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Definitely not but I'm not American.

Please do not mutilate your child because of tradition.

Genital mutilation is inexcusable disgusting tradition - don't do it.

Do you approve of genetic mutilation* for cultural reasons?

I think your answer lies there.

*)

Circumcision was associated with frequent orgasm difficulties in Danish men and with a range of frequent sexual difficulties in women, notably orgasm difficulties, dyspareunia and a sense of incomplete sexual needs fulfilment.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21672947/

I'd never sacrifice 50% of the feelings for the sake of a shriveled tip to please some invisible sky daddy.

Male genital mutilation should be as outlawed as female.

And... Kids bullying others over their foreskin? I don't think I ever saw any classmate's dick in my life. Why is that even a thing?

it is his body, nobody else’s i dont understand this. the human penis is not a flawed organ needing intervention and aesthetic is not a good enough reason. barring medical, what the fuck lol.

"Hey internet I was thinking of cutting some of my babies dick off"

"Bro wtf what"

"Just a lil bit, just the tip!"

"Aw okay that's fine mate!"

Did you think this would be how it goes?

Don't.... cut parts of your baby's dick off dude, it's a weird thing to do.

I'm uncircumcised and I'm thankful every fucking day. Don't do it to them. If you're being bullied for your penis, there's other problems at hand there. And women who won't sleep with you over this aren't worth sleeping with anyway.

Tbh I love my foreakin, it's fun to play with and overall just enhances the penis having experience. 10/10 would recommend

Ooo something for me!

I am FORMERLY uncircumcised. I have a skin condition which led to phymosis a few years back forcing me to have a medical circumcision this year.

Uncut is superior in every way. Sex is better, it's more comfortable when exercising, it's generally less of a nuisance. And in Europe, I never had an ick reaction.

If I didn't medically need it I wouldn't have done it. That said, it's better than phymosis, I do last longer in bed, and my partner says it's actually a really nice oral experience now.

Remember: most countries don't have a preference for circumcision, and a lot of people outside of America that are circumcised have it done due to medical issues, not moral or religious reasons.

No, why would I wish to be mutilated?

Oh god no.

Grew up in the US. Heard one girl mention it was gross (she didn’t see mine) and one see it for the first time as was more curious. Never bullied but I also wasn’t swinging my dick out in the open.

Live in Europe now where the script would very much be flipped.

So thankful my parents didn’t mutilate me.

Nope, not even once. I find the idea of circumcision really bizarre.

Don't do it.

I was cut for medical reasons but i wish the had tried an incision instead. My parents however were the bunch that thought the foreskin is worthless stuff because god commanded the jews to cut it (and god is always right). I remember the pain to this day. You will also steal pleasure from you son.

Fuck. No.

I am grateful every single goddamn day that my mum took a stand against my dad's very Catholic parents when it came to circumcising me. She wasn't able to with my older brother, in part because of how wrecked she was from a 48hr+ labour. With him it was also "oh he'll feel weird if he doesn't match his father though" which,,, just,,, ooft 🙄

Don’t do it. It’s his body. Apart from medical issues it should be his choice. And bullying always finds a way and is hard to influence from the victim‘s part. You can only help in raising your child to be a confident person that is sure of your love and knows they can talk to you about anything.

No, don't ever mutilate your kid for bullshit reasons. Cutting his penis just so that he can fit it in with others is nonsense.

I worked in pediatric urology so I'll give you their perspective first. The urologist's assistant said the thing to do is assess honestly whether you'll keep up with your child's hygiene, if you are comfortable ensuring they'll clean their foreskin as they grow up. My friend says she really had to stand over her son and tell him to wash his penis again and again. Boys are not the best at hygiene sometimes, so as long as you are comfortable ensuring he does so, don't circumcise. If you don't think you'll be comfortable with that, be realistic, because boys get what's called phimosis where the foreskin becomes stuck and doesn't retract, and while there's a cream called betnovate you can apply to relieve this, if it becomes chronic and there's scarring, having circumcision as an older child is much more of an ordeal, as they have to go under general anesthesia. These are the pros and cons.

I think circumcision is a bad idea and don't recommend it myself because I've heard a baby crying during one personally and that's horrifying, but this is what the medical reality of it is, so be honest with yourself about what you can do as a parent. It's honestly a terrible thing for them to go through without anesthesia as well. Bullying be damned, anyone who is offended by a normal penis isn't worth your time anyway.

Not for a fucking second. Ever.

wtf why do you mutilate your child?

Why is Christianity always so obsessed with little boys penises? It’s fucking gross.

We didn't circumcise our son. It's a barbaric practice and you shouldn't do it. There's absolutely no good reason to mutilate a child's genitals, and it's abhorrent that it's so commonly practiced.

This is your opportunity to discontinue a barbaric practice that was done to you for stupid reasons.

The only thing that is making this a difficult ethical choice for you is the culture you were brought up in. If you were born in most other places, this issue wouldn’t even provoke serious thought in your brain, just astonishment, laughter, and ridicule for anyone who practiced it.

This isn’t a hard choice. Do the right thing.

I’m American and circumcised. I do not wish to be different than I am because I don’t know anything else. That said, it is no longer the cultural default choice here at all. I’m upset that you feel it is. Were I to have a male child I would 110% NOT mutilate that child. There is no reason or excuse to justify doing this. Don’t mutilate your kid. Anyone who teases or bullies other people is the one with the problem, and you should absolutely not cut off part of your son’s body on the off-chance that might alleviate one vector of inbound bullying. As others have said, bullies will find a way. Please do not do this.

You could also consider chin implants to give your son a strong chin. A strong chin is definitely going to have a positive impact in his life later on, and recovery will be faster and less painful as a child. Another thing to consider would be earlobe separation if his earlobes are joined. This will make sure he looks more normal and won't be made fun of in school. If you are asian you should definitely also consider eyelid surgery since it can reduce problems with vision and lead to healthier eyes

Or you could avoid cosmetic procedures on non-consenting children entirely.

So I'm no longer a penis haver since I got it removed entirely, but before that I was uncut. In my case I never had anything negative happen health or social. It helped with logistics for sex while going from just starting to everything isn't quite fully lubey yet, plus it was another bit of sensitive skin to toy around with.

As far as the removal part I am trans and had mtf surgery. Foreskin is analogous to clitoral hood skin. It gave my surgeon more to work with both aesthetically and for adding areas of increased sensitivity.

But really the argument should start and end with "don't make medically unessecary changes to your kid's body until they're old enough to consent"

I'm Chinese-American, male, was born in mainland China, immigrated to the US. Family is not really religious, I didn't get mutilated, and no I do not want to get mutilated.

I was actually shocked when I learn that Americans, particularly Christians, do this shit. WTF. I also learned that some tribes around the world also do (or used to do) this. Felt sick just hearing that word.

(Edit: To be clear, I mean no offense to my fellow Americans, I like this country for the most part, but forcing religion on kids and government corruption are probably two of the biggest thing I hate)

Learning about "bloodletting", and "witchhunt" made me hate previous eras.

And when I learned about this thing called "lobotomy", I just... idk kinda have a "new fear unlocked" moment for me...

...humans are so fucked up.

Please don't mutilate your children. We're supposed be advanced civillizations (I'm talking about humanity as a whole), how are being still doing outdated "bloodletting"-type of stuff?

(Only exception would be if its medically necessary, and a doctor, without being influenced by religion, recommended it)

I did as a kid because I was different from everyone else.

As an adult I'm so incredibly thankful that I didn't suffer genital mutilation because of social pressure from people I couldn't care less about.

I'm very happy being natural.

American and uncircumcised here. Definitely don't do it. The only reason it should ever be done is a case of phimosis so bad it can't be fixed any other way.

No. Why the hell would I want the end of my dick chopped off??

Handjobs and foreplay stuff are more fun uncircumsized, like giving a dick a hoodie and pretending its a jedi.

I'm an intact American man.I have never wished I was circumcised.

I haven't ever been bullied for it. If I was, I think I'd first accusing the bully of being homosexual for taking an interest as loud as I could. Start calling him Gaylord Cockstarer in mixed company. Find out what hobbies his dad has, start doing that hobby, befriend his dad, tell him this story, see if you can get his dad to start calling him Gaylord Cockstarer.

Women who are grossed out...I've had a few hesitate to give me oral, but were willing to try. One, in her own words, wanted to wait until next time so she could "look up how to handle one of these." And she did, too. To the women who would be disgusted at my intact anatomy, I have one question: What part of your body am I allowed to demand you slice off? Kind of a monstrous thing to think about someone, isn't it? Why haven't you cut that part of your body off? If that's what she thinks of men, she can never deserve any dick.

American Penis owner here, uncircumcised. So fun and no issues.

I was circumcised at 40 for medical reasons, due to phimosis. That was a blessing after several years of issues with having normal intercourse and having little operations done that were ultimately ineffective.

Anyway, it's definitely different and I am much less sensitive. I definitely prefer being uncircumcised, just not, you know, with phimosis.

I've never wished that I was circumcised. And anyone who thinks my dick is gross doesn't sound like they'd be fun to fuck, anyway.

I sure as hell didn't get my son circumcised. Don't do it, let your son make that choice himself when he's old enough.

I am circumcised since infancy. I’m not bothered by it, but given the choice at this point in life I would not have had it done. In the past I’m not entirely sure. I did not have any boys, but I would not have had them circumcised if I had

Wtf why. I only learnt americans are circumcized from online forums, keep your retarded habits to yourself guys

What. The. Fuck.

As a circumcised male, please don't. Like countless others have said, it's a bizarre cultural practice that leads to a desensitized tip, and most of the world thinks it's fucked up. There's literally no benefits.

I'm 42 and uncircumcised, born and raised in America. My entire life the total sum of what it's amounted to from locker rooms to relationships is pretty close to "huh, ok then". I can't promise it will be the same for your son but it's been a total non-issue in my life.

My partner just asked me this the other day. Answer is nope, never had a reason to want it.

Never had a partner with a problem with it either. If someone was ever grossed out by something that's just the way I was born then they can learn to deal with it, or fuck off.

Ok, so I'm a 38 year old uncircumcised Canadian male and on this issue, I have two opinions:

1.) Circumcision for moral, traditional, covenantial, or social cohesion reasons is child genital mutilation. Full stop, no second guesses...

2.) I have a larger-ish penis with a proportionally smaller frenulum and tighter foreskin. I am not bragging about size, I wish I was smaller because, when I get very aroused it can be quite painful. The foreskin frenulum pulls right against the tip of my penis and bends it down. If I were to excuse the frenulum and loosen my foreskin, I can imagine having sex when I am very erect would feel much better. This would be great because right now it feels like I'm trying to fuck with reigns on.

I have been exploring the idea of the loosening surgery, but obviously this is my choice, for aesthetic and pain management reasons.

The child has no choice, it's abuse. I have a choice, it's a medical procedure.