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Lemmings who made it out of incel-dom, what advice would you have to your previous self?
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This one hit home for me. I had solid friends who I thought would be lifelong friends, but even they tired of my constant sarcasm and annoying tendencies. When you're constantly a drag to be around, why would others want to hang out with you?
Yes, I lost some really great people along the way. But I understand it perfectly now why they felt they had to move on from me.
I'm glad we can have conversations like this here. It feels really important to discuss this, and I hope the person I think that inspired you to make this post reads this and can turn his life around.
It isn't always easy to publicly admit we used to be this way, but I feel it benefits the community as a whole.
That's what I thought personally, there were some nice-guy incel posts being posted here, and I'm open about what I used to be. God knows when I was younger I was looking for guidance, I can't imagine looking now and seeing all those "alpha male" bros on the internet, it probably is tempting. They're saying all the easy answers, that it's women's fault, that you just gotta be more manly.
I'm proud of what this space is, where we can be open and honest, and I hope that the person who inspired the post reads through this. It is not the easy path, but it's the best path forward.