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My wife sleep divorced me. LOL.

2 AM, she shoves me awake. She's sitting on the edge of the bed like the chick from Paranormal Activity.

She pulls her wedding ring off, jams it in my hand, says "THIS IS FOR YOU! We need to make OTHER ARRANGEMENTS! I can't believe you said THAT in front of our son!!!"

Then she lays back down and is dead asleep.

I'm like "WTAF?" Do I wake her up? Do I sleep with a knife under the pillow?

So I wake her up. She's pissed, but not "Imma divorce you" pissed, just "It's 2 AM why are you waking me up?" pissed.

"Do you know what you just did?"

"Wait, what? Why?"

So I hand her the wedding ring back.

"Oh... OH!"

Apparently, in the dream, I had been laying on the couch and she asked me to do something and I responded something along the lines of "Meh, I'd rather be boning Faye."

Faye. A fictional character from the web comic "Questionable Content" which we both read.

https://questionablecontent.fandom.com/wiki/Faye_Whitaker

But now it's hilarious, because when she asks me to do something I can go "Meh, I'd rather be boning Faye."

I mean its just normal. Im pretty sure im in all of them.

You had a nightmare you say?

Context is sooo important in this case. What sort of dream?

i assume it means they want to have sex with me

I would ask them what the dream was about. The weirder the dream,the better.

I like to ask them if I was in cosplay.

So years ago, I was going through chemotherapy, and was seeing an oncologist regularly. She was my age more or less and very attractive and single, but also an oncologist treating me professionally.

We got along very well and generally ended up talking about things other than my treatment (which is how I learned she was single - she shared that fact unprompted), but even with that, I never pushed it - it just seemed too weird to actually pursue a relationship with my oncologist. I couldn't be sure how much of it was just in my head - some weird doctor/patient dependency thing - and besides, she was a responsible professional and I was a house painter living in a duplex and spending my spare time smoking pot and playing disc golf, so it wasn't like I had anything of actual value to offer. So I just contented myself with pleasant conversations every two weeks.

Then one day, right near the end of my treatment, seemingly out of nowhere, she said, "I dreamed about you last night."

I panicked. I couldn't imagine any follow-up to that that wasn't going to be weird or disappointing or stressful.

I don't remember what I said or how the conversation went from there, but it was noncommittal enough that I never learned the details of her dream, and our last few appointments were straightforwardly professional, and that was that. My cancer never recurred, and I haven't seen her since.

I've always wondered, but you know - if I had it to do over again, I doubt I'd do any differently.

Agreed with the other comment, the context does matter.

I've been featured in one my coworker's dreams apparently. Not in a weird way, she's told me and the dream was very funny. More like an inside/office type joke that must have snuck into her dream state LOL.

My wife and kid have had many dreams with me in it as I have had many dreams with them in it.

I have had three or four co-workers tell me I was in their dreams.

I don’t attach any importance to dreams. They are just random shit that bounces around in my head. I have the classic, what I call anxiety dreams. I can’t crawl across the road and a car is coming. I am in a final I never studied for.

"I had a dream with you, too! Did you wake up sore, too?"

Kinda depends on what was going on in the dream.

"I dreamed we made out" would get a totally different reaction than "I dreamt about kicking your ass."

This one dreams of electric sheep, has not found one to tell.

“A pleasant dream, I hope.”

Dreams mean nothing, I wouldn't care but would ask because usually it's something hilariously stupid

I'd be more alarmed at their desire to tell me about it than anything else.

I dream about people I know all the time, and the context ranges from totally benign boring shit like working a shift together, to the steamy super-taboo family-destroying shit. I then wake up, shrug it off, and start thinking about things I actually care about like what to make for breakfast.

I take zero responsibility for what my brain does when it's unconscious. It's a computer made of meat. Gets a little glitchy sometimes when it runs maintenance tasks - those glitches don't actually mean anything.

Now, approaching a coworker or something to tell them about it? They're going to be either bored/uninterested, or take it as an invitation to act on something that could destroy our career or family, so... why? If I even remember the dream by the time I see that person, I'm keeping that shit to myself and I'd expect them to do the same if the roles were reversed.

To actually answer OP's question, I'd probably deflect by saying something stupid like "I had a dream about me too! ...hate it when that happens, that guy's a real jerk!"

Well, it definitely doesn't mean they're in love with you, if that's what you mean. But a lot of people seem to take it that way. For me it's exciting to hear. I know it doesn't mean anything about how they view me on a deep level because dreams are just so random, but it's still fun.

I would correct their grammar if they were a native English speaker because having "a dream of me in it" sounds super weird.

But otherwise, people don't control their dreams and some people are super sharers so really all just depends on a myriad of context details. Mostly it wouldn't be anything I'd think about too much, one way or the other. Like if they told me they had tacos for dinner or that they were wearing wool socks because it was cold this morning. No real difference.

Flattered and curious

In what?

Depends on what I was doing in your dream.

I'd ask them what I did in the dream

Since I avoid human contact as much as possible… it would be weird that a stranger had a dream with me in it 🙂

I would be silently praying they don't tell me about it.

Every time one of my friends mentioned their (toxic) ex I would stop them from being sad and wanting to go back. I appeared in their DREAMS and made them not talk to their dream-ex lmao.

Meh. Dreams are just your brain hallucinating while defraging.