living outside the country good buddy
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That's not really an option for me. I have torn feelings with my family. My cousins are all my age and like brothers to me, but were taken in by the Trump bullshit like everyone else around me.
Die or lose my family and eventually die? I dunno, man. I might toss a quarter over it.
Hell, I disowned my dad for making a racist act, pretty much, pointing to a black child at a golf course and making subtle monkey actions. Later that day I said fuck it, came out to him as trans. The following weeks that he contacted my partner and I proved my decision to banish him was correct, and so I did. A zero tolerance policy for intolerant people is a must imo
Parents have no hold over you, not really. If they don't deserve your presence, don't allow it. I hope, however, that your cousins would accept your choice and stay in contact with you, because sibling love is so much more valuable.
Families shouldn't be torn over political garbage anyway, priorities are all out of wack
Holy shit, that's awful. Sorry your dad is awful, but good on you for cutting ties.
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You can't choose your relatives. But you can choose your family.
Some people get lucky, relatives and family are the same thing. I'm sorry you weren't so fortunate, friend.
Thanks! I'm okay. Like you say, I have friends who are my family :) we support each other. It's good to know that relatives aren't the only potential source of such care, despite what they might teach aha
wow that is crazy, your dad's actions were crazy I mean, I'm glad to hear you came out to him and severed that tie.
"Parents have no hold over you, not really. If they don't deserve your presence, don't allow it."
can't agree more with you here.
If they’re all still Trumpers you’ve already lost them, you just haven’t realized it yet.
sorry to hear that.
you certainly don't have to travel if you dont want to, I just like people being aware of the option, but I'm not following one thing:
How does disagreeing with and being alienated from your family make traveling less of an option for you?
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Trying to get my retirement money moved to foreign assets and currency. Ideally I want it to out of reach of the US government so that if I do somehow make it out of the other side alive I'll still have access to it. I believe the ideal way would be to create an offshore LLC and create a self directed IRA that I then move my retirement money to. I have no idea how tenable this is though.
Aren't IRAs a US tax account? Like the Canadian TFSA.
They are, but like I said it's possible to create a self directed one. Essentially I'm wanting to hedge my bets. On the small chance that things don't go to complete shit I would like what I do to be above board and legal under the (somewhat) sane(r) laws and regulations so I don't get nailed by the IRS. Doing what I mentioned would essentially put the money out of reach of the US government if they decided to start seizing assets or if I were arrested, but still legal if things don't go south.
It's not an insignificant amount of money, but it's also not enough to have a dedicated firm or person to manage all of this (if it were I'd probably be safe in this oligarchy hell scape).
I can only wish you good luck.
Thanks. I'd say it was a good run, but I don't like lying.
Im watching humanity going full moron, forgetting all the lessons from the world wars. For the people who died in them, must feel like a complete waste.
I'm just gonna kill myself
Yep, who wants to survive teotwawki
apocalypse has happened before it's bound to happen again, no preparation will help
just ask any Native American
Prepping certainly is a fun and worthwhile exercise if you prep for things that will most likely happen. As someone who likes making lists and thinking through things this is a fun question.
For food I have a box in my pantry with canned beans, fruit, vegetables, salt, pepper, and rice. I also learned recently it’s best to keep a couple bags of cat food just in case!
Your point on water is good. I honestly don’t know what I would do since I rely on the city.
I also don’t know what I would do for my child’s milk but they could eat see same food as us.
My work in academia would be instantly worthless if the country fails. It is still worthwhile to me though. I’ve considered printing out my notes and papers. You have made me think I should do it this month.
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For more end of the country preparedness I do have tools to defend my family. I have our documents printed out and in a fireproof container. I also keep maps of the nearby states in my car.
for things that will most likely happen.
When I took the First-aid/CPR course, the red cross trainer spent like 30 minutes doing a list of what can realistically happen where we are. An interesting exercise.
Full blown apocalypse is unlikely, but doing stuff like checking the flood-risk map before renting/buying a home (Especially ground floor apartment and single-floor house) does wonder at not having to evacuate. Knowing the kind of dangerous factory/goods in your area also helps a lot planning for the right thing.
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I honestly don’t know what I would do since I rely on the city.
You need some bottles of water.
Something to consider: How do you cook your rice without electricity?
Looking into purchasing a firearm. Too many stupids in this country. Have to protect myself.
Just in case, if you're unfamiliar with firearms most community colleges offer firearm safety courses for cheap or free.
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I just bought 20 pound bags of bread flour, sugar, and all purpose flour. Plus what I have in my chest freezers I’m good for a few months..
Not joking
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Realizing that each human life encompasses a time-space span of generally double digit years and miles. Further that a good life is good but a good death is superior to a bad life. Death is inevitable but it is a choice to "experience" the apocalypse.
but a good death is superior to a bad life.
But that's apples and oranges. You could theoretically have both? The good death doesn't really offset the bad life? It's not as cool-sounding, but I think "a good death is superior to a bad death" and "a good life is superior to a bad life" are still pretty much true, if technically subjective.
life and death just is and it does not matter if death is good or bad given its nature. Lifes quality though is important and if it does not have enough of it then I will have none of it. Im old enough though that im not looking to survive a horrible decade of facism. Surviving auschwitz if your young enough to possibly enjoy some decades of decentness afterwards is one thing but if your old enough that after that experience you are left with nothing and have to try and "retire" and look after your increasingly failing health. Ill skip that.