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Depends. Someone toxic that doesn't respect boundaries? Absolutely. A good friend for no reason? No.
I don't take ghosting from women too personally. It still stings, but I understand. I've heard horror stories of men who will think of any response, even if it's "fuck off, leave me alone!" as a chance. So ghosting is the way to go in these circumstances.
The woman doesn't know if I'm one of those men. So again, if I'm ghosted, I try to shrug it off and move on.
A friend, though? They'd better tell me they were in a coma or something. Otherwise they can fuck right off.
What's crazy is that, personally, I seem to know just as many "Can't this guy take a hint" women as I know "I'm not good enough for him so I should block him" type women.
I legitimately know two women who had that concern, blocked the guy on everything, and he either made an alt or found an obscure social to DM them on.
Both are happily married and medicated for their anxiety now.
Holy hell, what a nightmare. This happened to me once with a woman. She doing it to me, kind of ironic. And I felt mildly annoyed instead of horrified, which I'm aware is male privilege.