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I have social anxiety and never been in a relationship and find it very difficult as an average looking dude to meet women. I get bad anxiety when trying to approach a girl I like or find attractive so avoid it. I’m still working on myself so I know that needs to come first. Just looking to see what others did to find a girlfriend with similar difficulties.

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[–] crimsonpoodle@pawb.social 2 points 2 days ago

Codeday Hackathon back in high school.

So were all a bit awkward at socializing because we've had less practice at it. Add onto this the fear that women feel due to bad men, and the worry that the good men feel about being perceived as one of the bad men and it gets difficult. My advice is to stop worrying about romance for a little bit and let it come to you.

Focus on becoming more social in non romantic ways; it’s a lot easier.

If your not at the point of maturity that you can be platonic friends with a straight woman (not knocking you just some straight people aren't especially if they're love starved), then try and befriend a local lesbian, they can teach you a lot about women's perspectives.

You'll eventually find that women, by in large, are just people born into a certain set of circumstances. It wont be easy, but once you are confident in your own skin and stop worrying romance will probably find you. Good luck!