass is delayed means the kick will be even harder and their ability to handle it will decline.

I have known heaps of dudes like this and they aren’t victims.

I have no sympathy for people who don’t handle their own shit.

[–] SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world 8 points 5 days ago

There are less jobs in the United States than there are working age people who can work.

So IDK what you want. If you think they should have a job how about you give them one?

The vast majority of people will need a UBI in the near future to prevent total economic collapse, and you aren't superior to the people who found an easier way than you to survive this economy.