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Have you considered these people don’t consider you to be that important in their own lives? It’s not the job of friends to fix the perceived foibles of their friends, unless a friend actually asks for help.
Friends are just people who enjoy each others company and offer as much or as little emotional support when able/willing. When that stops being the case it’s fine to drift apart.
Also, really take a step back, ‘cause you literally wrote this:
Never said I was going to actually try to help. Just for ideas. Also I stand by that they dont spend their time wisely, thats an actual fact, sorry if you dont like it.
Not judging. That’s an actual fact.
To me, in this context, these two statements aren't opposing each other as I think the word judge can have some nuance to it. For example I could say I found your original comment overly aggressive, but I don't judge you for it. By which I would mean that I have an opinion about your actions, but I'm not assigning you a moral value on that basis.
Well you can choose to ignore the definitions of words. I am not judging.
And yet, you also judge my understanding of word definitions to be insufficient. See the difference? It's like there's two axes in play, good or bad, and correct and incorrect.