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Nope

I'll trade fore some skin

I'm genuinely upset about not getting a say in the matter.

When a person gets circumcised they lose a ton of sensitivity and feeling from their dick, and it permanently degrades the quality of any sexual gratification they will have in their life.

And that's not even touching on how fucked up it is to mutilate a child's genitals for a religon that they can't even consent to.

M atheist (not cut) but if you need Christian reason then

Galatians 5:2

Mark my words! I, Paul, tell you that if you let yourselves be circumcised, Christ will be of no value to you at all.

https://biblehub.com/galatians/5-2.htm

As someone who's circumcised, I think it's a practice we should leave behind. Buddy getting bullied was more about victimization than circumcision. Likewise any future partner that has that as a deal breaker either way is a bullet dodged.

That being said, I think some people overplay the victim card on this one. I think some people use it as a scapegoat to avoid acknowledging other issues like porn addiction, intimacy issues, and sexual incompatibility within relationships.

Than there's the people who try to conflate a hospital performed medical procedure with Female Genital Mutilation from like rural Africa or India.

AFAIC if your biggest problem in life is that you're circumcised... shut the fuck up? Or complain about something more important than your own dick.

TLDR: Don't do it.

Never ever regretted being uncircumcised. In fact, I regularly feel especially grateful to my parents for not getting me circumcised. If it were socially acceptable, I'd talk to more people about it and why it's great not being circumsized. I would get me parents a "Thanks for not mutilating me as a baby" thank you cake.

Genital mutilation is a caveman practice...

I'm circ, my son is too. It was a mistake, please don't repeat my mistake.

We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice

Sounds weird AF, I mean I'm not American, I've heard about circumcision fad in US but i just didn't knew the scale. Internet says the circumcision rates are falling, so maybe it won't have such effect on your son as it had on your friend. My guess is it's easier to keep the head clean without smegma collecting under the.. hood, hence women's preference of foreskinless penises. On the other hand for us uncircumcised people it feels uncomfortable as hell to have glans uncovered, just for it to rub on the underwear etc. my guess it makes the head less sensitive in the long run. Anyway I hope the doctor won't make a mistake during the procedure

No, never. Circumcision is weird, disturbing, and imo abusive since there’s no consent to having part of your body removed.

GenX USAmerican here. I felt 'different' as a kid when we had to shower for gym class. Besides that, it's been fine. Teach your son proper hygiene and it will be okay. I have never had a negative sexual encounter about it, or been otherwise teased by women. Circumcision is so much less common here than it used to be.

Not for one second. Circumcision is barbaric. It can go wrong and often does. US is one of only a few western countries where it is common, and the only reason for that is cultural as you've said (sometimes religion/medical). It serves no other purpose.

As a gay who has experience with both, let me tell you, uncircumcised dicks are also more fun. Some cut dicks also look like they've been mutilated by a drunken psychopath with a vegetable peeler.

Not in the slightest

Just don't circumcize your kid. I am and didn't do it for my kid, and even if he has issues, it's his choice to make the body mod if it's wanted. Kids will always have some kind of issue or get made fun of for something, no reason to snip the tip of his penis off unless it's needed imo.

No. I like it this way just fine.

If society jumped off a bridge, would you also?

Nope, never. Never had a problem with women/bedroom.

No

The rates are falling in America so you son probably won't be the only kid with a foreskin. That said do remember there is a small chance of death from blood loss. No really that happens a few times a year.

British penis owner here. Cirumcision is rare in this country and as far as I know the rest of the world. I imagine most British people would find it strange, the inverse of your friend's experience. My instinct is to say don't perform an unnecessary medical procedure on your child and let them decide as an adult. You can't put a foreskin back on. But I sympathise with the cultural aspect of it you're having to contend with in the USA.

Side note: I once considered getting circumcised. I was in a BDSM relationship. My penis was consensually "hers" and she liked it after being with a Jewish guy. If it had become a long term relationship I might have done it.

I got circumcised in my twenties due to some scarring after I got a fungus or something from my partner. My feedback: do not recommend, absolutely no benefit. On the other hand besides recovery and initial sensitivity, there's no major drawbacks (besides masturbation now requiring lubricant).

I should mention that I'm from EU and there's no social factor here.

Fuck no.

Uncircumcised and have my tonsils. My mother was adamant about having every piece of her children coming home with her. I was on the swim team in high school, and no one teased me about my dick. Plenty of other things, but not that.

Uncircumcised and never really thought about getting it done.

Also I will say that I met this girl about 30 years ago that did this thing with her tongue that made me reaaallllly happy to have my foreskin. I've since shown this 'action' to every partner I've had 😁.

I'm circumcised but against it on principle,and had roughly the same concerns as you in thinking about future sons. This thread is doing a lot to assuage my concerns.

No why would I want to mutilate my dick

I have never met anyone circumcised before, nor even heard of one outside of celebrities and internet randoms like this.

So the thing about some being grossed out is purely cultural and not a universal thing. I find it odd that some would be grossed out about a thing like that, but if you choose to remain within that culture, it’s probably sensible to account for that. But I would bet it’s really not a big deal for anyone despite what they say. There are more important things going on whenever people end up in a situation where that comes up. I wouldn’t worry about that, but the again I don’t know your culture, maybe it is a big deal.

For me personally, I really like my “hood” so to say. Keeps the senses more heightened there when the delicate part does not chafe around and touch everything all the time. On top of that, I find much more hygienic to have a natural “shield” that is easy to clean and keep regulated in terms of pH and all. No doubt it would be more problematic in hot climates where there might be more sweating and stuff, that would require more intense and frequent upkeep, but here in the global North, I think it would be disadvantageous not to have the natural luxury.

Not only would I not want a circumsization, I find it actively harmful to myself and my personal health. I also find the practice extremely off-putting and horrifying, but then again all cultures come with their own “barbaric” traditions so to say, so I’m not about to yuck anyone’s yum. You do you, I say, live your best life.

It does come with some required upkeep and work, but so do our teeth. If you maintain them, they’re going to be healthy and beneficial overall. No need to cut them off in my opinion, just because it’s extra work. But that’s not the justification for the cut, so I also don’t mean to sound patronizing here. Just my view on it.

1. If you aren't Jewish, what reason do you have to do it to an infant that can't possibly wait until they're old enough to decide for themselves?

2. Would you be struggling with the same decision to surgically alter an infant's genitals if we were talking about your daughter instead of your son?

No. Very pleased to have all my bits.

Never.

Good on you for asking instead of blindly following this "tradition", I hope you heed what most people are saying here. Progress happens one personal decision at a time, you can be a part of that

No, and it's literally not once ever been mentioned between my wife and I in regards to our son. It's an absolute non-issue and it's never been something that's been mentioned with any previous partners.

The head of my knob is way too soft and pretty to ever want it's little party hat to be taken off.

It's so soft and sensitive down there, I don't want it chafing on my grunderpants all day and ruining it's good feels.